I can't get over my ex-girlfriend

[freshstart]

Wow!!! when i put in a google search for "i cant get over my ex girlfriend" i had no idea i would stumble upon this sight..so here is my story. Back in April of 2007 i subscribed to a Catholic dating website and wasnt having much luck finding anyone. One day i came acorss the profile of a girl who in my mind was one of the most beautiful and seemingly, down to earth girls i had ever seen. I messaged her not expecting to get a reply because she lived an hour and a half away from me but it turns out that she had me on her favorites list and was thrilled when i messaged her. We coresponded by email for a couple weeks and this girl was making my days complete and my heart smile with every word she wrote. She was turning out to be everything i had ever wanted in a girl and so we set up a time to finally meet. That day my heart was filled with butterflies as we had the most amazing date. Ending with a long kiss at sunset on the beach and then more kissing as the night went on. We continued to see eachother despite the kinda long distance and i couldnt believe that God had blessed me with such an amazing angel. She made the hard decision to move further away to finish school and move back in with her parents. I have never had a long distance relationship work but this girl was my entire universe and we were definitely willing to give it a shot. She too had gotten out of a bad relationship and told me she didnt think she would find any guy who would treat her as well as i did. So she moved about 5 hours away and we saw eachother twice a month. I would go up and see her then she would come down. It was hard, especially when there were times when we really needed eachother and we couldnt just get in the car and be there in a flash. Though there was distance, the relationship still continued to grow more and more each day. The absence was making our hearts grow fonder and the times we were together were utterly amazing. We didnt have sex until 4 months into the relationship due to medical problems i was having. It started taking a toll on our relationship, so much that she was ready to break up and give up. However, she realized how much she loved me and stuck by my side. I finally got through my medical condition and from there on out we had an amazing sex life. Both of our families got along great as well and i could tell that this was becoming something that i wanted for the rest of my life. So i made the decision to propose to her. I asked her parents first since i was brought up with traditional values and they couldnt have been happier. I planned an amazing proposal and she said yes. This angel that God had blessed me with would be my partner for life. All the wedding plans were going great but somewhere along the way it started to falter. Things werent the same and though everyone thought it was great, it really wasnt. In January, she had a breakdown and started becoming very distant when she lost one of her good friends to a heart attack. Understandable since i know what that is like but it seemed like the only one she didnt want around her was me. The distance continued and a few weeks later she decided she wanted to call off the wedding. She stated that she still had love for her ex that hurt her so bad and that she needed closure. I was crushed, but like the understanding guy that i am, i understood. She said she didnt want to break up with me but shortly after..thats exactly what we did. I thought my world was over but prayer and friends helped me get past it. I knew she was doing things with other guys and though it bothered me, i knew i had to move on and i had. 2 months later though we saw each other for Easter and things were great again. She had gotten the closure and wanted to start hanging out more. We started building the friendship foundation and things were even better than they were before. We went back to seeing each other twice a month and talked about getting back together in a year. We had ups and downs but all in all, we realized that when we were apart, all we really wanted was to be back together again. Its now July, and she texts me in the middle of the night saying that she realized she does want to be with me for the rest of her life. That we should think about getting married in a year and wants to have a family with me some day. I WAS ECSTATIC!!!! I had finally gotten my angel back. However, things started getting distant again because she had a lot going on in her life that was setting her back emotionally. Her and i took a little vacation and she told me that i was the guy she was meant to be with and that she couldnt wait for us to be married. We even had plans to move to Hawaii in a year after being wed. Well, now we're in August and she had a very major setback in her life. She said that she needs to experience other people because she feels that going back to me is just the easy thing to do. So recently she started seeing this guy that treats her SOOOOOO well and i'm really happy that she is happy but i'm hurting sooo sooo utterly bad inside. All i keep thinking about is them kissing, hugging, holding hands, having sex and doing all the things her and i used to enjoy doing. I cant shake these thoughts from my mind and this really hurts more than when we broke up to begin with. She says that are just dating and doesnt know if its serious but i have a feeling its going to become serious. I'm dreading the day when she tells me she loves him because i know it's selfish but i want us to be together. It hurts that she tells me still that she loves me with all her heart, but she is giving her heart now to another guy. I feel that even if i find someone else that makes me happy, it will NEVER be as good as it was with my ex fiance. This hurts!!! more than i could have ever imagined. I know it will take time and will have my good days and bad days but its only been a week and i'm already dieing over this. What makes it worse is that she STILL wants to move to Hawaii with me next year...WTF IS UP WITH THAT?. I had an hour conversation with her mom a couple days ago and her mom told me that the way my ex see's it is that she will never find anyone that is going to treat her as well as me. She thinks so low about herself that she said i only deserve all of her. Something that she is not ready to give me yet which is why she couldnt get back together with me until she does regain her entire self. She also wants me to go back to school and finish my degree which is what i'm doing soon. Its just killing me now knowing that this guy is right around the corner from her and he is now the man in her life. Any advice????

