Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm: My First Speed Date(s) August 20, 2008

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Well, as promised here is the lowdown of my London adventure on the London eye where I dated a lust 10 guys in just over half a hour!!

 So, I shall start from the beginning, my friend and I drove down and found ourselves in a stunning hotel called Pasha, which, with its Turkish feel and exquisite decor, got me in the mood for champagne and those London city types just right!

I got showered (in the most amazing shower I’ve ever seen in my life,) pulled my glad rags on , slapped some rouge on the cheeks and I was ready to date…although getting to the London eye itself was terrifying, I really don’t recommend losing your city virginity in rush hour when everyone seems to know where they’re going and you’re wandering around like a salmon travelling up stream!

Anyway, I got there and my first problem was that I couldn’t find the room in County Hall that everyone was supposed to be meeting in so I spent 15 minutes wandering around like a total idiot in red killer heels – i thought that I looked pretty good but the fact that everyone else was in ‘tourist wear’ and trainers, i did look slightly out of place!

However, the looking good didn’t last long as I became more and more flustered at being lost in the big city, despite asking three different people for help (Bloody southerners are so unwilling to assist a young northern lady in obvious turmoil!)

But anyway, eventually I found it and I was in…I looked around for my potential suitors….no-one….yes that’s right, I was the bloody first one there, so of course I did what any girl would do, helped myself to the free champagne and Impulse body spray ( I did have to smell lush after all!) then slowly and surely the other daters started to filter in and I found myself mingling with two other single lovelies who were (luckily filled with the same nervous excitement as me)

After a hour of mingling, and far too many glasses of bubbly we were bundled onto the eye and off we went, with the girls speed dating the guys (as this is the romance revolution after all)  – two minutes to find out if this was your future husband of just another sad and lonely birdwatcher (not that I’m ruling them out just yet!)

Before I knew it I’d dated them all (forgetting to fill in my ’score sheet’ for most of them) and the experience was over before I’d had a chance to have a birds eye view of the capital city; i must say, for anyone who is going to try speed dating, having some booze can get you relaxed, however, too much and you could stop paying attention to what was happening and might end up slipping down the slope into beer-goggle terrotory) Bad times.

So after all that I did meet two hotties, despite the fact that I went in thinking that noone was going to be able to woo me and assuming they would all be total anorak’s but i was pleasantly surprised by the turnout; fair enough I was only actually attracted to two of them, but about 7 of them were actually really nice guys who I would love to keep in contact with just to find out if they ever do meet a lovely girl…they probably all fell for the girl I was sat next to, as she ticked all 10 guys as potential dates…talk about keeping your options open girl!!

So all in all, I don’t know if I have a match, as I still haven’t heard back from the Impulse, despite the fact they said we would find out by Monday, I can’t contain the excitement any longer, I just want to know if there were any pairs…and of course whether I need to go out and by a new outfit for a potential wedding… =]

Whether I managed to get a guy to fall for me or not doesn’t matter anymore, as I know that I’ve met some firm friends who I will keep in touch with for many years to come, and who I will be able to share exciting stories about our latest love conquests, or if all else fails, the latest male escorts on the scene!

Wow, that was a long one…

 With regards to meeting my dream guy on the London eye…I will let you know when I know

Ruth xx

Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm: Guess who’s going speed dating!?! August 13, 2008

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That’s right…I AM!! Woo how exciting.

I didn’t think this blog would lead me on such an exciting adventure, but yes boys and girls, my bags are packed and I’m ready to go, okay so I’m only going to London, but being a virgin (to the big city) I am excited at the prospect of Oxford Street’s topshot and perhaps bumping into some hot celebs…which could lead me to banish speed dating if I manage to bag some London rockstar…(or Giovanni Ribisi, who I’m still holding out hope for!)

 But anyway, back to the speed dating! Thanks to those folk at Impulse (and my excellent competition entry) I’m heading off to London this weekend to jump in a ‘Love Pod’ AKA; The London Eye and am ready to be whisked off my feet by 11 eligible batchelors…that’s providing the other 10 women aren’t ‘better’ than me.

I know it’s not a competition but as soon as a hot guy walks in I’m sure the spoilt only child in me will shine through as I make it my goal of the evening to bag what I want, lets just hope he has personality to go with his looks eh?

 I’ve booked myself into a swish hotel too, it looks lovely, so I’m ready to be pampered and hot to trot when it gets to 7pm on Saturday….ooh I’m like Cinderella, although I’d never be stupid enough to wear glass slippers, they wouldn’t last five minutes on my feet, and there would be glass everywhere when they shatter under the weight!

Keep your fingers crossed on Saturday for me guys, and if anyone can give me tips on what the hell to wear please please do, I don’t know what is ‘in’ amongst these London types!

 Here I go….! xxx

Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm: Speed dating time (hopefully) August 7, 2008

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Hello everyone!

Things have been a bit dry of late with the whole dating site, i have been chatting to a few people but I think after the initial gorging on the ‘fresh meet’ that was my profile, everyone has been distracted by the newbies and I’m now old news! Gutted, However, I have met two or three pretty cool people from it, however, despite me saying where i wanted ‘potential partners’ to be located, none of them are actually near my hometown.

But there may be light at the end of the tunnel…I have entered this competition to go speed dating on the London Eye! So if I get picked for this super exciting event, there may still be hope for me yet!

I found it when I was browsing for speed dating in my area (whilst I should be working) and even though London is quite a way away from me, what better place to meet a man than in the largest city in the UK….I mean come of, if there isn’t a dashing fella there, there really are none on this bare planet!!

