My ex

[Babykitten]

easier said than done

I do understand, but I moved on and found someone so much better

[Beckz1205]

at the moment i have it in my head that there is no one better...

[Babykitten]

at the moment i have it in my head that there is no one better...

But there is, there are so much more exciting things happening in the world, new opportunities and new people to meet.

[Beckz1205]

i dont even kno if im in the right state of mind to put myself out there again. its just so much hard work.

[Babykitten]

i dont even kno if im in the right state of mind to put myself out there again. its just so much hard work.

Take a break from him. Pamper yourself, take some me time and forget about it all. Weigh up your options and what you want to do with the rest of your life. I certainly would be doing that

[Beckz1205]

i have tried so much, i thought i was gettin along fine, i threw myself into work to help take my mind off things, i go out with friends at weekends etc but recently all these thoughts and feelings about him have just come flooding back..

[Babykitten]

ok, so I split with ex boyfriend a few months ago, and was totally devastated because i was in love with him (still am!) and I sort of lost it a bit and wrecked any chance of us having a friendship. I have recently been trying my hardest to rectify things between us. I do love him so much still and miss him and want him back but I would settle for us being friends because I want him to be part of my life. it kills me us not speaking. we used to get along really well and enjoyed each others company etc. He recently had a serious accident and i sent him a get well card and he seemed to appreciate it. but then things have gone down hill again, and he just ignores me all the time when i txt him. I dont know what I can do? I'm not very good with explaining how I am feeling and it usually makes things worse when I try. I just wanted some help on the situation. please. xx

If he doesn't have the decency to respond to your texts, is he really worth bothering with? There are some really nice men out there who would respond to your texts and who would look forward to hearing from you. Grab one of those while you are still young

[Beckz1205]

I wish it was that simple for me, I am quite a shy person and it take a while for me to become comfortable with a person and alot of the time guys get bored and sack me off...

[Babykitten]

I wish it was that simple for me, I am quite a shy person and it take a while for me to become comfortable with a person and alot of the time guys get bored and sack me off...

Then don't date any, spend time doing what you want for a change and not what someone else wants. Get some hobbies and do something sporadic

[Beckz1205]

i hate being on my own lol, im hopin spending time with my siblings during the holidays wil help but im not sure

[Cambridge]

easier said than done

Yea, but perhaps you don't have the choice. Harsh words, I know, but it's just a reality check. You've got to get used to the idea that there are two minds here, and both of them are not going to go the way you want them to. Personal, present and positive. Ha!

[Bouncy]

easier said than done

Anybody who says "life is easy" hasn't really lived. Life was never meant to be easy, but it's meant to be experienced and enjoyed. If you're not enjoying getting mixed messages, put a stop to it and ignore them.

Is it possible you're reading too much into his calls though? You mentioned he contacted you when a friend of yours died. That's a typical reaction for a friend to do. It means he cares about you well being and is sorry that you're obviously upset about it. But that doesn't mean he cares in the way that he wants to get back together again. Just that he cares enough not to wish you any ill will.

Doing what's best for yourself isn't always what's easiest.

[jessp]

You've really got to take the advice of everyone here. Take a complete break from him, no communication till say end of august, then text him just a simple- how you doing- If he replies positively then you two could start to talk,but if his reply is either short or not at all then move on.

[Beckz1205]

maybe i was reading too much into it, i was just thinking that he cant possibly just switch off all feelings over night. he did contact me before the friend had died when i dint speak to him for a few weeks, then denied he had txt me. i just need to put my energy into something more positive.

[jessp]

I'm sure I speak for everyone else,we're all here behind you. I'm certain if you have a bad day so to speak,someone will try to lift you.Good luck