I can't get over my ex-girlfriend

[Harsh]

Its all becoz of her we broke off and the sitation went very bad in went to her place and abusd her caught her with this new guy in his car ..howver
i know it will be impossible for her to forget me ,,and its been so very impossible fr me to hate her ...I try everyday to forget her and get her out of my mind but i dont know y ..i feel i love being in her toughts ... i know its all waste now bcoz i have made things worst ..and bad ...but its all fr her i pleaded her before we broke off tht ..to rethink about this .. i dont know y she did this ..she still has my heart following her ... everday in the morning i think wether she has had her breakfast o no..wat she must be doinIts all becoz of her we broke off and the sitation went very bad in went to her place and abusd her caught her with this new guy in his car ..howver
i know it will be impossible for her to forget me ,,and its been so very impossible fr me to hate her ...I try everyday to forget her and get her out of my mind but i dont know y ..i feel i love being in her toughts ... i know its all waste now bcoz i have made things worst ..and bad ...but its all fr her i pleaded her before we broke off tht ..to rethink about this .. i dont know y she did this ..she still has my heart following her ... everday in the morning i think wether she has had her breakfast o no..wat she must be doing ..and if she is with tht other guy ..if she remebers me the times tht we v spent together and the time ...make me cry ..evereythinbg in this world reminds me of her th shirts which i wear to office and wen she usde to tell me tht im looking good ..in th pink shrt and the blue goes good on me and wen she usde to hug me and ..then ...wen she usdto say tht im growing fat ..but she will still love me even if i grow more fat ...and love me forever ..she told me tht i m the best thing tht had hppnd to her life ..Love u jaan alot ..i will never be ablet to forget u ..not bcoz u loved me ..bcoz u made me understand wat lov is and how does it feel missing somebody ..u know ..tht i love ..thinking about u looking at ur snaps and playinga nice romantic song ..and closing my eyes feeling tht we are together and loving each other ...Jaan ..u have given me the best of times ...thx jaan lov u alot ....ur eyes ...i wanted toispend my life resting in it ..but i know its my fault as well i did not tell u all this wen u wre around ...to lov u is wat my lov is ...to think about u which makes me sad and then i feel good tht how coame i was so lucky tht someone could love me so much ..thx jaan ..I lov u I love u i love u ...U made me CRAZY ...Crazy ..thinking about ur lov..thx fr maing me feel tht living is so imp and now more imp fr me to have tht mazing feeling of lov tht u gave me and tht sorrows tht u have left me with ,,i dont cry bcoz i promissed u i will not and bcoz ..I consider my self lucky tht u wre in my life ..I m sure tht if not inthis life jaan well be together next Life ..god cannot deny this from me tht will be the only reason fr my rebirth jaan to love u and to lov u..and not give u tears at all................Lovs only fr u Jaanu !!!!!!!!!g ..and if she is with tht other guy ..if she remebers me the times tht we v spent together and the time ...make me cry ..evereythinbg in this world reminds me of her th shirts which i wear to office and wen she usde to tell me tht im looking good ..in th pink shrt and the blue goes good on me and wen she usde to hug me and ..then ...wen she usdto say tht im growing fat ..but she will still love me even if i grow more fat ...and love me forever ..she told me tht i m the best thing tht had hppnd to her life ..Love u jaan alot ..i will never be ablet to forget u ..not bcoz u loved me ..bcoz u made me understand wat lov is and how does it feel missing somebody ..u know ..tht i love ..thinking about u looking at ur snaps and playinga nice romantic song ..and closing my eyes feeling tht we are together and loving each other ...Jaan ..u have given me the best of times ...thx jaan lov u alot ....ur eyes ...i wanted toispend my life resting in it ..but i know its my fault as well i did not tell u all this wen u wre around ...to lov u is wat my lov is ...to think about u which makes me sad and then i feel good tht how coame i was so lucky tht someone could love me so much ..thx jaan ..I lov u I love u i love u ...U made me CRAZY ...Crazy ..thinking about ur lov..thx fr maing me feel tht living is so imp and now more imp fr me to have tht mazing feeling of lov tht u gave me and tht sorrows tht u have left me with ,,i dont cry bcoz i promissed u i will not and bcoz ..I consider my self lucky tht u wre in my life ..I m sure tht if not inthis life jaan well be together next Life ..god cannot deny this from me tht will be the only reason fr my rebirth jaan to love u and to lov u..and not give u tears at all................Lovs only fr u Jaanu !!!!!!!!!

