. wrote:[You're right about that. Someone mentioned that old ladies don't have anyone to love them. That's what a lover is for. Having kids so you can make sure someone keeps you happy in old age is the wrong reason to have children. Also a parent is looking at least an 18yr committment of raising a child. Not only do you need the right amount of money, you have to provide a shelter, love, and enough morals to make that a child a decent human being. A person's whole life changes when having a kid and excuse me, but some people rather not oblige themselves to this kind of arduous labor.] quote
Can see where you're coming from. Its just that I've seen plenty of cases where the aged have either lost their partner or their lover ran off. You see these ppl so unhappy in elderly homes and in hospitals. Having a child just for some comfort in old-age obviously is'nt a good enough case. But its something that most ppl just feel naturally inclined to do at some point in their life. Bringing them up takes patience and a whole lot more, but I guess this arduos labor does'nt set back those who want this certain kind of change. Its a matter of choice.
I've seen plenty of cases where the aged have either lost their partner or their lover ran off. You see these people so unhappy in elderly homes and in hospitals.
And their kids NEVER visit them.
I DO speak from experience. We had to put my mother into a nursing home for the last six months of her life. For various reasons, my other relatives and I chose a hospital 225 miles from where I live. I got a laptop and worked on the road, gave up my "fun weekends", and spent a good two days a week visiting her. Every week, unless I was sick. My fiance usually came too. I only wish I could've been there every damned day.
Soon, I found that I was one of the precious few who even bothered. I became a "surrogate guest" for my Mom's sweet roommate Esther and always greeted the other ladies and gents. The staff was stunned by me--and by my cousins too I might mention, who also came frequently.
I was shocked that folks who lived a ten minute drive away never hardly ever came to visit THEIR OWN DAMNED PARENTS. But I did already know about that sort of thing. My dad was an LVN for some years when I was little, working exclusively in nursing homes. It embittered him greatly and he made me promise fifty million times not to ever put him in "one of those places." You can imagine how much I hated doing that to my mother, but I was not her legal guardian/executor so I made the best of it.
Anyway...sorry...back to the point. Having kids is NO guarantee there'll be anyone to love you, take care of you, etc., when you are old. Sure, it helps. And I know many people are very loyal and attentive to their parents and grandparents. (Probably a high percentage of those are the ones whose parents raised them right, with tons of love, respect, kindness and good discipline/structure...)
But just remember. No guarantees, folks. MAKE FRIENDS. Not just love relationships. FRIENDS!!! Networks of loving, supportive friends. Hey, your kids can all play together too!
(why did I ever have kids)
