Babysitter giving bath

[male observer]

To all of a sudden be exposed naked to a sibling (like you were) sounds very humiliating, and I could easily see her teasing you or you just feeling uncomfortable in the future because she got to take a peak at something she otherwise wasn't allowed to.

i can't believe one of these "mature" girls would even think about teasing the boy.

[Kimmy P.]

I'm not sure I get all the complaints on here lately. I only give a boy a bath when I babysit if his parents tell me to. (Girls too.) If a boy ever protested I would never force him to do anything, I'd just tell his parents what happened and let them deal with it. Babysitters should just follow instructions but not go beyond that. A couple parents have given me the right to spank the children if they misbehave, but I don't do that. I'm not really pro or anti spanking, I just believe that if the parents practice that then they should do it, not the babysitter.

[Rob...G]

As I had written in an earlier post, I gave my first bath to a boy when I was 13. I had never seen a naked boy up close before and certainly never touched one. I was very nervous when the mother asked me bathe her son because she was running late. However, I was also very excited at this new experience. I want to say that I never did anything inappropriate. That said, I did get a little thrill out of these experiences especially when I saw my first erection occur. I did not bathe the boy for the thrill, only because the mother asked me to. The fact that I enjoyed it could not be helped. It was an education for me. I was asked by this mother to bathe her son on many more occasions, as well as by other mothers that I was referred to. What was I supposed to do, refuse their requests?

[Rob...G]

As I had written in an earlier post, I gave my first bath to a boy when I was 13. I had never seen a naked boy up close before and certainly never touched one. I was very nervous when the mother asked me bathe her son because she was running late. However, I was also very excited at this new experience. I want to say that I never did anything inappropriate. That said, I did get a little thrill out of these experiences especially when I saw my first erection occur. I did not bathe the boy for the thrill, only because the mother asked me to. The fact that I enjoyed it could not be helped. It was an education for me. I was asked by this mother to bathe her son on many more occasions, as well as by other mothers that I was referred to. What was I supposed to do, refuse their requests?

Former babysitter,

Did any of the boys you washed have orgasms at any time?

[Former babysitter]

Rob...G
Not at all. While a few of the older boys would get erections sometimes, I never washed their penises long enough or in a manner that would give them orgasms. That thought never entered my mind.

[Rob....G]

Rob...G
Not at all. While a few of the older boys would get erections sometimes, I never washed their penises long enough or in a manner that would give them orgasms. That thought never entered my mind.

Former babysitter,
The reason I asked is because when I was 12 my cousin was bathing me and she did not use a wash cloth she used her bare hands and i got hard really fast and had an orgasm.

[Rob....G]

MSH - I think what happened to you was wrong because it sounds like you bathed yourself by this age (you said your mom hadn't seen you naked for a couple years, which implies she was satisfied that you could clean yourself). Therefore, your privacy was indeed violated by this, and compounded by letting your sister see you all of a sudden when she didn't before. Your aunt should have figured out another arrangement.

I agree that some posters or articles have a bias that girls should get privacy and boys shouldn't. My view is that it is case by case, and while I think the "evidence" (what I've read at least) suggests that girls on average mature faster, one shouldn't apply that generalization to all boys. I think it's reasonable that some boys either still need help or don't mind being seen at that age (because I have personal experience to that effect), but I also know boys who are capable at a younger age. The same it true with girls. Each child will desire (and earn) privacy at different times, but from that time it needs to be respected.

Also, I worry more about children being bathed/seen naked by someone of the opposite sex than by parents or babysitters. Parents - nothing they haven't seen before. Babysitter - assuming reasonable age difference, they are being hired by the parents based on experience and trust character to handle the situation appropriately. But siblings should only be involved (in my opinion) if they have since the child was very young. In other words, they are just continuing a role that the younger sibling has become used to. To all of a sudden be exposed naked to a sibling (like you were) sounds very humiliating, and I could easily see her teasing you or you just feeling uncomfortable in the future because she got to take a peak at something she otherwise wasn't allowed to.

As a 12 year old boy, my older sister, younger brother and I spent a summer at my aunt's farm. She had 4 boys; my twin cousins Kenny and Karl were my age and 2 younger boys. My aunt informed us that she had neither the time nor hot water for individual baths and that every night she showered her 4 boys locker room style with a garden hose. My brother and I would be showered with them. I was rather unsure what all this meant. I was led into a utility room with everyone. I was extremely uncomfortable as I had to strip naked with the other boys in front of my aunt, who then proceeded to spray us with water, gave us soap and shampoo, instructed us to wash our hair, etc. Even my mom hadn't seen me naked for probably 2-3 years at that point.

After a couple of nights, she told us that my sister Donna would assist her by helping with the two youngest boys. It was extremely embarrassing for me (and the other older boys) to take our clothes off and be naked in front of my sister. None of us boys had any pubic hair yet. We all had erections at various times throughout these showers. As a 12 year old boy, it was totally humiliating to have my erect penis pointing straight at my older sister.

There seems to be a philosophy among many women that pre-pubescent boys are not allowed any privacy.

Michelle R.,

How did your vacation go?Did the kids swim naked and how did they feel about that?

[Michelle R.]

Rob...G
Not at all. While a few of the older boys would get erections sometimes, I never washed their penises long enough or in a manner that would give them orgasms. That thought never entered my mind.

