Babysitter giving bath

[Kalith]

I think you have probably nannied your boy far too much? At 12 years old Im damned if I would let a girl just a couple of years older bathe me !

Jeesh apart from manners and ways to behave I was taught at an early age how to wash meself properly. Wash behind the ears, uses a cap full of shampooo on my hair and rinse it well. Wash my bits and ball sack and make sure I rinse and dry.

I really cant believe a boy of 12 needs supervision to wash himself??? In fact If this is really an honest thread then I wonder what else is wrong. Do you drive him everywhere?, can he read a bus time table?, can he fasten a tie?, does he know how to make toast?, has he ever washed the pots? Would he even know how to clean his shoes ?

There are so many parents that have molly coddled their kids so much that they are tottaly incapable of performing the most simple of basic duties and that includes personal hygene.

Tell him to bath or shower and remind him to wash his hair and use soap on his skin. If he doesent wash properly and goes to school and stinks then trust me his classmates will soon let him know.

12 year old needing a baby sitter to wash him properly -- What has parenting come too - get a freaking grip mum

TY Aussie, thought i was going crazy here. It is true, i babysit for kids and i know they don't clean properally but that is not my job. Parents can deal with the lack of harshness, seems you are either self disciplined now adays or not at all.

[Guest]

I feel sorry for the boy you are raising. To put some background, i am a high ranking student [particulary in math] and am a football player. I am 16 and couldn't be happier, but of course i have my evil sides...particulary i am a clean freak, i have actually gone over to my Gf's house and cleaned her room cause it was so untidy.

But i became this way through independance, do see that word? Independance, at 16 that young man [yes young man] should be learning to do everything on his own. The fact he is so open doesn't suprise me by the way you treat him. He is a product of his upbringing, and the fact he want's you to see him naked also concerns me, i am all for embracing your parent's and family but there is a fine line.

Is there a single thread in which you have posted where you didn't at some point go on about how great and happy you are?

[bathing mom]

whether you agree or not, Kalith, i have visited a lot of rural arease in central part of India. and i have seen children being bathed by the parents. and that too at the late teens like 14 - 16. some of them completely nude and some partially.
one thing is a fact. those people are not well educated . but not that uncivilied. we can notice a kind of innocense on those boys. no other problem. but only innocense. pls dont descibe it in any other sense. i think let us leave from this subject. anyhow, nice talking.

[AussieAdam]

Helloooooo What part of India do you think you are in??? India is a different culture - Especially in remote areas.

The culture we live in its a bit different ok......I would still grab give the boy some soap, a towel and show him what hot water does. I would if need be show him the back of his ears and point to his bits and then tell him to give himself a damn good bath or shower

[neha123]

hi its fine and ok to bathe a 12 year old boy may be he is abnormal slow leaner and about erriction he is not getting because he might be haveing some problem it s ok i am a baby sitter i bathe 13 year old he is slow learn they need a human their brain is not that fast he gets errection he sleeps naked with me he is not a normal child so be with them understanding them is gr8 fun

[Daisy Boo]

well, I have been babysitting since I was 9 years old and I was shown how to properly bath a boy then by his mum and there are lots secret places to wash him, and thats OK when he is 4 or 5 but if he 12, I don't know if I could do that. I am 14 now and know what boys needs washing, and I would do it to 12 years old boy if his mum told me to.

[Kalith]

Id like to know where the above poster is from. I know in most countries i can think of that is illegal [at nine?!?!?!?]

And it is the whole fact the child should be able to do it himself at age 8. It shouldn't have to come down to the whole fact oh he's 11 time for a bath.

I mean daisy poo when you were 11 i was heavy into babysitting, i was would you a 14 year old boy washing you? If not then why is it fair for you to do it to boys? Did the boy grant his consent? Did he say it was ok for you to see him and clean him? Cause no offence at that age i would just kicked and trashed till you gave up.

[Daisy Boo]

I dont understand what you mean. You are being horrible to me. I just put a mesage here because I thought it might help. This is the first time i hve seen this site. I said it was mostly much younger boys that could be bathed by a babysitter not 12 years old. I was shown by a boys mum so she must have thought it was OK. I think I do it well because I was shown properly and some of the other boys I bath dont even know how to wash themseves properly and I have to show them boy hygiene so I now more than their mothers do. Most of the boys dont mind at all when I bath them.

[Guest]

Id like to know where the above poster is from. I know in most countries i can think of that is illegal [at nine?!?!?!?]

Name the countries where it's illegal for a 14 year-old to wash a 12 year-old or even a 9 year-old, and specify the laws in those countries.

I bet you can't name a single country.

You talk a lot of bullshit for someone your age, canuck boy.

[animallover15]

He wasn't referring to bathing, he was referring to babysitting being illegal at 9

[Guest]

He wasn't referring to bathing, he was referring to babysitting being illegal at 9

he was referring to a 14 year old bathing a 9 year old or a 12 year old as being illegal....read his posts in context.....and bathing is the topic of this thread...meeskite

[animallover15]

Meeskite??

[Kalith]

well, I have been babysitting since I was 9 years old

That is what i was referring too.

But of course i am the idiot here for reading out of context.

Further more the point to a discussion is to TALK, that is what i am doing.

To Daisy Poo i didn't mean to come of strong, I just feel strongly agaist anyone bathing someone under their charge if they themselves are a minor [as you have clearly stated you are]. And if they said They wanted you to then fine. I have no grounds to push this. But keep in mind the parents should be enforcing a child to bathe themselves at that age.

I mean comeon am i the only one here who sees the insanity? If a boys generally have trouble with hygiene, then you pamper them by bathing them yourselves? It is like encouraging them to depend on you. And then to top it off, you don't even restrain when there is a sitter there?

[Guest]

well, I have been babysitting since I was 9 years old

That is what i was referring too.

If that's what you were referring to when you said "in most countries i can think of that is illegal," kindly name the countries you can "think of" where it is illegal and cite the specific laws making it illegal . . . or admit you just made it up and threw it out there hoping it would stick without anyone challenging you to prove your statement.

[Kalith]

well, I have been babysitting since I was 9 years old

That is what i was referring too.

If that's what you were referring to when you said "in most countries i can think of that is illegal," kindly name the countries you can "think of" where it is illegal and cite the specific laws making it illegal . . . or admit you just made it up and threw it out there hoping it would stick without anyone challenging you to prove your statement.

How about you prove me wrong. In my own country it is illegal for any child to be left unattended for an extended period of time. The age limits for this is 12. So if a child cannot be left by him/herself then it would violate this law to babysit, as the definition of babysitting is to be responsable for a child.

I don't care if people try and challenge me dude. By a couple countries, i know of only one...my own. If you wish proof get it yourself, i am tired of people saying prove it, then when i play that card they say you can't prove me otherwise.