[Glenn]

Hey guys, This forum is such a reassurence, just to know that im not alone with this heartache. Basically me n my ex broke up recently and its been about a month now and im totally devasted about it, she is my first love, even tho i have had other girlfriends, i now realise that when i thought i was in love i really was not. I feel so hurt that its like a physical pain, im very proud that i have never cheated on any girl and i really have strong morals about it. To cut a long story short i found out that she was seeing someone else while with me and it killed me to find that out. Even tho it hurts im not gunna lower myself to her level. Im quite a forgiving person and i would if im honest give her a second chance and she knows that, but she simply has started to hate me and i swear i have done nothing to hurt her in anyway, iv sat for hours rattling my brains thinking of anything that i have done to hurt her and there is nothing. I had a future with her and to me she is perfect and even now i want her back, i know it sounds sad and anyone that reads this will probably just say get a life but the only way i can see to get rid of this pain is to back with her. I just cant seem to get on witmy life, iv always been proud of my body and have hit the gym alot over years its kinda been my escape, but i no longer can be bothered going and im putting on weight fast, i honestly fall asleep thinking of her and wake up thinking of her, My friend describes it as a slow death and i think he is right. this pain is somehting that i really would not wish on my worst enemy. i feel like im in a spiral of love torture that i cant get out ov. I just cant believe someone can be suddenly so cold and hurtful especially when she is the one girl i once totallt trusted and opened up to her, she is evil i know its a strong word to use but its like she changed over night, I feel so angry, upset just a lot of emotions mixed up, i feel like il never meet someone like her again. How can she get over it so easly and quickly while im left heartbroken. Thnks for listening guys, i hope you all find the girls that you all deserve. Glenn 20

[Guest]

to anybody reading this forum who wants there girl back (sorry bout the grammar, i cud never get the hang of this n ma ex always picked me up on it ). anyway, i wanted her back i knew it and i did try to get to her, but i didnt try hard enough! i didnt manage to get to her and now she's moved on!! and if i would have got to her i kno i cud have got her to chnage her mind! i'm sos tupid! i don't know how i let myself not get to her n make things rite! dont get me wrong i wanted to, and i did try, but i didnt actually ever touch her again from the day she left. and i only seen her in her car once, no physical contact, no actual speaking where i could explain things and make her see. i did get close to her work, but i didnt go in and ask for her, i didnt actually see her. so if u want her back, make sure u do get to see her!!

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[Guest 12345]

my ex girlfriend and i broke up about a month ago because i used to b an as to her...i changed and she saw that but the last 2 months of our relationship she wasnt happy...we didnt sleep together much but wen we did it wasnt very good. so she broke up with me and the night after i got drunk and slept wit a girl i had no feelings for. my ex girlfriend found out so i tried lying about it but i couldnt take it i had to tell her the truth...so she hated me for awhile then about 2 weeks later a day b4 my 18th b-day i found out she talking to one of my rly good friends. he is the class jock good at everything and good looking. i was so mad i punched a very large door and broke my hand and i ended having surgery on it haha. but i find myself almost begging for her to come back and all she tells me is that i need to move on because itll make things easier for me. ive tried moving on and its so hard i just wish i had a rebound g/f like she does wit my good friend. at 1st i hated him but then i told him i loved him no matter wat and i wasnt about to let a girl get between our friendship. of course our friendship hasnt been the same and wen i go to soccer games or baketball games they are both there together. i see her always looking at him, having the biggest smile ever. i dont remember that wen we 1st started dating but im sure it was like that. im still in love with her we dated for 1 yr and 4 months we spent everyday together we were best friends. i knew everyhting about her. wen we tlaked on the phone after we broke up i could even tell her wat i thought she was doing at the time and i knew exactly and this made her cry.. now i guess shes moved on and i havent idk wat to do...?

