Babysitter giving bath

[Guest]

Thanks Kalith... sometimes adults don't listen to adults. Maybe with the voice of a teen that is there, they will sit up and take notice.

Great post.

[Elizabeth J]

The idea that you would ever let a teenaged boy babysit a girl of any age is both dangerous and sick. By age 7 many girls have matured enough to be bathed by themselves, and by age 12 they are old enough to babysit. I think a lot of you are overestimating the age at which boys are mature enough to babysit or even bathe themselves. I have babysat for boys and girls from infant to 13, and had to bathe many of them as part of my job requirement. Boys are a lot more lax than girls about nudity, so I don't see where anyone is coming from saying that he would be humiliated or embarrassed. Nudity isn't sexual unless you change it to fit your own sick fantasy.

-Elizabeth

[Blafpanty]

It seems that many ladies find it alright when a girl from 15-17 bades guy from 10-12, but don't find it alright when it is the other way around.
I think both are not ok!

[Kalith]

The idea that you would ever let a teenaged boy babysit a girl of any age is both dangerous and sick. By age 7 many girls have matured enough to be bathed by themselves, and by age 12 they are old enough to babysit. I think a lot of you are overestimating the age at which boys are mature enough to babysit or even bathe themselves. I have babysat for boys and girls from infant to 13, and had to bathe many of them as part of my job requirement. Boys are a lot more lax than girls about nudity, so I don't see where anyone is coming from saying that he would be humiliated or embarrassed. Nudity isn't sexual unless you change it to fit your own sick fantasy.

-Elizabeth

Well ty for saying guys cant babysit...seeing how i am the only bilangual teen in the area i suppose i have a monopoly. But what are u talking about? I could wash myself at 8. And EMBARRASED...lmao when i was babysat i would throw things at the babysitter if she came to see how i was doing[immature at the time, but i didn't know what else to do] and i dont what ur going on about sick...i cant even look at a girl who isn't at least 14 [two years younger then myself], they dont need a babysitter. So where do u get off saying what is sick and what isn't...i have babysat many girls...i am a respected young man...i get good grades and am on the football team...i am prez of the local venturer company and i have had a paper route so the neighbor hood all knows me. SO SICK oh plz if anything i would consider it sick that u actually thought of that. And i ask the parents that if they want their kids to have a bath that they do so befor i get there. So tell me where oh where do u get off saying what i do is sick...seems pretty f***ing sexist.

And is it me or do guys in canada hit puperty faster in canada...cause i was keeping up with my girl classmates...i could hand write/read all at the same time as them while still being an athelete.

[hottrod]

The idea that you would ever let a teenaged boy babysit a girl of any age is both dangerous and sick. By age 7 many girls have matured enough to be bathed by themselves, and by age 12 they are old enough to babysit. I think a lot of you are overestimating the age at which boys are mature enough to babysit or even bathe themselves. I have babysat for boys and girls from infant to 13, and had to bathe many of them as part of my job requirement. Boys are a lot more lax than girls about nudity, so I don't see where anyone is coming from saying that he would be humiliated or embarrassed. Nudity isn't sexual unless you change it to fit your own sick fantasy.

-Elizabeth

what are you talking about I have babysat many time to young girls I meen I would never do any thing bad to them and for you to say any boys babysiting a girl is wrong I think you should be ashamed of yourself
so what makes guys so different then girls when it comes to babysitting I have given baths to many of the kids I have babysat its not sexual in any way but to say that boys will make it sexual is kind of wrong

if I were you I would leave your sexas comments to yourself

[Honey bun]

Being a teenaged female, I have to strongly disagree with Elizabeth J on some things. First of all, I agree that girls do need privacy around the age of 7, my mom stopped giving me a bath when I was 8. Girls do tend to mature faster than boys, but not by that many years of difference.

