marmaladesky wrote:. wrote:Maybe that is why Jane and Bill have been there so long. Because she cracked while they were there and they're helping out while she's tied to a bed in some sanitarium.
My heart breaks for Jon. My 74 year-old-father is dealing with the same thing from my youngest brother. He just married a witch and a narcassist and the first thing she did was convince my brother that his family was bad for him. He's so desperate to keep her, he made up sh!t in his head, dicated by her and now not talking to either of my parents nor his 5 bros. and sisters. It is really a bad situation but I've cried for my father because he is the one most being blamed and for what? We really don't know. It is all convoluded but they went to my brother's little girls ball game and my father and mother saw them. My father was just numb. My mother went over to force them to speak. She stood there and he was talking to someone and his fat wife just sat there he turned and saw here but would NOT even speakr. Finally the gentleman he was talking to was like "um someone is wanting to talk to you" and he finally gave her a grunt His fat wife sat there the whole time and just stared at her. He did not acknowledge my father's birthday OR fathersday this year. It is tearing him apart and my dad is a strong man. It's awful to watch. He and I were extremely close and he won't even call me or answer e-mails or his phone. Fortunately we've forged a relationship with his first wife and we get to see his kids when they are with her. Otherwise, we would not. They were forbidden to spend the night at my sisters. It's just NUTS. Bottom line....JON I FEEL YOUR PAIN.
That's very sad about your brother. I wonder what makes a person do that, manipulate someone into breaking all ties with anyone else that had any significance in his life. What does she gain from this?
As it turns out, she is NOT what she professes herself to be. True narcassists DO sequester their partner and I caught on real quick. True narcassists also know IMMEDIATELY when someone has their number. My family is VERY close and she knew within a month that we were all skeptical of her. It's a long involved storywith many, many details of her lies. He met her through my other sis-in-law who went to school with her. Has kept up but hasn't seen her in over 10-15 years. Just converses by phone. She lived in another state. my brother started conversing with her via phone for about 2 months, flew to her state once to meet her. Came home, continued conversing, she came here ONCE and BOOM they were engaged. My brother has two kids one a little boy who was his little sidekick. Now he has even alienated him because he's shy by nature and won't talk to her much. (The kid only met her ONCE and suddenly she was his mother) Anyway she is pitching a b!tch about that so now he is made to stay in after school and had to go to summer camp when her kid and his daughter got to stay home. This is his "punishmen" because his wife said until he starts talking to her, she won't have anything to do with him or take him anywhere. The poor little guy was only 7 when he met her. We cannot believe my brother is going along with this but he is and he used to be the BEST father and husband. We tried to talk to him about marrying her way too soon, but his first wife hurt him badly and he was desperate I guess. Anyway, it's cause a huge uproar in the family because my other sis-in-law believes her lies since thjey are friends and was trying to tell the rest of the family we weren't being welcoming. This has caused an even BIGGER mess. Like I said it's just a huge mess and we are all ANGRY but my father is hurt the most. When I heard Jon choked up I just sympathised so much.