This event is on the London eye in a ‘Love Pod’ created by the scrummy people over at Impulse, who are desperatley trying to create a ‘romance revolution’ according to their site  (which is where i found the competition)…so I filled in the application form which was relativley easy and now i have my fingers and toes crossed in the hope of meeting some hot Londoner….however I’m a bit dubious about the southern accent being a ‘Northern bird!!’

However, I have faith in impulse, as this article on FemaleFirst states; http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/celebrity_interviews/Roxanne+McKee-53733.html that romance isn’t dead, and if someone as pretty as Roxanne say’s it then it must be true…I hope she can drag her fellow Hollyoaks actor OB (Darren Jefferies) into the love pod! yummy.

 Anyway, keep your fingers crossed for me guys, if not, I think im going to have to get some rechargable batteries for my pink rabbit…and we don’t want that!

Ruth xxx

Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm: Answers to my quiz July 21, 2008

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Hi again,

Well I;ve been super busy this weekend and haven’t been on my dating site for a few days so was astonished when i logged on today to have a stack of emails, winks and views waiting for me, i have to admit, i felt a bit excited when I got online to see that so many people had taken an interest in me, I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, it really is a confidence booster when you feel like a overweight, underpaid and underestimated 9-5 worker, but this is a great way to skive for five minutes and get your ‘happy hormones’ back up to the max!

To get to the point in the title, I posted this questionnaire the other day, where i answer my own questions, then the people who look at my profile can answer them too and we can compare answers to see if we’re a match, it’s really good, but I sometimes wonder wether they just answer questions like ‘Could you go a whole day without speaking to your mum?’ with what they think women want to hear….I mean i can go a whole week without speaking to my mum, its no big deal!!

 Also, I am lost without my mobile phone, and some of these self-confessed ’21st centuray guys’ say they can live without one, I mean, Hello? Isn’t that a bit of a contradiction? I’m a 21st century woman and I have NO idea what I’d do with my time without facebook, texting and ringing people just for a chat…usually when I’m avoiding actually doing anything productive.

Anyway, I shall let you know how this questionnaire pans out, and if anyone ends up with 100% of the right answers, surely that makes him Mr Right?

 That’s all for today folks, time for a glass of wine in the last bit of sun, ah if only I had a bloke to rub me some lotion in, oh wait, I forgot, this in Britian, not Brazil.

Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm: Day three July 11, 2008

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I can’t actually believe how many men are looking at my profile and winking at me, it is a real confidence booster and you don’t even have to let them know whether you’re interested or not…those lovely admin types send you an emal every time somone looks at your page, which means if you fancy a peek at theirs, you know that the feeling of nosy-ness is definatley mutual.

 Anyway, to get down to business, I have been chatting with this one guy who seems pretty normal and actually makes me laugh, which is always a bonus, he seems genuine and not on of the sad, lonely seriel killers my friends had warned me about when I told them about my little project.

There are a few good looking ones there too, although I can’t help but think that these guys put up a REALLY flattering picture, or a picture of their mate! What’s really sad that the best of a bad bunch (lets be honest) rarely have the personality that the not-so attractive ones have.

 Maybe the less-fortunate looking ones (to try and be politically correct) are the ones I should spend my time on, as they might actually have something interesting to say.

So, I’m going to try and give people a chance based on BOTH personality and looks rather than just dismissing the ones who I don’t find that good-looking.

Watch this space! xxx

Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm: Drowning under the flurry of interest July 10, 2008

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Ah, I logged onto my email today to have upwards of 50 emails from the dating site informing me that loads of men had been looking, winking and emailing me, how exciting!

I must admit, I am not overly interested in ANY of the ones who have come up, because to be honest, none of them are my type and reading their profiles…well, either they don’t know how to express themselves or they’re just really dull…

 Maybe my friend was right? No! That’s not the attitude to take! Perseverance is key I suppose!

Ruth xx

Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm – I’ve joined a dating site July 9, 2008

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Well after my last blog, I decided to sign up to one of these online dating sites, and after answering questions about every single little thing about me (and then again about my ‘dream man’) I was good to go.

 My profile is live and I’ve already had winks, and views and a few messages, although, i have to admit there really isn’t much in the way of eye candy, AND people from all over the UK keep trying to talk to me despite the fact that I pointed out that I only wanted to meet people in my area!

Ah well, it’s only day 1 so I suppose these teething problems will be ironed out when I get a bit more used to the site and the system!

It’s quite fun though, it makes you feel good about yourself as well,

 I’ll keep you posted! xx

Dating Taboo’s – let’s break the norm July 8, 2008

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Okay, I was trying to set my friend up the other day and she was really reluctant to let me help her find a man, despite the fact that she’s always whining about being alone and having noone to snuggle up with at night (there are certain things your plastic friend just can’t give you!)

But when I came up with what I thought was the perfect solution, speed dating, she nearly ran a mile, despite the fact that you can cram as many potential partners into one night…sounds like heaven.

This led me to ponder what exactly people were frightened of when it comes to these modern dating methods such as speed dating, internet websites and so on….so I thought, ‘I’m going to test them out’ because I want to prove that there’s nothing wrong or shameful about trying to find that special someone, we don’t all live in a rom-com film, and our dream guy isn’t just going to wander across our path and sweep us up into his arms.

So we need to stop living in the past and grab our love lives with both hands and make it happpen, because the owness is just as much on the man as it is the woman these days, we need to get out there and start playing the game.

 So, that brings me to my conclusion, I am going to sample as many dating methods as i can (please feel free to suggest some) and bring to you the truth about the taboos of being on the shelf and trying to find a ladder to help you down.

 If you want to come up with some idea for things I can do then please suggest things here;

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/viewtopic.php?t=187242

 Bring it on!