Babysitter giving bath

[Dr. Willcox]

I don't see what the problem is for a 12 year old boy to be supervised during a bath. Your son needs to realize that he is being selfish by defying you in this issue, so get a babysitter. He needs to understand that girls wont tell each other about what they see, and even if they do, it's not like they're lying. Big or small, your son is what he is, and the sooner he understands, the better for his maturity.

Children should be given privacy after age 5. A mother or babysitter should want to give the child privacy. Anything else would be perverse. I love my daughters but would never allow myself to see them undressed beyond this age - It would not be right and children are easily affected during their younger years especially entering puberty. Don't be a SICKO! Show respect and provide dignity.

[Dr. Willcox]

I have recently taken a 3rd shift job that requires me to put my son in the care of a babysitter. My 12 year old son immediately said that he didn't want the babysitter to give him a bath. I had been giving him his bath about two weeks earlier, but he wanted to take his own bath. After three or so days I noticed that he wasn't washing very well, so I threatened grounding him and taking away his t.v. if he didn't let the babysitter give him a bath. The babysitter I have is 15 years old, and is a very responsible young lady. There is also a 14 year old girl down the street, and a 17 year old two blocks away.

What do you think I should do, and which would be the best babysitter? What age range do you consider best for his modesty, he is 12.

Your son is actually old enough to watch himself. - unless of course he is an invalid. You should definately not allow a babysitter of either sex be present during his bath -especially girls so close to his age - this would have major negative implications down the road for him sexually/mentally. - I'm surprised you had to ask such a question.

[animallover15]

I love my daughters but would never allow myself to see them undressed beyond this age - It would not be right and children are easily affected during their younger years

Sounds more like you have a problem there!!! 5??? Good god!! What harmful effect could you have on them??? You are their parent!!!

[P_1984d]

The only way he will learn to wash properly is with experience - u cant expect him to get it right the 1st time! Give him some time. I think a 12 yr old needing someone to bath him is inapproriate - he's a little too old for this sort of thing! Will u still be bathing him when he's 18?

I also think asking a 15 yr old girl to wash him would be humiliating for him! He is bound to be really embarrassed

[P_1984d]

I was bathed until I was about 10

I would never leave a child under that age unsupervised - incase they drowned

[Guest]

I love my daughters but would never allow myself to see them undressed beyond this age - It would not be right and children are easily affected during their younger years

Sounds more like you have a problem there!!! 5??? Good god!! What harmful effect could you have on them??? You are their parent!!!

My husband NEVER felt the need to see or bathe my 5 year old daughter. No more than I felt the need to see my sons at this age. IF it happened... coming out of the shower, walking past a door, etc., we never made a big deal out of it like it was nasty or something, but other than that, why would a father need to cross that line? Modesty is not a bad thing to teach your children. Just have to be careful that it is not prudishness.

We started this with 12.. now it's down to 5. Five, because by that time, a child knows and understands what it means to be clean... or someone let the ball drop along the way.

[animallover15]

What is wrong with a Father seeing a daughter naked at 5?...It almost implies something inappropriate may occur!!

[Guest]

Oh, and THAT has never happened!!

[Guest]

Methinks our Animal Lover is a bit naive.

[animallover15]

Ehhh..No!!!
Kids don't have to be running around naked for their parents to molest them
You all seem so confident in your partners/husbands..NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[bigboy2485]

Tell him th bathe, check he has,if he hasnt,keep sending him back till he does.If he continues to be a dirty minger ground him,if all else fails get a floor brush and threaten to use it on him.He will learn, trouble is lads prefer to learn the hard way.

[Jennifer P]

I read through all the posts and I think I can add to this discussion.

My family has always been a family to stick to old family traditions, and the theory my mom took in bathing goes back to my great great grandmother. My mom always used to say what her mom would say, "When their old enough to do for themselves, you'll see." She means that when they start puberty, they are old enough to bathe themselves. Personally, my mom gave me the reigns when she said I was 10, but some girls I guess could be earlier or later. As for boys, the same goes for them too. I gave my younger brother a bath when he was 10, and I was 15.

Hope this gave everyone some insight on my view.

-Jen

[hottrod]

when are perents going to let their children grow up 12 years old and he still cant take a bath himself this is just straing to me doesn't the father worry about his babysitter giving him a bath
what if she is a bit currious about sex

[MillyMM]

I don't know what all the fuss is about. CarolinaMom, the 15yo is your usual babysitter you know her so she should give him his bath. Boys really dont know how to wash. They can be dirty little grubs. When I first went baby sitting mummy would go with me at the start and watched me bath all ages showing me how to wash properly. I soon got used to it and I babysat on my own then. Bathing boys up to 12 or so was just part of babysitting, even showing them how to wash their foreskins properly. I never told anyome about my babysitting cos its none of their business. I guess living in the country is different.

[Kalith]

I know this is old and out dated...but i wanted to see if anyone would read my comment....put it this way i am a guy 16 and throughout high school i have been a baby sitter...i need the extra cash for my gf and my life i have build...car, gas, insurance, cell, internet. Would u as a mother accept me to wash a 10 year old girl [i say 10 because i know girls mature faster].

Quite frankly i would refuse...and nor will i ever in the futur allow a baby sitter to wash my son...i am totaly against that. What is wrong with you that you think it is ok? do you know what it is like to have a member of the opposite sex just abit older then u watch u naked and touch u?