By age 12, most boys have discovered the secret dangling between their legs, and it isn't a tail. They are in a stage when they question if they are too small down below, some men never grow out of that, but notice their own nudity very vividly. Elizabeth, if you want an explanation of embarrassment, jump into the body of a 12 year old boy before or just starting puberty. Your mom and dad are going to be gone for the night so they hire a babysitter to take care of you. She is 15 or 16 year old and when she arrives, you realize how close she is to you in age. The babysitter then tells you in her cute little voice to take off your clothes so she can give you a bath. You are horrified by the thought of her catching a glimpse of, in your own thoughts, my too small of a penis. When you drop your drawers, you look up at her and you are horrified because your worst dream has been confirmed. You see her glance at you, and forming a smirk on her face, and that is when a boy knows that he is going to go through hell after the babysitter tells other girls about this.

Get a life Elizabeth, girls aren't perfect little angels, I know this because I too am a female.

[Kalith]

Being a teenaged female, I have to strongly disagree with Elizabeth J on some things. First of all, I agree that girls do need privacy around the age of 7, my mom stopped giving me a bath when I was 8. Girls do tend to mature faster than boys, but not by that many years of difference.

By age 12, most boys have discovered the secret dangling between their legs, and it isn't a tail. They are in a stage when they question if they are too small down below, some men never grow out of that, but notice their own nudity very vividly. Elizabeth, if you want an explanation of embarrassment, jump into the body of a 12 year old boy before or just starting puberty. Your mom and dad are going to be gone for the night so they hire a babysitter to take care of you. She is 15 or 16 year old and when she arrives, you realize how close she is to you in age. The babysitter then tells you in her cute little voice to take off your clothes so she can give you a bath. You are horrified by the thought of her catching a glimpse of, in your own thoughts, my too small of a penis. When you drop your drawers, you look up at her and you are horrified because your worst dream has been confirmed. You see her glance at you, and forming a smirk on her face, and that is when a boy knows that he is going to go through hell after the babysitter tells other girls about this.

Get a life Elizabeth, girls aren't perfect little angels, I know this because I too am a female.

Ty for agreeing..being a teenage guy and a babysitter whenever i can cause i need the extra cash. I say if the kid cant wash themselves then they should befor i get there...and letting them go in pjs for the rest of the evening...and i agree with what you said as i was starting puperty i feel that way...but comeon are u serious i was bathing by myself at 8. Am i that different? Because i somehow doubt my friends got help from their parents...or at least to my knowledge. Guy are slower to develop language and fine motor skills, but the rest is a differnece on how the genders think.

[Guest]

To make my statement clear just so nobody gets the wrong idea, I want to protect my sons modesty as much as posible. My problem is that he doesn't wash himself very well, and can't figure a way to solve this problem. He has to have a babysitter, but he doesn't want to be seen in that state of undress to get his bath. I used to bathe him about two weeks ago, but now I have to work 3rd. I don't believe he has started puberty yet. The 15 year old babysitter is the best deal for me, she lives closer to the house and she charges a lower rate. She's very responsible, and I'm sure that she will keep anything she sees confidential and will not tell her friends. Which babysitter do you think is best for protection of my son's modesty?

Any ideas?

None I dont want to be rude but what is wroung with your son is he MR'DD, or you for that matter. I have two sons 8 and 10 both have been bathing properly for years I also have a 16 year old daughter who does a great deal of babysitting if I found out one of the parents wanted her to bath there 12 year old son I would be very upset, their is something perverse about the whole thing. It is your job as a parent to teach your son to bath properly.

[hollyfern]

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To make my statement clear just so nobody gets the wrong idea, I want to protect my sons modesty as much as posible. My problem is that he doesn't wash himself very well, and can't figure a way to solve this problem. He has to have a babysitter, but he doesn't want to be seen in that state of undress to get his bath. I used to bathe him about two weeks ago, but now I have to work 3rd. I don't believe he has started puberty yet. The 15 year old babysitter is the best deal for me, she lives closer to the house and she charges a lower rate. She's very responsible, and I'm sure that she will keep anything she sees confidential and will not tell her friends. Which babysitter do you think is best for protection of my son's modesty?
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Just wondered but is there anything else you still do for him such dress him for school, do up his shoelaces, wipe his bottom!!

