Does a potential husband have a right to know?

[Fred75]

Agreed. I am 36 and am just as likely to get an STD or get pregnant as a 16 year old if we dont use protection. The legal point is true. While it may not be ideal for 16 year olds to be having sex, it is the legal age so you cant say otherwise. If you are talking 15 year old, then yes. But the fact is, in an ideal world everybody would stay virgins until they marry at at least 25 years of age. But we dont live in an ideal world and I for one am not living in an episode of the Waltons. Get real. All you can do as a parent is advise them and make sure they have access to protection. If you have a good relationship with your kids they will tell you. I told my eldest daughter to please tell me when she was having sex so I could get her on the pill and she did. I took her to the doctors and got her on it and also made sure she was well supplied with condoms. I know several here including Fred will call me irresponsible and encouraging them but can anyone here say they wouldnt have done it at that age? I know I was, rightly or wrongly and I know that they will so the least I can do is make sure they are protected. And now she is nearly 21 and in a stable relationship and I am pretty sure happy with the decisions we made. The plain fact is, if they are gonna have sex, they are gonna have sex. Whether we approve or not, they will do it. I prefer to arm mine with condoms and advise.

Lets' see.
Let's change sex to cocaine and that your an addict.

I guess ya... Your argument above for doing drugs at 16 is acceptable.
What addict mom inst going to sound just like you?

[Fred75]

Let pose this one question for you idiots about sex at 16...

Why is it a 30 year old man is going to go to jail for having sex with a 16 year old?

Law is law... why does the law DISCRIMINATE on a natural act that going to happen anyway?

[Hotel_Whiskey]

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[noodles]

But the reality is that too many women think they are men and can sleep around with no consequences like we can.
WOMEN need to take a more responsible role.

I think you'll find that men can catch the same diseases as women and men can get a woman pregnant and have to live with the consequences (be that abortion or having a child in the world). You really do talk utter shite.

[Fred75]

I think you'll find that men can catch the same diseases as women and men can get a woman pregnant and have to live with the consequences (be that abortion or having a child in the world). You really do talk utter shite.

No.
Women mainly get AIDS form men that have sex with other men.
Case in point... black women in the US account for nearly half of female aids infections. And they make up less than 10% of the population. That's all from black men on the Down Low.

And then theres the fact that lesbian transmission of AIDS is practically unheard of.
Which means that women are far less likely to pass it to men than men are to pass it to women.
Get that? Heterosexual AIDS transmission is low. Heterosexual men are not prone to get it unless they sleep with a woman that has slept with a man thats packed the fudge of another.

And do you even READ the posts here from all the woman abandoned by the men that knocked them up?
Do you not KNOW that women are nearly ALWAYS given custody of the child?

Have you even read the statistics for unwed mothers in the UK?

[Fred75]

I'm sorry but just how is there any difference?
They both willingly take part, knowing the concequences...

That's just STUPID.

If you were even REMOTELY right... 16 year olds could vote & sign contracts.
But they cant.
Want to know why?

Because they are IDIOTS!

[Hotel_Whiskey]

I'm sorry but I disagree with you on this one,
many 16yo are more than capable of making this decision, and many aren't
however who's right is it to say we are any more mature at 25?

x x x

[Fred75]

I'm sorry but I disagree with you on this one,
many 16yo are more than capable of making this decision, and many aren't
however who's right is it to say we are any more mature at 25?

x x x

Any 25 year old with half a brain.

[Hotel_Whiskey]

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[Fred75]

Just because you are older, doesnt mean yu are any more mature. I had my wits about me and knew exactly what I was doing when I started, probably more so than I do now!

It's entirely to do with the individual

x x x

Then you have not grown one bit and still think like a 16 year old.
You may be retarded.

[Hotel_Whiskey]

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[Fred75]

My point is, there are a lot of people out there who are just as mature at 16 as others are at 25. It has nothing to do with age

Your making the mistake of thinking they never grew any from 16 to 25.
They did.
They were just bigger idiots at 16.

[Hotel_Whiskey]

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[Fred75]

ok, fair enough but my point is still that some people are ready at 16
x x x

No.
Maybe a 100 years ago when they also got married and stayed married for LIFE and had a moral backbone.

But not the kids of today.
They are NOT ready to be adults and RAISE a child fro 18 years.

[Hotel_Whiskey]

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