[helensmith5200]

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[Guest]

Im sorry you all have to go through this. Somtimes you just wish you could find your soulmate now, cut the crap with all thses wannabes.

I began as friends with my girlfriend. But the whole time we liked each other. Just niether one of us wanted to make a move. 5 months later I finally asked her out, and we were a couple.

It began smooth, but she went into a deep depression for a couple months, we barley saw each other outside school. It wore on me, the fact that she wasnt happy or we were getting anywhere. But I hung in there and did everything I could and slowly she got better, by April we were real close she talk about places we could go, and even said she loved me.

She loved flirting, talking about sex to guys, sending pictures of herslef in bras. But I ingored it, I hurt me and made me very jealous but I kept it to myslef.

But it slowly went down, She cheated on me. Went all the way on a guy she barley knew. While she told me what happened, she lied about how far they went. She cried and wanted me to forgive her, promising it will never happen agian. So I stayed, not even bringin it up. And it appeared we gotten over it

But then two weeks later she did it agian with a ex. She agian went all the way. She wanted to talk and said she was a horrible person and please forgive me . In the back of my head I knew it wasnt goin to happen. But I wanted her, so I forced myself to belive him. I was blind. So I yet agian forgived her.

It slowly started going down, I didnt trust her, and she got mad calling me ridicoulus. But how could I? She betrayed me twice. We grew apart but still liked each other and wanted it to work.

Then she did it agian, for a third time all the way. I yelled at her and eneded it. She kept calling leaving sorry so much, and sending me messages. She had a great abillity to say exactly the right things out the right times I ignored it for two days. Then got back together.

She worked alot, and broke up with me just a few weeks after. Telling me it was to much work and we were going to different colleges. I was furious! how could someone put somebody threw all the S*** every pain and then just end it. She didnt desreve to end it I did.

I gnored her for two weeks, then talked to her. She called me alot to talk. But I heard she did another guy at camp. Somthing she promised she wasnt going to do. That she changed. But she didnt. I was angry all over agian.

I treated her like a princess, did everything, allways sacrfiseing myself for her.I didn deserve anything she did to me.

I was tired of all the pain. So Im ingoring her idefintly till I dont care. Im ignoring her calls, blocked her on facebook, and aim. I dont want to here about her at all. I was hard, but Im quicly getting over here.

Theres still some jealousy, when I think of her doing a guy, and missing the good times. But taking out all contact does really help. Give it a couple weeks and Ill proably be completly over her.

As much as it hurt. I learned alot on this relaintship. And looking back Im proud I forgave her all those times. It showed how good of a person I was. My only regret was being so blind

[Goliath]

listen dude
I understand ur feelings
although I still have not bin through the break up part
I've had times where I thought she's drifted away from me
I love her with all my heart
and being in love with her, I just want to see that cute smile on her face
I wana see her happy
and if worst comes to worst one day if I end up in your position
(listen to this Ive thought about I a lot)
I'd ask her if she's happy
if you really love her, and shes happy in her life, let her go.
sulk over her, cry till u start shedding tears of blood
I'm sure I'd do the same
but let her go if she's happy
just ask her that, and see what she says
and if u do love her
be with her every step of the way
just not as a boyfriend but someone she can count on and recieve comfort from
Who knows, maybe you'll get back together.
what I wrote is from the heart bro
hope you find it helpfull

[Scotty2Hotty]

Hi, I know most people are gonna think, u've got to move on, but i just want to ask peoples opinions.

