Babysitter giving bath

[Michelle R.]

I think that is an excellent way to describe the feeling you have the first couple of times doing it - excited, but not in a sexual way or anything, but it's still something new that you've been curious about. I'd say this sounds very much like how I felt when I first started doing this.

I'm now 43 and the mother of a girl 19 and a boy 16. But when I was 13 I started babysitting. I babysat till I was 18 and went away to college. Boy does this discussion bring back memories. The second family I sat for (when I was 13) had a boy, 8. The second time I sat for this particular boy, the parents were running late, so the mother asked me if I would please give her son a bath since she didn't have the time. I said sure. Outside I appeared calm. But inside I was shaking like a leaf. I had never seen a naked boy up close before and certainly never touched one. I was both nervous and excited at the same time. Soon after the parents left, I ran his bath. Then the moment of truth came. I told him his bath was ready and he calmly went into his room and got undressed and then met me in the bathroom. He wasn't embarrassed at all. I looked at "it" and didn't realize that "it" would be so small. It was quite cute actually. He got into the tub and I let him soak for a minute or two. I took deep breath, picked up the soap and started washing his back. Then (in this order) his face, neck, chest and belly. Then even before I could tell him to, he stood up. He told me that his mother always washed the rest of him while he was standing. That made sense. I washed his legs as far up as I could go without touching his balls. By this time I wasn't quite as nervous as I was before. His penis seemed to get half erect and then go down again several times. Again I took a deep breath, soaped up my hands and then washed "those" parts. I hope you don't yell at me when I say that I was very excited (but not turned on) at doing this. Remember I had never touched one before and this was all new to me. He got a full erection at this point and I was just so fascinated seeing this happen. He didn't seem embarrassed by this at all. It stayed this way till after he got out of the tub and I dried him off. After that time there were occasional times when I would bathe him and of course there would be other boys that I would bathe in the years following. But that first one and one other boy I will remember vividly the baths I gave them. BTW, I bathed my own son everyday till he was 8 and after that about twice a week till he was 11 just to make sure he was really clean.

[Jon K.]

Tracy - I can relate to that. My babysitter just stayed in the room with me but I bathed myself. One time when I was injured and she had to wash me. I had always been ok having her see me naked, but I found this more embarrassing when she had to wash my privates. I remember getting a very strong erection on these occasions. I did get them at other times, but this was more intense.

At the same time, if my babysitter had been involved back when someone had to help me wash on a regular basis, I don't think I would have been more embarrassed about being washed in those areas than being bathed on the whole. Once you are seen naked by someone, the rest doesn't matter quite as much. So I think that if a boy happened to be bathed (instead of supervised) until an age older than me that he may not be more embarrassed about having those parts washed as well. I guess at a certain age that's unique to each person they will decide first that they'd rather take responsibility for that area, and then later responsibility for the whole job. Depending on how fast they mature.

My understanding is that uncircumcised boys' foreskins retract at different ages and that you should never force back the foreskin farther than it goes naturally. Most of the boys I've babysat have been circumcised, and I think most of the others have been able to retract the foreskin, but not all to the same extent. And I remember one mother warning me that her son's foreskin wasn't retracting yet so I should make sure not to try. At times when I have tried to teach uncircumcised boys to wash themselves I've always told them to try to pull it back as far as they felt comfortable doing so.

I´m the guest who was describing my experience helping my brother bath.
I´m curious how you deal with washing the boys that you babysit more intimate parts. As I´ve already said me or my mother used to wash my brother until he was nine. After that, until he was 12, we just checked that he was washing himself carefully, helping him sometimes wash his back if he had dificulty doing so. So after nine he washed his more intimate parts himself.
When the boy is very young it wil not be awkward for either him or the babysitter for her to wash his penis and inside his buttocks. But if the boy is older it may become awkward for the babysitter to do that. The boy may not be embarrassed to be bathed by the babysitter but he may be embarrassed to have his penis, his buttocks or his Anal region washed by her. It may be embarrassing for her to do that to an older boy, too.
Do you tell boys older than 8 or 9 to wash those areas themselves and only wash their less intimate areas or do you wash those areas yourself?
Although a 9 or 10 year old may not be careful washing himself and need asistance bathing he may be capable of washing his private parts if told to do so.

