I want other men to screw my wife...how common is

[Guest]

Certainly it's a minefield from the off: (a) the partner who hints will be suspected of ulterior motives, (b) then the partner asked to swing may find their feelings toward the primary relationship are altered.

(a) Wouldn't that depend on the quality of their relationship?

(b) True. But this will be a change for the better. Women are not sexually monogamous, less so than men actually. Having an additional lover will render them more contented and happier. It will make them feel more sexy too: their husbands will benefit from that, and from their gratitude as well.

[Guest]

I've always fantasized about my wife going on a date and having sex with another man, then giving me all the details of the encounter when she got home.
Almost immediately after we were married I told her of my fantasy and suggested that I'd like to make it a reality. She looked absolutely shocked at my suggestion and said that she had no interest in having sex with anyone else and questioned my motives.
Almost one year later my wife asked me if I still fantasized about her being with another guy and asked if I could really handle it.
I told her absolutely!!! With that, she said that she met a really nice guy who recently started working where she works. She said that the guy (Dan) always flirts with her so she started flirting back. Well anyways, Dan eventually asked her to have drinks with him after work so she met him at the lounge across the street and had a few drinks.
That evening when Kim came back home she asked me if if I still fantasized about her being with another guy and asked if I could really handle it. She said that she really likes him and wouldn't turn him down if he wants to sleep with her!
The next day, Dan and my wife went on their first date.

We have been married for 8 years, & shortly after our daughter was born 6 years ago I began fantasising about my wife giving sex to other guys & it was such a turn on for me that it became almost my only fantasy.
I started talking to her about it during sex & it got us both really hot, & after a year or so of constant pleading & pressure, she agreed to let it happen so we contacted a guy through the net & met him at a motel & we both had sex with her & she was ok with it...even enjoyed it despite nerves.
That let the genie out of the bottle for me & it became a fixation, more accurately an obsession, to the point where it's the main focus of my sex life now. My wife has slowly come around to my way of thinking & is a willing participant & has learnt to relax (with a few drinks ) & enjoys the extra attention & orgasms she gets with other men.
I love my wife & daughter dearly, but every month or two I need her to give her body to another man/men. I have been present on every occasion except two, & I often join in, but just as often I wait until we're alone & we talk about it while we f***.
Apart from this particular diversion, we live normal lives.....work, pay bills,socialise with friends, etc. She is 29 & I am 44.
I'm not asking for moral judgements on our lifestyle, but would like to know how many other men have this same obsession & if they live it out.

[Guest]

i am looking for a man to screw my wife together in iran - tehran . he F*** her ass and me F*** her littel pussy and we tow cum in her mouth . how can i do it ?

[Guest]

...but every month or two I need her to give her body to another man/men...quote]

Incredible... how can a guy speak like that?

Your wife is not your car or your dog, you simply cannot give het body to another man; for the simple reason that you are not the owner of your wife's body.

[Torn]

Our situation is a little different. Two years ago, I started suffering from ED. I have tried all the medications, both prescription and herbal, but they do not help.
My wife and I have been married 35 years and we never had any problems in the bedroom until...we call it "my problem".
About a year ago, my wife's libido went into overdrive. I was afraid that because of "my problem" that she would be forced to go behind my back to satisfy her needs.
I started encouraging her to find someone she could have physical sex with and then come home to me for her emotional needs...which I am very good at meeting.
Well, this weekend it happened. She had sex with another man on both Friday and Saturday night. She insisted I go along, but would rather that I wait outside in our car for her...which I did.
I think I am alright with all of this, but not sure just yet.
I am eat up with guilt over her having to seek sex outside our marriage in order to satisfy her needs...and because of "my problem" cannot meet.
Any supportive advice?

[Guest]

The question is: is there a better alternative? If she's alright with this solution you did the right thing, so no need for guilt.

[willy wonka]

I am a man who likes to let my wife have sex with her it turns me on and I don't know why I am at least glad to see other men feel the same way it makes me feel less weird.

[Guest]

I have always fantasised about this and 3 weeks ago after 12 months of discussion and fantasy during sex it became a reality, my girlfriend of 7 yrs and mother of my 2 children went out with her sister, got drunk then took a friend of ours back to her mums for sex, which they did.

the next morning when she came home and told me i have never been so turned on, and we f*cked immediately. last saturday, she also pulled another lad we know in the beer garden then took him back to her mums and had very drunken sex, he came inside her twice

my advice is this, if u are certain about it, then do it, I enjoy my missus being with other men but have no wish to see it, but think about it lots, there are many different repurcussions, what if someone finds out? what if she likes them a bit too much?? what if u decide after the deed u r not comfortable with it ??

it is true that many relationships end over this, but mine isnt 1 of them, however that said, it still took me a couple of weeks to actually come to terms with it.
good luck !
James

[Torn]

Maybe that is where I am at. I kind of feel like I deserve this, with "my problem" and all. And I sorta feel like the more punishment I inflict the better I will feel.
She is actually more than fine with it. She said it was the best sex she has ever had in her whole life.
I have entertained watching her, but she seems to think I shouldn't do that. She just opens up our cell phone lines and I listen to her and her lover. (BTW...I can't get that out of my mind now. I keep hearing her cumming and him cumming and moaning and grunting and you know...the sounds of a couple having really good sex)
She is planning on meeting this guy again...she says every time he is in town...so, I suppose I will just take what I have coming and deal with it. She certainly does not want it to stop, based on what she has told me since.