Me n my girlfriend (ex) hav been together almost 2 years, we met about 3 months before that. we hit it off so much n we spoke on the phone practically every night during most of that 3 months. then we got together. things went steady with us, we had quite alot of fights n broke up alot but we got back together straight away each time. soon we moved in together and it was great. we were boyfriend and girlfriend and luvved it. She said she loved me and i believed her.
but now we've had a massive argument. well i can't even call it that, one day she got upset about a tiny thing n she just left. i kno she worries alot that i was cheating on her, which i wasn't but every single guy she's bin wiv has done it to her so she thinks im just like them.
she's got no mobile and she hasn't been on the internet for days. she's totally ignoring me and it hurts so bad. sometimes i feel like dying it's so horrible! What can i do? How can i forget about this or get in touch with her or something?

[Goliath]

find her and tell her how much u love her
tell her that what she's thinking is wrong n ur not like the other guys
reallly convince her

[Kendrith]

lright, me and my girlfriend had been dating for about a year and a half. We were each other's firsts for everything past making out. I had never felt so good being with some one and we had an amazing bond and connection. I had dated other girls before her but never felt anything remotely close to this. She would talk to her friends about how she would marry me right out of high school and how she knew i was the one. (Obviously i wasn't going to get married right out of high school but knowing she loved me that much was great.) Any way, We used to have sex 2 or 3 times a week. Then just sort of ran out of chances, being 17 and having a truck with a cover, the only real opportunity was when no one was home at one of our houses. She eventually said i don't want to have sex anymore because my period was a week late last time and i was too scared. I was going to try and reassure her that as long as i pulled out and wore a condom those chances were ridiculously small. I didn't want to push anything because i loved being with her and was fine with oral sex and such. How ever, the day before i left for 10 days she said " I think we should break up, because if we're meant to be together we will, just later in life." I told her that if we were meant to be together why wouldn't we be together all the time. Well obviously i was completely confused but we were so in love i knew she would just beg for me to take her back the next day, she did and i took her back after she explained that she just wacked out for a minute. So i left for 10 days and said i think we should avoid talking so that you can really see what it would be like to not be with me. So i come home from my trip and call her up, excited to talk to her and she is excited to hear from me. I say i'm sure you've done a lot of thinking, she says yeah, so i say well what conclusion have you come to. I'm just sitting there waiting for "Oh im so sorry i don't know what i was thinking you're the love of my life and i never want to loose you." But instead I got a long pause and my heart just sank and i knew she was going to say no. So she wove a story with many conflicting ideas to explain why she was doing this. The 1st time it was the " If we're meant to be together etc." like i already said. 2nd time it was i won't have time it's my senior year in high school even though she will be less busy than she was last year when we fell in love. And then we talked the night after the second break up and the reason was i don't have feelings for you anymore. So she broke my heart again after i forgave her for doing it once. I haven't talked to her since then (7 days ago) and will wait until she calls me.

Anyway now that you know the story, my question is do I try and get her back since I can't even imagine life without out her. Or sit here miserable for the rest of summer. I know i'm supposed to just let it go but i'm pretty sure thats only if she's made it clear that there is no chance and she hasn't. just 1 month ago she just looked me in the eyes and poured her heart out about how she would die if we weren't together and how amazing it was to be in love. She just sat there and hugged me for a good hour explaining how great we were together and i could tell it was truly heartfelt because she almost cried she was so happy. So i guess what i don't understand is how you can go from loving some one so much that you would marry them and not be able to function without them to no longer having feelings for them. And i've tried everything, staying busy, working out, meeting other girls. But that special connection i had with her before we even officially started going out is not there with any of the girls if met (around 12). And i'm not conceited or anything but I wouldn't have a hard time finding some one to go out with me it's just that i want her back and if you heard and were there when she poured her heart out you would see why. So i know she still has feelings for me because it has to be impossible to loose such strong feelings in only 10 days, right? So basically i have to get her back because i'm utterly lost and can't even imagine being with any one else. Especially after reading the posts that say "yeah i'm married and have kids but i still wish i could be with my true love from High school" I don't want to be like that i want to have her. Could use some advice on how to get her back, rather than how to get over her because I am 100% positive she still has those strong feelings and just wants to... i don't even know, help.