[Former babysitter]

Michelle,
It's nice to see another woman who can relate to my experiences. Were you as fascinated seeing a penis become erect as I was? After all these years I can still remember. Of course it wasn't very big, but I do remember how it pointed almost straight up. It felt as if there was a steel rod inside. For a 13 year old girl who never saw this before I was just like, "So this is what it looks like." I couldn't wait to tell my best friend all about this. She had a million questions. Come to think about it, I'm still fascinated watching a penis become erect, lol.
When I was still bathing my own son, my daughter would often come in to chat and stay and watch. I think she was just as curious and fascinated as I was.

[Michelle R.]

I think the first time I was kind of in shock. I knew the birds and the bees and all but I didn't really know how it worked. I also was expecting something larger (not realistic for the child's age obviously), so I also thought it was very cute. It took a fair bit of self control to take the mature route and just get on with the bath, and not begin examining the poor boy. But when I washed it I was very interested indeed.

I'm curious how much older your daughter was than your son. Did she babysit him sometimes, or were you just letting her learn something about the male body? Did your son object?

Michelle,
It's nice to see another woman who can relate to my experiences. Were you as fascinated seeing a penis become erect as I was? After all these years I can still remember. Of course it wasn't very big, but I do remember how it pointed almost straight up. It felt as if there was a steel rod inside. For a 13 year old girl who never saw this before I was just like, "So this is what it looks like." I couldn't wait to tell my best friend all about this. She had a million questions. Come to think about it, I'm still fascinated watching a penis become erect, lol.
When I was still bathing my own son, my daughter would often come in to chat and stay and watch. I think she was just as curious and fascinated as I was.

[Former babysitter]

Michelle,
My daughter is 3 years older than my son. Yes, she babysat for my son often. And yes she did give him baths. It was everything. She learned about boys' bodies, she was learning how to be a mother and of course lastly it let me go out. My son didn't object to his sister sitting and bathing him. My daughter did have questions for me though as you can imagine.
I too, had to take teh mature route when washing a boy who ahd an erection. As you said, I didn't want to embarrass the poor boy. You said you were very interested when you washed the boy's penis. In what way were you interested? Did you tell your friends about it? How old were you?
I haven't thought about these things in years. How old was the oldest boy you ever bathed?

[Michelle R.]

I see. I was just curious if it was a normal older sister situation. I have heard of families where there is a double standard and girls are allowed to see boys but not vice versa, not just because of differences in age. But your daughter sounds like she acted in a role like me.

I think the first time I babysat a boy who I had to give a bath was when I was around 13. But it was a younger boy and I don't think he got even a little stiff. So I was able to get over the nervousness of seeing a boy naked first. I think I was almost 14 before I had my first experience with a boy's erection. I think I was interested in how it looked and also how hard it was. I didn't openly discussing things I saw while babysitting with all my friends, just one close friend who I trusted to keep things between us.

The oldest boy I've ever bathed was 13, which wasn't too long ago. I have babysat him and his younger sister for a while. I had actually stopped bathing him around a year ago, although I would still pop my head in the room when he was taking his shower. But he hurt his hands and his parents had to go away for a long weekend so I babysat and had to help him take a bath. He has started puberty. I'd say he is still on the small size for his age but clearly isn't a little boy. He has some pubic hair, but not much elsewhere. He wasn't super embarrassed, as he knows I had seen him naked not so long ago, but he had developed a bit so there was definitely some embarrassment. And he was extremely erect the whole time, and possibly a bit wet. That I have never experienced before. Because of his embarrassment I just tried not to draw attention to it and just be as efficient as possible.

Michelle,
My daughter is 3 years older than my son. Yes, she babysat for my son often. And yes she did give him baths. It was everything. She learned about boys' bodies, she was learning how to be a mother and of course lastly it let me go out. My son didn't object to his sister sitting and bathing him. My daughter did have questions for me though as you can imagine.
I too, had to take teh mature route when washing a boy who ahd an erection. As you said, I didn't want to embarrass the poor boy. You said you were very interested when you washed the boy's penis. In what way were you interested? Did you tell your friends about it? How old were you?
I haven't thought about these things in years. How old was the oldest boy you ever bathed?