Still torn.

[Bernie12]

There's absolutely no need for you to feel torn, since your condition is neither your fault nor hers. By allowing and even inciting her to look for compensation elsewhere, you have given your wife the most absolute proof of your love, and she can't be anything but grateful for that.
Someone suggested that this lifestyle would lead to broken relationships... I think this doesn't make sense, because why would a woman who with the blessing of a faithful hubby can have sex with other men, look for another relationship?

I also think your wife does the right thing by not allowing you to assist. To most people, lovemaking is a very private matter, and I can imagine that her gentleman-friend would not like the presence of another man (after all, you're a perfect stranger to him - just imagine yourself in his shoes). The cell phone however is a good idea, first of all for safety reasons, and second, because to her knowing that you're listening in will somehow enable her to think that it is you she's making love too, although physically speaking it's someone else.

[Bernie12]

Torn, may I point you to page 5 of "Just for men", where you will find a well documented article by a female sexologist, "The new marriage: female polygamy".
She says that couples are increasingly going for a relationship in which the wife can engage in extramarital sexual activity while her husband remains faithful, and she describes the advantages of this lifestyle. She also says she witnessed this lifestyle helping to save– not ruin !! – many marriages.

I think this is true. In your case if you would have wanted your wife to remain monogamous, either she would have become very frustrated and unhappy or she would have taken a lover. In the end the secrecy and lies would have destroyed your marriage.
Indeed, rather than the extramarital sex which to most women is merely an innocent physical need, the latter are detrimental factors and that is precisely why female polygamy will save marriages rather than ruin them.

My wife too has someone on the side, with my knowledge and approval. Though she acknowledged my right to have someone too, my pledge that I will remain sexually faithful to her has had a tremendous positive influence on her confidence in me and hence on our relationship and intimacy. It has been a change, yes, but one for the better.

[Hank008]

I can see nothing wrong with this as long as spouse does not mind.
(swapping does not ruin a marriage, JEALOUSY does.)
-hank[/b][/quote]

[Rhodie]

We have been married for 8 years, & shortly after our daughter was born 6 years ago I began fantasising about my wife giving sex to other guys & it was such a turn on for me that it became almost my only fantasy.
I started talking to her about it during sex & it got us both really hot, & after a year or so of constant pleading & pressure, she agreed to let it happen so we contacted a guy through the net & met him at a motel & we both had sex with her & she was ok with it...even enjoyed it despite nerves.
That let the genie out of the bottle for me & it became a fixation, more accurately an obsession, to the point where it's the main focus of my sex life now. My wife has slowly come around to my way of thinking & is a willing participant & has learnt to relax (with a few drinks ) & enjoys the extra attention & orgasms she gets with other men.
I love my wife & daughter dearly, but every month or two I need her to give her body to another man/men. I have been present on every occasion except two, & I often join in, but just as often I wait until we're alone & we talk about it while we f***.
Apart from this particular diversion, we live normal lives.....work, pay bills,socialise with friends, etc. She is 29 & I am 44.
I'm not asking for moral judgements on our lifestyle, but would like to know how many other men have this same obsession & if they live it out.

Many Many Many Men have this fantasy, you are really lucky that she has agreed to do it for you - she must really love you....

[Happily Done]

MY husband begged me for years to have sex with another man. He also had an affair with my cousin, and another one with my best friend. Instead of leaving I tried to please him. He had made up a female persona and had been communicating with a number of men as a female. The men would send him pictures and masturbate

[Meagan]

I have been very lucky with my husband and our sex life of almost 29 years.We are very open with each other.We both enjoy sex with each other very much.Maybe 4 to 6 times a year I get a guy or my old stand by friend of almost 10 years and have a great time.My old friend say Dan has even taken me with him on vacations ( great times MMMMMMMM) and husband knew of this all.Now this was good then about say 7 years ago this one man wanted my husband to s*** him to make him hard for me.In all my years I never heard or saw or even guest my hard core hubby would ever do that.In a flash he had his hand stoking the guy and sucking him better than me.I came so fast and hard I was amazed.Then after he came in me my hubby sucked him hard for me again.Now that is wild.So now he has joyed in and help me please the guys I am with then he pleases me when they go home.So women if you want something HOT!! watch your hubby s*** other men.It is so hot and wild you will wonder why more women have not done it by now.