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Men Are So… Much Easier When Dissected

One of the things I’ve found holds me back in the relationship world is the fact I can sometimes – maybe – be a little bit picky. I can be dating an absolute hero of a guy, a really great chap who to all intents and purposes is perfect. Except… he has that weird flick that his hair does, or he slurps spaghetti too loudly, or, I don’t know, he has a hairy back. Bleaugh.

I have decided this problem is not my fault. It’s the fault of romcoms. Prince charming is out there!! That perfect man. An angel without wings, just waiting to sweep you off your feet and into his arms…..

ALAS…

This, I hate to break it to you ladies, is rubbish. Sure, there are a few dreamboats out there. Guys that are just right for you, but still, even with your nice mishmashed man of Adam Brody’s head on Mark Wahlberg’s body with Ron Jeremy’s… well, you know what I’m getting at here, you’re still going to find some way to be disappointed.

So, I’ve taken a new stance on dating. I made a list of a few fundamental qualities I would like a guy to have and will go on a date if the gent asking meets my requirements. Of course, you can’t be too specific. If your list features ‘drives a Lamborghini and buys me flowers every day’ I’m afraid you’re setting yourself up for a fall.

MY LIST
1.    Focus and drive – Suitor must have a job and wish to better himself.
2.    Solid group of friends – Suitor must have a good group of friends he spends regular time with (I do not want to be a lonely man’s obsession.)
3.    Attentive – Suitor must be attentive, but not obsessive. (difficult line to tread I know, but there are billions of men that manage it)
4.    Honesty – This one should really go without saying, but, in this day and age, it definitely needs to made a point of.
5.    Pride in their appearance – Here comes that shallow me. But let’s admit it, a well dressed, clean date is way more of a turn-on that someone that turns up with un-brushed teeth and jeans that are too short.

Over that past few weeks or so I have been on a number of dates with guys that fitted the ‘code’. Of course, some of them lacked that chemistry, but one of them stood out. He has ticks in all the boxes above and makes me laugh uncontrollably. Yes, he does have qualities that don’t live up to my Brad Pitt standard, but I don’t seem to notice them… because he’s so spot on with the fundamental requirements.

Now ladies, I am by no means saying settle for anything. You NEED to fancy the pants off your fella! All I’m saying is, give guys a break, They’re not all bad, and just because he forgets your favourite drink sometimes it doesn’t mean he’s not Mr Right.

I’ll keep you posted with how this one goes, I’m sure you’ll all enjoy hearing how I attempt to handle this.
Your friend,
Dahlia xxx

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Men Are So… Easily Accessible

I don’t think I’m alone in thinking that I just want a guy around to tell me how beautiful I am and show a genuine interest in what I have to say. Y’know, someone who likes my stories and seems fascinated by the fact I’ve cut out carbs because cankles don’t work for me.

Normally, when we discuss our day-to-day ponderings with someone of the opposite sex, they may nod, and smile in agreement, but we all know that in their head they’re thinking; “If I kiss her she’ll finish blabbering and then we can just get down to it.”

This is why I think the chase, or being pursued, is way more rewarding than cooking steak and chips for the third time in a week because your fella ‘doesn’t like anything else’, and foot rubs..? Unless I’m receiving them, I don’t wanna know.

My decision to be single has led me to be pickier than I have been in the past when it comes to finding a man. The PERFECT way to do this is by joining a dating site. It’s fantastic. Admittedly, at first I was a complete sceptic. I figured that a dating site would be of absolutely no use to me. I was wrong.

I joined Zoosk.com a week ago and I don’t think I’ve ever felt better about myself. Firstly, I liked the fact I had access to a literal database of hot totty. When you’re in a club the guys can see you looking at them… but they can’t online. So we have the perk of their ego’s being pushed to one side.

My second thumbs up comes from the fact that all you have to do is upload one picture and write a tiny bit of blurb about yourself and you get FLOODS of eligible bachelors mailing you telling you exactly what you want to hear… ‘Girl, you’re beautiful.’ ‘Gorgeous’. ‘Let’s meet up sometime?’

Of course, I’ve decided not to mail any of them back just yet. This way I can pick and choose from a list of men who already fancy me… minimal work on my part.
I never thought I’d find myself feeling sexy in sweat pants and a hoody (a hoody with a soup stain on it), but I actually do; and there’s no pressure. Sure, these guys probably do want to sleep with you… but you hold all the cards. It’s way easier to be in control when they’re the ones chasing after you, in fact, it’s completely liberating and empowering.

Seriously ladies, I highly recommend you get involved. I’m going to be trying out a few more sites in the coming weeks so watch this space for a delightful review of which ones are worth your time, which ones have the sexiest fellas, and which ones have the most to offer a busy single woman.

Good luck in love ladies. Happy flirting.

Dahlia xXx

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