[david.band]

BTW, I bathed my own son everyday till he was 8 and after that about twice a week till he was 11 just to make sure he was really clean.

Hi Former Babysitter,

I still think I would have felt uneasy about a babysitter bathing me but with Mum it was fine while still at primary school age so I presume your son had no probs with you bathing him at 11.

[amalenanny]

I am a male nanny and have been one for years. In terms of kids and bathing it really varies depending on the situation. Some parents have their kids bathing themselves, even with no supervision, at age 6, while others still do some of the washing close to middle school age! For the kids I've babysat, bathtime etiquette will depend on what the parents and kids are comfortable with, and their age and gender.

I have bathed girls I babysat for before, but they were both under 6. I know some people here are going to see issue with that, but why is that these women can post about washing a 12 year boy old on genitals, and I can't talk about washing a young girl? It wasn't sexual and I had the girls do their own private areas. I never wash the private area of any child who isn't a baby. I feel that is best left up to the parents, and if it's skipped one night by me during bathtime, that one night won't make it dirty and kill them.

Out of the boys I watch, 90 percent of them prefer to have me keep them company during bathtime. The ages vary from about 5-12. I usually don't do any washing for the older ones, but they like to have somebody in there to keep them company because "bathtime is boring". Most of the the time there is usually a bit awkwardness the first time I see them undressed, but they usually get over it pretty quickly. It's a boy thing, and boys are usually very casual about their bodies around other males. It's actually kind of a bonding experience. They tell me it's no big deal and it's like having a Big Brother there, and nobody cares if their Big Brother see's their birthday suit.

They love me to sit in and chat, but as they get closer to middle school age, I am mindful of what is appropriate and what is acceptable. I start sitting in and chatting less and less and just occasionally checking in. I slowly phase myself out of the bathroom routine. After all, why does a 12/13 year old need supervision during bath/shower time? That's not to say that if they called me because they needed a towel, or I had to get something from the bathroom, I wouldn't go in. But there comes an age where you need to let kids bathe or shower alone, even if they ask you for company (which some of them still did).

[gewoon]

@amemalenanny there are women here that do it with mother,daughter and aunt some 3 at the times seems to be normal to do so, but ur right when a man does it is going to be something like child abuse.
I think the ladies just like to watch and find bathing an excuse to watch them get erections.

[Former babysitter]

Michelle,
I can just imagine how erect that 13 yo boy was. It must have been difficult for you to maintain your "mature" nature while washing him. And it must have been even more difficult for the boy to remain calm. Did either of you say anything about it? When I was 17 I sat for and bathed an 11 yo. It was a similar situation as far as having an extreme erection. The poor boy was very embarrassed. I tried to reassure him as I usually did in those situations that it was ok and I've seen many erections before. By that age, I was sexually active so I had seen lots of erections besides those of the boys I bathed. It didn't help him that night, but in future baths, he seemed to accept that he was going to become erect when I bathed him and was more comfortable. All these memories are coming back as I think about these things. I kind of miss doing all these things. Looking back, I enjoyed it.

[Tracy D.]

Bathing is an intimate experience and being bathed, or even just supervised while bathing, may help a boy get closer to the babysitter and trust her more. Have you ever noticed a boy becoming closer and more open with you after you helped him bath for the first or second time?
Maybe it doesn´t happen with the younger boys who don´t care about it, but what about the older boys? In your experience does bathing help the babysitter get much closer to them?
Do you notice that as they become comfortable with you seeing them naked or washing them they also become more friendly towards you?

[Jon K.]

For me it helped that my babysitter growing up (I had one regular girl, unless she was out of town) had been babysitting me for a long time. Since she had seen me naked since I was around 7 or so, it wasn't as big a deal for her to see me when I was older (or actually wash me when I was injured at one time). It may have been harder to get a new babysitter when I was 12 years old or something and have her see me for the first time, but I probably would have got used to it since I know someone else saw me regularly, assuming she was nice about it.

