Following on from my last blog post, I am happy to report that once again things are all well and good in the Memphis love situation, but with the way I moaned on (and on) I thought it would only be fitting to address the problems so many women have with insecurities.

It’s true that when we meet someone we care about so much it hurts, that it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that every girl in town wants to get their claws into your man, and you find yourself on the defensive and reading into things so much.

The main problem facing women today is, of course, Facebook. It’s the cause of the demise of so many relationships these days, as you see a basic interaction between your partner and someone you deem to be attractive, and you jump to the conclusion that they’ve once slept together / want to sleep together / are sleeping together right now and that’s why he’s not on Facebook chat. But of course, for the most part, we’re utterly berserk.

There’s no denying that everyone has a jealous streak, but whilst most people’s are something akin to the rind on bacon… I’m your full scale streaky bacon dedicated to making pigs in blankets crisp to perfection. As wonderful as I am, I find that I get jealous over the smallest of things and leap to a conclusion without even taking the time out to rationalise.

It doesn’t help either that men seem to find it difficult to know how to reassure us; the smallest thing like a heartfelt note, or a girlfriend-related Facebook update, or even just a phone call can immediately dispel all worries that were flying around below your ribcage.

So how can we sort it out ladies? Well, I think in the first instance we need to remember that not every man on the planet is a cheat. Okay, so it doesn’t help when OK! Magazine is full of loverats, but we can’t tar all the men with the same brush. It’s hard to accept that someone can accept you the way you are, and its even harder to leave your heart and your feelings in the hands of someone else, but could it be worth it?

Each time I feel like running for the hills over the slightest thing, I have heard a good ting to do is remember why YOU are with this person, and if you’d ever do something to ruin what you have. Theoretically, that should be all the reassurance you need, but guys… the odd kind word doesn’t go amiss either. Nor do diamonds.

Memphis.x