what should i do?bf is acting weird!help!

[moonlit_mauve]

my relationship in going bad...my bf wont even talk to me,he 's acting weird and told me not to call him up and when i told him,im lonely without him,he told me,he likes long walks alone and he doesnt have any1 to talk to either so i should also learn to live without talking to anybody ,him included!
he's acting weird saying im ugly..i spoke to a couple of friends and every1 disagrees...ppl tell me i look good,mayb not drop dead gorgeous but good...my bf is skinny, and gals treat him like he doesnt exist..so is he taking the anger out on me by claiming that im ugly??...my friend told me she saw me the other day and that i looked pretty,when i told her my prob,she told me,im too pretty for my bf and wonders y he says such awful thinsg to me...alot of ppl told me i look good for him..ive been goin out with this guy for 4 years and every now and then he claims im ugly and then somehow i call him up try my best to make the relationship work.. do u think i need to give my bf some time?
..another guy friend told me, that my bf is insane and ppl donno wat im doing with a guy who looks and behaves the way he does,my bf has got headweight.he's richer than i but he isnt super rich...
thing is he has very few friends...alot of ppl call him pysco..but i loved him anyway coz he's VERY CARING ...but at times ,he goes crazy...says he wants excitement in life,wants a model/celeb...and claims im ugly...sometimes i think he is insecure and just wants to be alone...it doesnt make sense...he works 9-7pm so i understand life could be monotonous and he needs some fun,something relaxing...and when he says he wants a good looking gal instead of me,it hurts...
can anyone help? i'd be grateful...thanks!

[fan]

dont let him put you down like that leave him to find himself a supermodel/celebrity and see how far he gets seems to me he has insecurity issues about his own self esteem so is taking them out on you........total loser leave him and move on you deserve much more than his cruel comments

[Pia]

I second that. Stop calling him and just move on. You deserve better.

[ababe]

It does sound like you bf is taking out his issues on you and you are letting him, when he treats you badly you have been calling him and try to be extra nice, so when he's feeling bad he does the same thing again to get you to react and make him feel better.

Leave him alone when he is like this, and let him know it's you that is upset and he is the one that needs to be nice to you.

You don't need this abuse so if things don't pick up then leave him, he is not your responsibility.

[brunettewink]

from him - easier said than done, I know (you saw my post!)

but he's not kind to you; and at the end of the day - and I had eight years in an unkind marriage, kindness is what matters most.

And by being so horrible to you now, he is betraying you and your love for him.

So give yourself some time off to have some fun, to enjoy your friends' company and to be happy.....life is too short to worry about supermodels (and they're all on drugs and oh yes, probably even more insecure than him!)

[moonlit_mauve]

to brunettewink,ababe,pia and fan....
thank u so much for replying back...i feel alot better now after reading these posts....thanks
yes ur rite...anyways i havent spoken to him for a start and i think its time HE realised that he's the one who is mean...
Thanks
-Moonlit

[darik]

I would suggest give him an indifferent attitude for a month or so. Men do become overly confident and seem to always see things their way. Our way is right. But after a while when you lose someone, things start coming back and frustation reeks in when you start to miss the one who was so much around you and cared well. This is especially for one with fewer friends since a little attention gets them rolling high in the air.

I would suggest indifference for a while and see if his attitude changes. I suspect initially he would also take that attitude as if he doesnt care. Later when loneliness would strike, he will remember people like you among his other friends but mostly you.

[moonlit_mauve]

Darik,thanks for ur reply.... yes im gonna act indifferent
but i dont understand my bf,he told em he enjoys long walks alone..we all do at some point but that doesnt mean that he shd break up wit me!
also he gets so excited when he sees a "better looking gal" ,he behaves so desperately which anoys me..i still havent gotten over him..but i dont feel as insecure n im "surprised" i havent cried...
i go to the gym,went 4 a movie today alone ,shopped...alone!
wish i had more friends but every1 seems2 b busy.
as 4 my bf, he spunded possesive abt me a few days back when he saw this guy take a pic of me on his cell phone..my bf had an agry face n wen i asked him y,he said tat a guy next table took my pic n he was thinking of goin 2 the guy n askin him 2 show his cell phone,,, he had his hand around my back,not huggin me but it was protective n possesive...
n he was gawkin at some gal ,who was thinner with no acne marks(i got 'em)after this incident a few minutes later
doesnt make sense to me
ive decided to let go for a while n i just hope he realises that looks arent everything in this world! i hope n pray i get to see that day
Darik,thanks for ur post,its meaningful n makes me understand that he would miss me atleast,if not now ,a little later atleast
-moonlit