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[Kalith]

ok wow what is going on here...in my town a guy is expected to be able to do all this by the time a girl can. But away from gender issues such as this. Just because the girl seems responsable doesn't mean she is...Guys tend to get a bad rep with parents Cause alot of us don't put on shows, Girls my age do however. They are just as bad if not worse and they get away with it because they put on this show.

Teach your son...take the time, if he is much younger then you imply or he must get a wash like that then how about swimming truck? That is what i did at camp when i was younger. As for the more private areas...let him deal with it or wait for you to come back. Because there is no way a teenage girl or boy should be washing a child

[nicholas]

I don't know what all the fuss is about. CarolinaMom, the 15yo is your usual babysitter you know her so she should give him his bath. Boys really dont know how to wash. They can be dirty little grubs. When I first went baby sitting mummy would go with me at the start and watched me bath all ages showing me how to wash properly. I soon got used to it and I babysat on my own then. Bathing boys up to 12 or so was just part of babysitting, even showing them how to wash their foreskins properly. I never told anyome about my babysitting cos its none of their business. I guess living in the country is different.

Hi MillyMM

I'm probably one of the few guys who've registered but I wanted to add my input on this topic so you could get it from the boy's perspective.

I agree with very much what you've said. You may have read my earlier posts on the subject to see that I'm a guy and I was bathed by an 18 y.o. babysitter when I was 12. Also Mum bathed me from time to time until I was 13. Both of which was no big deal - afterall I needed to be bathed as I wasn't particularly thorough myself and - like most boys - i got sweaty and dirty. Also Mum and my sister saw me naked a lot right up to my late teens so nudity was never an issue. One thing I will say is that a 15 y.o. girl is maybe a little too young to bathe a 12 y.o. as he could be embarrassed as the girl is still at school herself but a girl over 16 and at college would be fine. I'm not sure about a female babysitter showing how to wash their boy's foreskins though - this didn't happen with me as Claire (my babysitter) just washed me around that general area with a washcloth.

[VickyC]

Dear Nicholas,

This is too ridiculous to believe. What other things did your mum and babysitter do for you when you were 12/13. Dry you, dress you in your PJs, tuck you up and read you a bedtime story?

[katiekool]

Yes, and as you were not all that particular with cleanliness I just wondered how old you were when your mum/babysitters stopped wiping your bottom

[Kalith]

Dear Nicholas,

This is too ridiculous to believe. What other things did your mum and babysitter do for you when you were 12/13. Dry you, dress you in your PJs, tuck you up and read you a bedtime story?

Yes ridiculous..but whos fault is its? His or his mom/dad who never inforced good cleaning habits...at that age alot of the fault lays on their influences...ie. friends, teacher and you guessed it PARENTS.

[nicholas]

Yes, and as you were not all that particular with cleanliness I just wondered how old you were when your mum/babysitters stopped wiping your bottom

Hi Katiekool and others,

I think you've misunderstood slightly. I learnt to wipe my own bottom from an early age like most kids I can't remember say 3 or 4 I dunno but that is not the issue here. It's just that when it came to bathing myself from about 8 or so I tended to do a quick 'cats lick' for a couple of minutes then get out of the tub which wasn't that satisfactory. Mum suggested that she bath me once a week while washing my hair which I was okay with. Now this continued over the years and even when I turned 13 I was still ok with Mum bathing me once a week....Okay - I know I may have been a little old and just starting puberty which is why Mum suggested I do it on my own from then on. Once I did bath myself at 13 I did a very good job. The thing is I had no problems with Mum bathing me nor a sitter bathing me when I was 12 - it wasn't embarrassing as both had seen me naked, it wasn't a sexual thing and they just got on with getting me clean.

Nicholas