[scotty2hotty]

find her and tell her how much u love her
tell her that what she's thinking is wrong n ur not like the other guys
reallly convince her

that's the thing i've tried to find her but i don't drive so it's difficult to get to her. If i go to her work i know she's just gonna storm off off without even listening to me

[Goliath]

find her and tell her how much u love her
tell her that what she's thinking is wrong n ur not like the other guys
reallly convince her

that's the thing i've tried to find her but i don't drive so it's difficult to get to her. If i go to her work i know she's just gonna storm off off without even listening to me

Well try emailing her, asking her if you could meet her one last time, and id doubt shes going to storm off like that, why would she? does she have any reason? you only love her...not like you did something wrong to her. And once you get a hold of her make your point crystal clear...
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ummm i have a question...how do i make the text so that what you said before shows up in a different font? like you did to mine... (Goliath wrote...)

[Goliath]

Listen, Kendrith,
like i said before, just make sure shes happy man. If you love her you want to see her happy right? Then if her being happy doesnt involve you being in her life then let her go. Meet up with her, tell her you love her, and still care for her, but if this is what she wants then youll let her go. Tell her that you only want her to be happy in life. I know this wasnt the answer you were looking for, and in your position this wouldnt be the answer id be looking for either, but the real truth is, that if you love someone youd sacrifice all of your happiness to bring a little bit of it into theirs. If she wants to be friends, remain friends and make sure shes happy. Be there for her when no one else is, who knows, she might come back. Listen, you've got a really big heart for letting her do that to you and yet you still willing to take her back, I think she needs to appreciate that.

[Scotty2Hotty]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

[Goliath]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

well...if shes avoiding you, your best bet is to meet her in person, grab a hold of her, run after her, and settle it once and for all. Think about it, she'll just keep avoiding you...is that what you want? If not, be firm, and go up to her, if she tries to back off grab her slightly and make her listen

[Hotel_Whiskey]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

well...if shes avoiding you, your best bet is to meet her in person, grab a hold of her, run after her, and settle it once and for all. Think about it, she'll just keep avoiding you...is that what you want? If not, be firm, and go up to her, if she tries to back off grab her slightly and make her listen

Advice from a kid...
Do you really think grabbing the girl is going to make her want to stick arouond. Prepare for a swift blow to the b0llocks
Either she'll come back or she won't.
You have to decide whether you hang around and possibly waste you time. Or pick your arse up and move on.
x x x

[Goliath]

I've emailed her alot, n txted but her fones cut off now. She's not been on the internet since she left. I think she'll storm off because she's scared she's hurt me and is scared to face up to things. I just went onto ur post and clicked quote

well...if shes avoiding you, your best bet is to meet her in person, grab a hold of her, run after her, and settle it once and for all. Think about it, she'll just keep avoiding you...is that what you want? If not, be firm, and go up to her, if she tries to back off grab her slightly and make her listen

Advice from a kid...
Do you really think grabbing the girl is going to make her want to stick arouond. Prepare for a swift blow to the b0llocks
Either she'll come back or she won't.
You have to decide whether you hang around and possibly waste you time. Or pick your arse up and move on.
x x x

But shes staying away for the wrong reasons which need to be discussed
if someone really loves someone and they want the relationship to work
the last thing they want to hear is to "move on"
okay grabbing her may not be the best idea but there has to be some way to get a hold of her?
although if it were me I'd make sure she listens to what I have to say at any cost
moving on for me would not be an option nor would it be easy
I'd have to live the rest of my life knowing that we could have been but I was too sissy to confront the woman I love

[freshstart]

