To breastfeed or not to breastfeed

YummyMummyOf2

Hi Guys.... I will get straight to point.......
i breast fed my 1st child, only managed 5weeks as i ran out of milk wanted to do 8 weeks.
im 20weeks preg with 2nd child and hubby wants me to breast feed, and im not overly fussed about it... due to what happened last time, i dont want to go thru that again... I feel never got the bond with my 1st child... I have now said to hubby, if i feed for 1st couple of days so it gets best part of milk (and whilst i am in hosp) but he wants me to do more than a week... and "see how you get on"...
What should we/i do?!

foolsgold · Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 5:17 pm Post subject:

If you don't want to BF because you are worried that you won't get any better results then I would suggest contacting a LaLecheLeague represenative http://www.llli.org or talk to other mothers that you know that have breastfeed. Also try the hospital where you are going to see if they have a lactation consultant. If you are willing to try some natural remedies. http://www.nativeremedies.com/category/mom-baby-remedies-health-natural-herbal.html
Check out some of these. Look for the Nature's Milk Drops.
I would feel happy that you got to BF your first for as long as you did. I mean if you didn't get to BF him/her at all do you think you would have felt more of a bond?

If you don't want to BF for other reasons then it is your choice but try to look on the positive side. Your first child got 5 weeks of breastfeeding. He/She got the wonderful first milk that help boost his/her immune system and the good nutritional benefits of breastfeeding for 5 weeks after that. You may have wanted to nurse for longer but there are times when it isn't possible. I think the longer you breastfeed the better but also some is better then none. Smile

I hope you and your husband can come to an agreement and I wish you the best with your pregnancy.

YummyMummyOf2 · Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 1:43 pm Post subject:

Hi Guys not been ere for a while... got a lil while to my self at the mo.

We have decided that i will breast feed whilst in hospital... see how i feel, and if i want to carry on, to carry on!

foolsgold · Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 5:25 pm Post subject:

That's wonderful Fordy. I'm so glad you were able to come up with an idea that satisfied both of you. I would still suggest contacting LaLacheLeague for any tips, pointers or suggestions for you if you decide to nurse longer, it would be a huge help.

Zev · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 20 Apr 2008 Posts: 19

He has to remember though, that it's your body that goes through it, not his.

meech288 · Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 10:36 pm Post subject:

you should feed the baby as long as you can, you have already said that you feel sad about not bonding with 1st child so do the right thing for you baby and hubby and breast feed as long as you can, i had a lot of bleeding down below when i had my new born and i used to cry in pain if i had to sit still to feed her and there where many times i nearly gave up but now eight months on and im still feeding her, its wonderful, no midnight bottles ect.... good luck with the birth xxxx

YummyMummyOf2 · Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 4:09 pm Post subject:

We are going to breast feed in hospital where i will get support from the midwives, and then when i get home see how i am getting on, and go from there on... I dont feel that there is anything good or bad about breast feeding children. my daughter has had ezema and has cold after cold , and my friends son is never out of hospital due to one thing and another. We will see how i get on, and how i feel.

pontebantam · Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 1:46 pm Post subject:

I remember with our first child, new experience and whilst we all know the health benefits for the baby when BF, the reality can be very different. It was a difficult and traumatic birth, my wife had PND and never really got into the BF routine. Our second child wasn't BF at all due to dw being on AD's, now as dad I really wanted them both BF as much as possible, but then you realise that ultimately you can't make someone do it and it can destroy the bonding between the two if there is resentment, yes breast is best but there are other ways and ultimately as long as they receive nutritional foods and lots of love they'll still do well (as mine are!)

By the way - have you ever tried to 'make' a pregnant/just given birth woman do something ? That's the sort of scenario where chain mail armour and a good hospitalisation policy are needed Wink