BTW, I bathed my own son everyday till he was 8 and after that about twice a week till he was 11 just to make sure he was really clean.

Hi Former Babysitter,

I still think I would have felt uneasy about a babysitter bathing me but with Mum it was fine as I presume your son had no probs with you bathing him at 11.

[Michelle R.]

I agree - I also try to encourage the kids I babysit to take over bathing duties as they get older. When younger I tell them what to do and when they are older I try to leave them to it. But you'd be surprised how often that doesn't work, even for boys aged 10-12 (at least based on some of the families I have sat for). A boy says he can do it, and when he comes out he has forgotten to wash his hair. Or I watch one do it himself and point out he forgot to do several parts. Or one time he wants to do it himself and the next time I come over he just sits in the bath and doesn't get on with it. Kids don't mature at the same speed, so maybe that accounts for it. It certainly is rarer for me to be actively involved as the kids get older but there are some times. Actually, now that I think about it, where the boy has younger siblings I think they tend to want to do it alone at an earlier age than single kids. Not 100% accurate, but certainly in my experience that has tended to be the case.

Incidentally, I don't see any issue with a male nanny or babysitter washing girls. I doubt any woman who has been a nanny or babysitter for boys could disagree. I appreciate that parents might have a fear of this, because of all the stories about males molesting children, but in reality it's such a small number so when done by an appropriate person there is nothing wrong with it. And it can go until whatever age the child decides he or she wants to do things in private and shows they can do it well.

They love me to sit in and chat, but as they get closer to middle school age, I am mindful of what is appropriate and what is acceptable. I start sitting in and chatting less and less and just occasionally checking in. I slowly phase myself out of the bathroom routine. After all, why does a 12/13 year old need supervision during bath/shower time? That's not to say that if they called me because they needed a towel, or I had to get something from the bathroom, I wouldn't go in. But there comes an age where you need to let kids bathe or shower alone, even if they ask you for company (which some of them still did).

[Michelle R.]

I just remember he was very red in the face, and I may have been blushing a bit as well. Not that there was something wrong with it (someone had to do it and his parents were away), but again, since I had already stopped bathing him some time before, it was then a situation where I was bathing someone who otherwise didn't need help. So definitely more awkward.

We kind of talked about it after the first bath. He was still really quiet so I wanted to reassure him. It turned out his main concern was being seen now that he had started puberty and was worried he was not as advanced as some boys (he had seen in gym, etc.) and was worried I was going to tell or make fun or him or something like that. After we talked it out he felt much better about it. After the second bath he was more embarrassed about having an erection again, so we discussed that a bit. The last few times before his parents came back weren't as embarrassing for him, although I'm sure there was still some discomfort.

Michelle,
I can just imagine how erect that 13 yo boy was. It must have been difficult for you to maintain your "mature" nature while washing him. And it must have been even more difficult for the boy to remain calm. Did either of you say anything about it? When I was 17 I sat for and bathed an 11 yo. It was a similar situation as far as having an extreme erection. The poor boy was very embarrassed. I tried to reassure him as I usually did in those situations that it was ok and I've seen many erections before. By that age, I was sexually active so I had seen lots of erections besides those of the boys I bathed. It didn't help him that night, but in future baths, he seemed to accept that he was going to become erect when I bathed him and was more comfortable. All these memories are coming back as I think about these things. I kind of miss doing all these things. Looking back, I enjoyed it.

[Jon K.]

I think once I got used to my babysitter being in the bathroom with me and seeing me naked that I did feel closer to her. (That was even at a younger age.) And on a couple of occasions when she did have to bathe me, although it was embarrassing at the time, afterwards when she was nice about it I felt like I could trust her more. Because of all this there were times over the years I took questions to her or asked her advice on various things.

Bathing is an intimate experience and being bathed, or even just supervised while bathing, may help a boy get closer to the babysitter and trust her more. Have you ever noticed a boy becoming closer and more open with you after you helped him bath for the first or second time?
Maybe it doesn´t happen with the younger boys who don´t care about it, but what about the older boys? In your experience does bathing help the babysitter get much closer to them?
Do you notice that as they become comfortable with you seeing them naked or washing them they also become more friendly towards you?