ever had sex with a relative?

[MaxtheGaul]

ever taking that next step with a cousin 3rd cousin etc did you enjoy or regret what you have done?

Even first cousins are legally and morally OK. Third cousins are so far removed there is hardly any blood link at all, and for many people they may not even know they are related, so this is really only an issue with close family.

Remember, third cousins mean you share one great-great grandparent (who in my case died in the mid 1800s). and only 1/16 of your potential genes are common, much less in reality. You probably share more with your neighbour. When it comes to the social side, how many families have any sort of ties to third cousins. I know who some of mine are by name, but I certainly haven't met any, and wouldn't know how to.

[Rem Bran]

true say

[x-xcutiex-x]

I find this question "How can some be attracted to his/her own sibling?" to be wrong. Human mind is just attracted to opposite sex, that is all. There is no internal programming to stop your arousal when it is your sibling. It is how you are brought up.. what you learnt which is hindering you saying "Oh nooo this is your brother/sister" What if you never knew it is your brother/sister. You would be attracted naturally. So if for someone the learnt impulse of "oh no this is my brother/sister" is not strong enough, it is perfectly natural to be attracted to brother/sister. It is nothing to be ashamed about. How we handle it only matters.

Oh come on. I know what you're saying, but we also don't have "internal programming" to stop us from murdering someone who pisses us off, or to stop us from raping someone, or to stop us from sexually violating children, etc...there's right, and there's wrong. You've gotta be nuts to get sexually arroused by your own family member. And it is something to be ashamed of. Unless you were raised your whole life in a bomb shelter with a bunch of pervs and grew up thinking it was ok to have sex with whomever you desired, there's no excuse for such thinking, or leniency about it.

I read once that the reason we don't find our siblins attractive is because they look so much like us and this signals to us that our genes would not be suited in mating. I could never imagine being attracted to my brother

[x-xcutiex-x]

I lost my virginity to my sister. I was her first time as well.

These things do happen. As for why....I don't have an answer other than because we could.

I think that the aversion to talking about incest is a big part of why it does not happen more often. In our case we both knew that the other was interested and willing, and so the ice was broken between us and we were able to talk about it together. Talking led to doing.

We were involved off and on for almost 3 years. It ended when I moved out of state. That was almost 20 years ago and nothing has happened between us since.

do you two look quite different to each other?

[Gotta Say]

x-xcutiex-x, there may be something in what you say. But usually many siblings dont know they have a resemblance in looks. Only those outside the family can see it clearly. Anyways there can be some subconscious part of brain behind it. Also we would have grown up seeing each other naked and when we first hear about sex which usually happens before we mature our first thoughts would be usually a combination of disgust and curiosity. These things may have some effect I think. But it is definitely not the same for everyone. I too cant imagine at all getting attracted to a close relative but I definitely can see the point of view of others. It is ultimately a male body with a male brain and a female body with a female brain. They can get attracted to each other. I get attracted to many weird things which others find odd. We are all different.

[Rem Bran]

true

[Guest]

I lost my virginity to my sister. I was her first time as well.

These things do happen. As for why....I don't have an answer other than because we could.

I think that the aversion to talking about incest is a big part of why it does not happen more often. In our case we both knew that the other was interested and willing, and so the ice was broken between us and we were able to talk about it together. Talking led to doing.

We were involved off and on for almost 3 years. It ended when I moved out of state. That was almost 20 years ago and nothing has happened between us since.

OMFG only in the states!!!

[mande]

Myself, does that count?
yuk yuk

My older sister was bugging me to have sex with her. We got pretty close, but I chickened out, and I avoided her for a long time after that.
I think she was about 12 and I was about 10.

[my cousin]

i was in love with my cousin well shes my cousin not by blood thats all i can say but shes was very attractive and i liked her alot. one day i was in the living room when shes walked in and we started to talk after a while she brought up sex. She told me shes wanted to do it but she was afreaid to do it with anyone else. I thought to myself is this my chance ( she was 17 i was 18)we eneded the converstaion there. But that wasnt the end of it during college she and i decided to rend a codo with 2 rooms togther. One day i was on the couch when i went to go talk to her she was on her bed we talked for about 2 mins. when she said im ready i knew what she mean i told her wher cousins. She said not by blood so she took of her clothes and lay on the bed and said im all yours. Well we did have sex. ( she was 21 i was 22)

[mande]

There are also theories that we're more attracted to those who look LIKE we do, so that's not as simple as it sounds.

I think the truth is, there's no "natural" rule here about why people do, or do not, have the desire to have sex with their siblings.
In spite of the extreme societal taboo that exists, it still happens A LOT!

I think at some point thousands of years ago, someone probably wised up to the fact that it causes deformities, and that's how it got introduced into civilized cultures that you're not supposed to do it.
The reality is, it takes a while to screw up the gene pool.
It's a myth that for instance, if brothers and sisters mate, their kid will be deformed or retarded. It usually takes a couple generations of this to cause severe problems like that.
Still a very bad idea though.

[Rem Bran]

does any 1 who has done it regret it?

[Guest]

me and my brother used to play with each other untill one day we ended up having sex. we stopped at that point and have never done anything or spoke about it since (now both married with kids).

I don't regret doing it, however I am pleased it made us stop.

I REALLY need to ask. I cannot fathom having sex with my own brother. How can anyone feel sexually attracted to their own brother...or sister?

Ive done my sis she loved it! She was 13

[Rem Bran]

and you?

[Guest]

and you?

No I dont regret it! She loved every minute of it and basically begged me for more until about 3 years ago when she had her first child

[Rem Bran]

is it yours?