We’ve all heard the saying; ‘Who needs friends when you have enemies?’ and this week thatâ€™s ringing true with me more than ever. In the world of backstabbing and bitchiness, I often used to find myself embroiled in in a troublesome concoction of jealousy, hate and deceit and at long last, I couldn’t be more relieved to realise that I am one of the lucky few to have escaped the dreaded ‘small town mentality’, never to return EVER again.
I’ve been double crossed, backstabbed, lied to and even stolen from by people I was closest to, my very own ‘friends’, and that has hurt me so much in the past. Sometimes I blame the society they were brought up in and the people they were surrounded by – a place where no one had any morals or principles – where women thought it was okay to sleep with there friends husband as long as she didn’t find out, or the guy thinks its okay to text more than one girl at the same time. There were girls who forced their boyfriends into marriage because they thought a ring on his finger would stop him straying and blokes who thought one night stands were just part of the Friday lads night out routine.
Whilst all this was happening right in front of my eyes, was I the only one who stopped and thought, that we are all brought up to know what’s right and what’s most definitely wrong so why can’t people act like decent human beings and treat others as they wish to be treated?
After a lot of talking with my close friends, I have come to realise that they all suffer from what I like to call ‘small town mentality.’ Come on girls, everyone has said it at least once; “I hate this town, everyone knows my business.” And it’s so true; insecurities lead people like that to take an unhealthy interest in others lives and in doing so, they just can’t bear to see anyone else happy or having more than they have. People like these will live in the fish bowl that they know for the test of their existence, drowning in a life of sorrow, hate and bitterness.
So what am I getting at? Well I thing it’s important to know who is loyal to you, I often think the best quality in a person is honesty, because if someone is upfront with you, you will always know where you stand, positivity and having family and true friends around is also a good step in the right direction to contentment. Learning to accept that you can rise above these people and forgive what hurt they have caused you will allow you to get on with your life.
As the saying goes, “Small people will try to keep you small, but great people will make you become great,” and you know what? I strongly believe you are the company you keep, that’s why I surround myself with the greatest people I know!
It’s a great feeling to know you can stand high on your Cloud 9, looking down at the tadpoles that screwed you over, just swimming in their miserable little fishbowl that is – and always will be – life as they know it.
Oh, and for the recordâ€¦. I can’t hear you from up here biatches!
Untill next time… Karly x