by Mezman » Fri Jun 13, 2008 5:24 am
Not to sound like I'm judging, what I find most interesting is that most of the girls that are sucking off and touching up these strippers whilst attached, speak that unless one is in their position they won't understand. That every thing is so intense, the athmosphere so wild, the booze so free flowing, and the peer pressure so strong that you just can't help but get into it.... or in the case of some girls, their mouths on it.
Fair enough I can understand this. In fact the idea really turns me on knowing that some girls are so horny. IF you're single. If you're single you can get gangbanged by every stripper in the joint and that's still cool. But if you're in a relationship, unless you have an open relationship agreement, isn't it the expectation of a normal given relationship that each party try to be faithful?
Now I understand that the environment makes it tough, but isn't that the point of self control? Whether it be marriage or a partnership, doesn't the decision to commit to another reflect that we've told ourselves that we have the self-control to try to be faithful?
I understand that there are times when we slip up. Where things just get the better of us and we lose out to temptation. But is it right to try to justify that? Isn't the normal course of action to apologise for it instead as opposed to sanctioning it?
If we don't have self-control or integrity, what do we have? For those girls saying it's okay and harmless and they everyone there was doing it, would there steal from a shop because everyone was doing it? Would they kick someone on the ground if all their friends were doing it? If there was a riot and everyone was destroying things around them, would they join in?
I can't believe no one has raised this. A relationship is about self control and some girls have demonstrated that they either don't believe in it or simply don't have it. I'm cool with girls that say they made a mistake, know that sucking on a stripper is wrong, and that they will try not to do it again. But to say it's okay because everyone is doing it and "you won't understand unless you've been there" is just very strange to me.
Two wrongs don't make a right, but in this case it doesn't look the the girls view it as wrong. I don't know which worries me more as a guy. That the girls don't view it as cheating, or that they know it's cheating but just don't care. Or that just because they think other guys do stuff with strippers, even if their partner doesn't, they think it's okay because its "about time girls got to enjoy this sort of thing".
It's a nasty cycle which means that less guys will be faithful to girls, and in return less girls being faithful to gets, and so on and so forth.....
I've love the feedback of the more outspoken girls on this like Ruth5, Zoe, Sally, or whomever else. Because I believe it's a valid concern. To Ruth5, if you think it's okay to suck on another guy and get him off 5-6 times a year? When does it become not okay? How is even doing it once when you have a bf different from doing it say... 100 times a year. Isn't it all the same?
I'm not judging, I would just love to know the psychology and thought process of the girls that believe so steadfastly in this matter.
hope that answers your questions if not ask away. Before the weirdos get on here. Ha ha