Former babysitter,
The reason I asked is because when I was 12 my cousin was bathing me and she did not use a wash cloth she used her bare hands and i got hard really fast and had an orgasm.

I never use a wash cloth when washing a boy's genitals because it is too rough. I use a cloth if a child needs a good scrubbing, but not on the genitals (girls too). Boys have frequently got erections when I bathe them (or even if I'm just in the room) but none (to my knowledge) has had an orgasm. Sometimes they do breathe a bit harder, but I don't think the contact lasts long enough to make it happen, although I think it's possible to orgasm without being touched.

The were only two times the thought entered my mind. Once I was washing a boy and while I was washing his penis he kind of started moving his hips back and forth. I think it was a subconscious thing but I noticed it and finished quickly and moved elsewhere. The other time was when I once had to babysit an older boy whom I had stopped bathing some time before (out of the room) but who I had to wash I sat for him when he'd had an accident and hurt his hands in a fall. He was veey erect and embarrassed but this was a particular situation. But I recall wondering if he would get an orgasm. He didn't though, and the next couple times he wasn't quite as tense about the situation.

[Guest]

Michelle R.,

How did your vacation go?Did the kids swim naked and how did they feel about that?[/b]

It was a fun trip. Even though it was "work" I was able to spend most of the time on the beach so I got a good tan! It turned out that the family has gone to nudist colonies in the past so the kids were in fact very comfortable swimming nude. The house had a private beach - on a lake with only one other house on the other side but no one was there during our stay. Sometimes the kids wore suits (like if we were using the boat) but usually they didn't. They seemed pretty comfortable like that. The girl suggested the first time they went that way that I should join them but I passed.

[Rob...G]

Michelle R.,

How did your vacation go?Did the kids swim naked and how did they feel about that?[/b]

It was a fun trip. Even though it was "work" I was able to spend most of the time on the beach so I got a good tan! It turned out that the family has gone to nudist colonies in the past so the kids were in fact very comfortable swimming nude. The house had a private beach - on a lake with only one other house on the other side but no one was there during our stay. Sometimes the kids wore suits (like if we were using the boat) but usually they didn't. They seemed pretty comfortable like that. The girl suggested the first time they went that way that I should join them but I passed.

Michelle R.

So did you never go swiming naked with them?What are the ages of the children? Thank you for your response on the ocation when I was 12 and had an orgasm.I had a babysitter that stripped once to make me more relaxed and no sooner does she get in the tub with me and start washing me, I have an orgasm.The slightest touch would do it.

[Former babysitter]

Rob....G..
How old was your cousin when she washed you to orgasm? Did you ejaculate? Did either of you say anything about the orgasm? Were you or she embarrassed? The fact that just the slightest touch would make you have an orgasm is not unusual for adolescent boys. I remember when I started dating and making out with boys, many of them came from just touching their thighs. BTW, I also used my bare hands to wash the boys. I used to ask them what their mothers used when they washed them and they would tell me that their mothers used their bare hands. I figured that if the mothers use their hands then I should too.

[male observer]

I'm not sure I get all the complaints on here lately. I only give a boy a bath when I babysit if his parents tell me to. (Girls too.) If a boy ever protested I would never force him to do anything, I'd just tell his parents what happened and let them deal with it. Babysitters should just follow instructions but not go beyond that. A couple parents have given me the right to spank the children if they misbehave, but I don't do that. I'm not really pro or anti spanking, I just believe that if the parents practice that then they should do it, not the babysitter.

kimmy, the complaints aren't about the babysitter, they're about boys who in many cases aren't allowed any privacy and unnecessarily have to be naked in front of girls. read the post about the 12 year old boy who along with 5 other boys had to strip naked in front of his older sister

[Rob...G]

Rob....G..
How old was your cousin when she washed you to orgasm? Did you ejaculate? Did either of you say anything about the orgasm? Were you or she embarrassed? The fact that just the slightest touch would make you have an orgasm is not unusual for adolescent boys. I remember when I started dating and making out with boys, many of them came from just touching their thighs. BTW, I also used my bare hands to wash the boys. I used to ask them what their mothers used when they washed them and they would tell me that their mothers used their bare hands. I figured that if the mothers use their hands then I should too.

Former babysitter,

Yes i did ejaculate and it was quite intense for me being that age.My cousin was 15 at the time and even at that age I could tell she was excited when it happened and she always used he bare hands.

[Rob...G]

Rob....G..
How old was your cousin when she washed you to orgasm? Did you ejaculate? Did either of you say anything about the orgasm? Were you or she embarrassed? The fact that just the slightest touch would make you have an orgasm is not unusual for adolescent boys. I remember when I started dating and making out with boys, many of them came from just touching their thighs. BTW, I also used my bare hands to wash the boys. I used to ask them what their mothers used when they washed them and they would tell me that their mothers used their bare hands. I figured that if the mothers use their hands then I should too.

Former babysitter,

My mother always had family over and never new if I would get washed by her or my aunt or sister , never really new who would be helping me.

[Former babysitter]

Rob..
What did she say and what did you say when you ejaculated? Do you think that was the first time she saw that happen? Did she ever bathe you again? Did you ever talk to her about it outside of the babysitting circumstances? I must admit that I have been fascinated by these things ever since I was a teenager.