my ex bf is being an asshole...

[rina01]

Hey..

My baby's father who i've been seeing for the passed 4 years has decided to leave me in the condition that i am in to go back to his ex gf who doesn't know that i am pregnant. he seems to think that this is all ok as he says he wasnt with her when all this was happening. but i don't believe him as he has cheated on me before with her. i am just over 5 months gone now and he obviously hasn't told her or any member of his family. he keeps trying to talk to me and demanding that i tell him whats going on, i don't want anymore contact with him as i dont want my baby being brought up in that kind of atmosphere... am i wrong to think like this??

[Guest]

Hey..

My baby's father who i've been seeing for the passed 4 years has decided to leave me in the condition that i am in to go back to his ex gf who doesn't know that i am pregnant. he seems to think that this is all ok as he says he wasnt with her when all this was happening. but i don't believe him as he has cheated on me before with her. i am just over 5 months gone now and he obviously hasn't told her or any member of his family. he keeps trying to talk to me and demanding that i tell him whats going on, i don't want anymore contact with him as i dont want my baby being brought up in that kind of atmosphere... am i wrong to think like this??

Cut him off and don't have anything to do with him. you and your children don't need to live in that atmosphere, you can move away and start again with good people around you. Screen his calls, keep your new address a secret and leave him.

[Verve]

he keeps trying to talk to me and demanding that i tell him whats going on,

You don't know how good you've got it... sorry to say it. The man actually gives a f*ck to care about your well being.... Normally they disappear off the face of the earth without a trace.

i don't want anymore contact with him as i dont want my baby being brought up in that kind of atmosphere...

You don't want your child growing up in what atmosphere... with both his parents?... Or you just don’t' want your child growing up around him because you no longer have him? Every child needs a father... Yes a woman can do it alone but why deny your child from knowing his father, if he's willing. You choose him... he's an assh*le and a scumbag but you choose him. He cheated on you and you took him back, you choose him. You choose to get pregnant without being married. Don't deny your child a father because you f*cked up. It's not fair to your child.

am i wrong to think like this??

Yes you are wrong to think like this. It's selfish... You’re no longer living for you. You’re living for your child in your womb. Every decision you make from now on will reflect around that child. If his father turns out to cause more harm than good to the child then you make that decision to cut him off. Do it legally. Don't be sour about it. You’re only harming your child and yourself. Be strong, many women have done it before you. My best wishes. Join our pregnancy forum and let us know if you need more help.

[Verve]

he keeps trying to talk to me and demanding that i tell him whats going on,

[color=blue]You don't know how good you've got it... sorry to say it. The man actually gives a f*ck to care about your well being.... Normally they disappear off the face of the earth without a trace.
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i don't want anymore contact with him as i dont want my baby being brought up in that kind of atmosphere...
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You don't want your child growing up in what atmosphere... with both his parents?... Or you just don’t want your child growing up around him because you no longer have him? Is it the stress he causes you ... what? Every child needs a father... Yes a woman can do it alone but why deny your child from knowing his father, if he's willing. You choose him... he's an assh*le and a scumbag but you choose him. He cheated on you and you took him back, you choose him. You choose to get pregnant without being married. Don't deny your child a father because you f*cked up. It's not fair to your child.
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am i wrong to think like this??

[color=blue]Yes you are wrong to think like this. It's selfish... You’re no longer living for you. You’re living for your child in your womb. Every decision you make from now on will reflect around that child. If his father turns out to cause more harm than good to the child then you make that decision to cut him off. Do it legally. Don't be sour about it. You’re only harming your child and yourself. Be strong, many women have done it before you. My best wishes. Join our pregnancy forum and let us know if you need more help. [/color]

[Guest]

Hey..

My baby's father who i've been seeing for the passed 4 years has decided to leave me in the condition that i am in to go back to his ex gf who doesn't know that i am pregnant. he seems to think that this is all ok as he says he wasnt with her when all this was happening. but i don't believe him as he has cheated on me before with her. i am just over 5 months gone now and he obviously hasn't told her or any member of his family. he keeps trying to talk to me and demanding that i tell him whats going on, i don't want anymore contact with him as i dont want my baby being brought up in that kind of atmosphere... am i wrong to think like this??

Get rid of him. Don't listen to the women who will tell you to put up with that S***. You owe him nothing. He's cheating on you has gone back to ex and you are free and should thank your lucky stars you found out before you had your baby. Remember - you owe him nothing, you're so far out of his league, a better destiny awaits with someone so much better.