[Guest 33333]

My girlfriend left me 2 months ago. I didn't see it coming. We had a few conversations since but mostly she seemed angry with me and didnt really show any emotion. We had been together 18 months and she had left her marriage for me. I've struggled immensley since, I miss her so much. She hasnt really contacted me at all and although she lives close and is on instant messaging and facebook, she doesnt contact me. The reason she gave was wanting space and to breathe. Though a week before she told me how much she loved me, that she was so happy and that she had waited for me all her life. The worst thing is that she obviously feels no need to contact me, no desire. We were always so close and seemed to have found such a bond that this really has devastated me. She included me in a fun email recently and it had the name of a guy from her work on it ( it was about 'friends' and to my knowledge they were never friends). I can only guess that this was maybe the reason she left me and didnt need any contact. I'm devastated at the loss, I just keep crying. What I have learnt though is that perhaps I am sad for what I thought it was, it can't have been right or else she wouldn't have left and wouldn't leave me to deal with this on my own. She has shown that she couldn't really have loved me and surely doesn't miss me. It's hard to accept. I hope for better times ahead and some kind of release from the feelings of rejection and hurt. I hope soon I will feel better. I have deleted all contacts, it hurts so much to thnk she will never be in my life again, but it hurts more every time I look at facebook or something. Best wishes to all in finding a way to cope.

[daystrom]

Cowboy up mate. Really. It could be worse, loads worse. Nobody is shooting at you, your family has not been raped/slaughtered, etc., nobody has died.

Does it suck? You bet! Deal with it, move on. It is called life. Good luck man.

Ray

[ARGHHH!]

Wow this is crazy. This post was created 4 years ago and it's still going! I'm glad that i found it though. Made me feel a lot better about my situation. But I will share my story and continue to update it and hopefully someone will find it useful or can relate. I will try to make it short.

I met this girl a little over two years ago. She was a sophomore in high school and I was a senior. At first I had no desire in going out with this girl, but she kept putting tons of effort into getting with me. I eventually gave in thinking that it would be a short fling and maybe I'll get "lucky" (She was a really innocent kind of girl) Little did i know, I would fall in love with this girl. For the two years that we were together, we talked on the phone almost everyday. We hung out AT LEAST 3 times a week. We did break up a couple times though, but we made up which actually made a relationship stronger. Well...a couple of days ago, she wanted to break up. I was shocked because everything was going so well! It just came out of blue. She said that things weren't just as exciting anymore and that it's her senior year and she doesn't want anything holding her back.

Anyways we broke up and the past two days feel like months. My heart aches. I can't concentrate on school. I barely eating anything. I can't sleep. I find myself being very down and always thinking about her. I hope I feel better soon and i will keep whoever is reading updated

[jtippy]

Well me and my girlfriend broke up last saturday. She did it over the phone which I thought she would of been able to do it to my face. Im so confused though as she said she still loves me (but in a friend way) but then again she said she still fancies me alot and may be a chance for us to get back together in the future. Then on the sunday we met to give each other a few things back we had, anyway 30 seconds after parting she rings me and ask me if I want to come down to her house for a while and chat and have a cup of tea etcetc, one thing leads to another and we end up kissing alot and telling each other we till love each other and once again she says we'll get back together in a few months in the future. So im thinking there is some hope for us. The next day monday evening Im on the phone to her and she says she loves me but in a friend way and only fancies me a tiny bit. This completely baffles me as to what she said on the sunday. She also says she broke up with me because she didnt want a boyfriend at the moment which is fair enough but adds that she wasnt happy being with me but shes not happy without me. To add insult to injury she goes to my school and lies down the road from me. We were practicly best friends and saw each other everyday. Its now Wensday and I havnt eaten since saturday,I cant sleep,Cant concentrate at school,cant be bothered with friends,cant be bothered going out, and all I can think about is her.

Help?!?!