Whats he waiting for

[Doxie]

Just wanted to find out if this happened to anyone else. My boyfriend of almost 6 years has still not proposed to me He and I talked about the future before and he even went as far as saying he wanted to propose on Christmas but christmas has come and gone, no ring. Then he said to me two weeks ago to expect a proposal this weekend, and again, no ring, no proposal, so I just brought it up again and he is acting like it is no big deal. I feel like I am being strung along and just feel so sick I don't know what to do. Has anyone had this happen to them? I don't think this is a matter of him "playing" as it is obvious how much pain I go through watching the times that he says he will do it go by. I just feel like the ultimate reject.

[Fatlisa]

He probably wants to surprise you and he can't do that when you keep asking him when he is going to propose.

I think you are just going to have to be patient and stop asking him, then maybe before you know it you will have a lovely diamond ring.

[MissJackie23]

He probably wants to surprise you and he can't do that when you keep asking him when he is going to propose.

I think you are just going to have to be patient and stop asking him, then maybe before you know it you will have a lovely diamond ring.

Pressureing him isn't the answer!

[Guest]

I agree with Fatlisa, just give him a little time
how can he propose if you`re pressing over him all the time!
I`ve been bit close to what you`ve been doing because I also wanted my 'almost-husband' to propose now and no-other-day
but I told myself to be patient
and it worked! - good luck!

[BinFL]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. He won't even discuss marriage and has told me he will ignore any mention of marriage. This really hurts me. I really feel you should be able to talk about you feelings with the one you love...especially after 8 LONG years! If marriage talk is off limits after 8 years it probably always will be....right?! When he told me he would ignore any talk or hints about marriage that made me feel like the very thought of marriage to me disgusted him. I could understand if it was something I bring up everyday, but I never talk about it cause the rejection I have felt in the past when I brought it up. And even then, I only mentioned it or threw out a hint once every 6 months... but to him it felt like everyday. I decided to just never mention it and if it was meant to be it would be, I don't want anyone to marry me because I bitched them into it. It's a long time since I have said the "M" word and still nothing. It also has nothing to do with affording a ring. He spends money like it grows on trees, infact, he is about to buy is 4th new vehicle in 3 years..not to mention his Jet Ski and array of electronic toys. He has said in the past that a wedding is such a waste of money... I'm not even interested in a fancy wedding. But to be honest I'm beginning to wonder how much longer I will be interested in him. No doubt he is the love of my life, maybe I've just not the love of his life. I don't believe it takes 8 years for anyone to figure out if the one they are with is "The One" I think he knows "I'm not" but won't tell me. All I can do is guess since he wont tell me anything. I know I can't (won't) wait much longer. 8 years is long enough to travel down a dead-end road. Time to face the facts... I'm just not good enough!!

Brandy

[Sam7]

Doxie,
I would recommend that you read our discussions on "How did you get you man to propose" - see the forum index. You're in good company! Good luck.

[Wedding planner !!!!!]

Doxie .. I think you man sound like he is playing a bit of a game with you and I think it is unfair ... !

The more a man mentions marrage/engagements ect. ect the more we get excited thinking about it, then we dont shut up about it ! so he should just be straight with you and just say ill ask when the time is right .. not tell you little white lies !

I am in a simlar position .. i can not wait to get married .. I love my BF to BITS and we get on amazingly we have been together almost 10year (since I was 16) .. before i met him I was a real wild child not wating to settle down but now I can not wait for the wedding and the babies and the rest of our lives together .. but like you I just need my man to ask the question .. we talk about it all the time and have even talked about were we are getiing married ! but just no bling yet .. I am sure the time will come when he is ready to ask so until then ill have to be patient ... that can be hard sometime but for the best as we both have to be ready to make that MASSIVE commitment to each other ... good luck with your man .. I hope the suprise comes soon for you

[sami_babez]

aww sweetie i know how you feel ive been with my partner for 6 years, im also waiting lol, i think it isnt going be very suprising for you if hes gonna tell you when hes gonna propose