[snappy120_2]

SHE owes him nothing... but the chance to be a father to HIS child.
Don't be the mother who's kid grows up to resent yu because yu kept him out of their life.
If you're worried, have someone who yu feel safe with or trust to take yur child, somewhere public to see him. Then the child can make their own decisions, never cloud their view as this will probably lead to them turning on yu and blaming yu in future.
That child can always stop seeing him when they are older... out of their own choice, don't push yur mistakes onto your children though. Don't take that away from them
x x x

[Guest]

Sorry not buying that. If the man can humliate the mother of his child like that, she owes him nothing. She has every right to walk away and leave him. He has a new girlfriend (ex) in his life, he made that choice, so he can have another baby with her. Good advice, get out fast, cut him off and live a happy life and enjoy.

[Guest]

Hey..

My baby's father who i've been seeing for the passed 4 years has decided to leave me in the condition that i am in to go back to his ex gf who doesn't know that i am pregnant. he seems to think that this is all ok as he says he wasnt with her when all this was happening. but i don't believe him as he has cheated on me before with her. i am just over 5 months gone now and he obviously hasn't told her or any member of his family. he keeps trying to talk to me and demanding that i tell him whats going on, i don't want anymore contact with him as i dont want my baby being brought up in that kind of atmosphere... am i wrong to think like this??

None of your thoughts are wrong, just have the strength to see it through

[Guest]

Furthermore I don't think any child would resent their mothers for giving them a better life and knowing the truth about what their father was really like.

[Guest]

SHE owes him nothing... but the chance to be a father to HIS child.
Don't be the mother who's kid grows up to resent yu because yu kept him out of their life.
If you're worried, have someone who yu feel safe with or trust to take yur child, somewhere public to see him. Then the child can make their own decisions, never cloud their view as this will probably lead to them turning on yu and blaming yu in future.
That child can always stop seeing him when they are older... out of their own choice, don't push yur mistakes onto your children though. Don't take that away from them
x x x

What about the mothers rights and interests? Is she supposed to stick around for him? Give up the rest of her life for some looser? Don't you just love the politically correct brigade who start dictating to vulnerable women about the fathers rights. Let's remember that he's jumped ship here not her, so it's entirely her decision

[snappy120_2]

It is not the childs fault that it has happened. They deserve to know who their father is. It is then up to them to decide whether they want him as part of their life or not.
He may have cut her off, but she made the decision to have a child with him in the first place.
I'm not saying either are in the wrong or right... but that child deserves to know it's biological mother and father
x x x

[Verve]

Rina, there comes a point in life when you have verge from being a child to an adult. You have a man who cares about the welfare of your state. He might have left but he still cares. He’s still an asshole … but he cares. Don’t be childish and use your anger to harm your child. It’s not going to be easy. People make mistakes he made a huge one. But in the end it makes no sense to be cut throat. Be better than he is for you and your child. Befriend him. As soon as the child is born have him present. Make sure he takes a paternity test. Make sure you get your child support and emotional support form him for your child. He doesn’t want you… you have to deal with it. He cheated on you and you dealt with it… deal with this. You can do it. Only a chicken head willingly turns down a man who wants to be there for his child. Given he has no other personal issues of concern. Also get ready for the ex/girlfriend to be involved because she will be. If he ever returns to your doorstep professing love slam the door in his face.

[Guest]

It's her baby. Why the F*** should she be making sure he has a paternity test, shouldn't he that, or can he not keep his dick in his pants for long enough to get the test done? If she wants to cut him out of her life and set up home with someone better, then she can, she has no attachment to the man.

Hopefully you will find a real man who can provide and do the job properly. Not some weak, drivvling little retard who can't keep his sweaty dick in his pants and his equally weak pathetic excuse of a slag girlfriend.

F*** them both and do what you like, its your body not his.

[Guest]

It is not the childs fault that it has happened. They deserve to know who their father is. It is then up to them to decide whether they want him as part of their life or not.
He may have cut her off, but she made the decision to have a child with him in the first place.
I'm not saying either are in the wrong or right... but that child deserves to know it's biological mother and father
x x x

She can do what she likes, it's her choice. He can't force her to stay, he has no rights whatsoever. He can pay maintenance if he wants but he's made his bed and has to lie in it. It's all in her hands, it's her decision what she chooses to do. If she decides to refuse any further contact, she will be respected by many for it, only weak women stay with serial abusers and that is what this man is.

[Guest]

Ewwwwww get rid of him, what an absolute waste of space