My ex

by **jessp** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 8:15 pm

To be honest I don't think you two have really been apart for a while,you don't text him so he texts you. It's easy to say but the only way forward is for the both of you to meet early one evening and face to face both of you lay your cards on the table. Suggest you meet at a pub and agree that it will only be for an hour or so.

by **Beckz1205** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 8:27 pm

what do you mean you dont think we have really been apart for a while?

by **jessp** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 8:37 pm

When I say apart for a while I mean not actually communicated with each other for say a month.As I said when you don't text him,he texts.But if the pair of you left it for a month maybe then things could cool and you could both meet up without carrying any baggage.From what you said he must care to check on you after your loss.

by **Beckz1205** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 8:39 pm

yeah i hope he does still care. I'm actually confused though right now as to whether i do just want to be 'friends' I find myself thinking about him so much, about things we did, how we got on etc i know its expected after a breakup?

by **jessp** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 8:47 pm

I know it's difficult but if you don't see or hear from each other for a while,that period apart may give you both time to appreciate what you had and get things back on track

by **Beckz1205** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 8:55 pm

but he will move on and that...oh god i sound so rediculous, but it has been months now since we split

by **Bouncy** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 9:36 pm

If he decides he wants to move on without you, there's not a lot you can do about that. Except perhaps become a psycho stalker ex girlfriend.

While I will agree that an explanation is probably due to you with this more recent break-up, it's still up to him whether or not he'll give you that. So far he hasn't. If you continue to badger him, he'll continue to ignore you I'm afraid.

You can still care very much for someone that isn't good for you. Perhaps he's decided you're not good for him. *shrug* It's his choice.

by **Beckz1205** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 11:07 pm

i wont be becoming no stalker ex gf type. And i he might think im no good for him or something but why does he contact me sometimes? its like he picks and chooses when he wants to talk to me messing with my feelings!

by **Bouncy** on Tue Jul 22, 2008 11:13 pm

Beckz1205 wrote:i wont be becoming no stalker ex gf type. And i he might think im no good for him or something but why does he contact me sometimes? its like he picks and chooses when he wants to talk to me messing with my feelings!

Then don't let him mess with you. Ignore his messages and tell him to stop.

by **Cambridge** on Wed Jul 23, 2008 2:04 am

Bouncy wrote:
Beckz1205 wrote:i wont be becoming no stalker ex gf type. And i he might think im no good for him or something but why does he contact me sometimes? its like he picks and chooses when he wants to talk to me messing with my feelings!

Then don't let him mess with you. Ignore his messages and tell him to stop.

POW!! **Batgirl looks around and dusts off her cloak** Great entrance, Bouncy.

Short, sweet and to the point. :clap:

Beckz, remember the three “Ps” of conduct: it’s always personal, present and positive. “Personal” means you cannot determine anything for another. The choice is always personal. You’ve written your letter…in effect, you’ve defined yourself. That’s all you can ever do. Let it come to you…if it will.

by **Verve** on Wed Jul 23, 2008 5:56 am

Beckz1205 wrote:I did write to him in an email saying pretty much everything i felt i needed to say, i tried to put into words how i felt the best I could. I left him alone for a while like he asked, as partly because i needed time to try sort my head out too. But he txt my old phone number asking how i was and when i asked him why he had text me he denied it. and on another occasion recently when a friend of mine had passed away and i was upset etc he offered to come see me. is he just trying to mess with my head or something?

Oh dear... I've read other's reply and they’re all helpful. Maybe a face to face is needed. No machines... If you state your issues and request if we're gong to be friends lets be friends. If you’re going to play games I cannot be bothered. You can attempt one last time ... if nothing... Its just time to let go

. As far as your friend passing he genuinely did feel sad for you and that was kind of him… it meant nothing more.

by **Beckz1205** on Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:03 pm

I have asked him a few times to go out and have a chat about things but he just gives stupid answers like dunno all the time...

by **Verve** on Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:24 pm

Well then, do as bouncy said ... it's time.

by **Babykitten** on Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:38 pm

Beckz1205 wrote:I did write to him in an email saying pretty much everything i felt i needed to say, i tried to put into words how i felt the best I could. I left him alone for a while like he asked, as partly because i needed time to try sort my head out too. But he txt my old phone number asking how i was and when i asked him why he had text me he denied it. and on another occasion recently when a friend of mine had passed away and i was upset etc he offered to come see me. is he just trying to mess with my head or something?

Sometimes it's healthier to find new relationships and leave broken ones behind.

by **Beckz1205** on Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:41 pm

easier said than done

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