Wow!!! when i put in a google search for "i cant get over my ex girlfriend" i had no idea i would stumble upon this sight..so here is my story. Back in April of 2007 i subscribed to a Catholic dating website and wasnt having much luck finding anyone. One day i came acorss the profile of a girl who in my mind was one of the most beautiful and seemingly, down to earth girls i had ever seen. I messaged her not expecting to get a reply because she lived an hour and a half away from me but it turns out that she had me on her favorites list and was thrilled when i messaged her. We coresponded by email for a couple weeks and this girl was making my days complete and my heart smile with every word she wrote. She was turning out to be everything i had ever wanted in a girl and so we set up a time to finally meet. That day my heart was filled with butterflies as we had the most amazing date. Ending with a long kiss at sunset on the beach and then more kissing as the night went on. We continued to see eachother despite the kinda long distance and i couldnt believe that God had blessed me with such an amazing angel. She made the hard decision to move further away to finish school and move back in with her parents. I have never had a long distance relationship work but this girl was my entire universe and we were definitely willing to give it a shot. She too had gotten out of a bad relationship and told me she didnt think she would find any guy who would treat her as well as i did. So she moved about 5 hours away and we saw eachother twice a month. I would go up and see her then she would come down. It was hard, especially when there were times when we really needed eachother and we couldnt just get in the car and be there in a flash. Though there was distance, the relationship still continued to grow more and more each day. The absence was making our hearts grow fonder and the times we were together were utterly amazing. We didnt have sex until 4 months into the relationship due to medical problems i was having. It started taking a toll on our relationship, so much that she was ready to break up and give up. However, she realized how much she loved me and stuck by my side. I finally got through my medical condition and from there on out we had an amazing sex life. Both of our families got along great as well and i could tell that this was becoming something that i wanted for the rest of my life. So i made the decision to propose to her. I asked her parents first since i was brought up with traditional values and they couldnt have been happier. I planned an amazing proposal and she said yes. This angel that God had blessed me with would be my partner for life. All the wedding plans were going great but somewhere along the way it started to falter. Things werent the same and though everyone thought it was great, it really wasnt. In January, she had a breakdown and started becoming very distant when she lost one of her good friends to a heart attack. Understandable since i know what that is like but it seemed like the only one she didnt want around her was me. The distance continued and a few weeks later she decided she wanted to call off the wedding. She stated that she still had love for her ex that hurt her so bad and that she needed closure. I was crushed, but like the understanding guy that i am, i understood. She said she didnt want to break up with me but shortly after..thats exactly what we did. I thought my world was over but prayer and friends helped me get past it. I knew she was doing things with other guys and though it bothered me, i knew i had to move on and i had. 2 months later though we saw each other for Easter and things were great again. She had gotten the closure and wanted to start hanging out more. We started building the friendship foundation and things were even better than they were before. We went back to seeing each other twice a month and talked about getting back together in a year. We had ups and downs but all in all, we realized that when we were apart, all we really wanted was to be back together again. Its now July, and she texts me in the middle of the night saying that she realized she does want to be with me for the rest of her life. That we should think about getting married in a year and wants to have a family with me some day. I WAS ECSTATIC!!!! I had finally gotten my angel back. However, things started getting distant again because she had a lot going on in her life that was setting her back emotionally. Her and i took a little vacation and she told me that i was the guy she was meant to be with and that she couldnt wait for us to be married. We even had plans to move to Hawaii in a year after being wed. Well, now we're in August and she had a very major setback in her life. She said that she needs to experience other people because she feels that going back to me is just the easy thing to do. So recently she started seeing this guy that treats her SOOOOOO well and i'm really happy that she is happy but i'm hurting sooo sooo utterly bad inside. All i keep thinking about is them kissing, hugging, holding hands, having sex and doing all the things her and i used to enjoy doing. I cant shake these thoughts from my mind and this really hurts more than when we broke up to begin with. She says that are just dating and doesnt know if its serious but i have a feeling its going to become serious. I'm dreading the day when she tells me she loves him because i know it's selfish but i want us to be together. It hurts that she tells me still that she loves me with all her heart, but she is giving her heart now to another guy. I feel that even if i find someone else that makes me happy, it will NEVER be as good as it was with my ex fiance. This hurts!!! more than i could have ever imagined. I know it will take time and will have my good days and bad days but its only been a week and i'm already dieing over this. What makes it worse is that she STILL wants to move to Hawaii with me next year...WTF IS UP WITH THAT?. I had an hour conversation with her mom a couple days ago and her mom told me that the way my ex see's it is that she will never find anyone that is going to treat her as well as me. She thinks so low about herself that she said i only deserve all of her. Something that she is not ready to give me yet which is why she couldnt get back together with me until she does regain her entire self. She also wants me to go back to school and finish my degree which is what i'm doing soon. Its just killing me now knowing that this guy is right around the corner from her and he is now the man in her life. Any advice????