female advice

[al-2]

sensitive - just nipped out to the supermarket for bread and passed her in an aisle. just a polite "hello" in the passing with a hint of tension. i had no real desire to speak to her however.

as a female, do you think that the initial texting from 3 months ago was closure for her or just a way of seeing if i was still "interested" ?

actually the full story is posted on the "just for men" forum, author name was "very confused" .if you find time please read it and tell me what u think. i'll b back at the forum later tonite. i'm interested on a female viewpoint! thanks

[Sensitive]

Hi Al

Well after three months i think that she's just wanting to find out if you're interested again. It seems a shame that you're obviously thinking about her and i sense that you do want to get back in touch again.

I'll read your post in the other topic

[al-3]

hi sensitive

i'd be a liar if i said i didn't think about her, and i'm sure she'll think about me from time to time. we had an amazing personal chemistry but emotionally we're poles apart. it's the opposite with my current g/f but we are so compatible and i love her company so so much.

so i've admitted i'd like to hear from my ex but i'm not going to mess my current g/f about. i'm quite content not bumping into my ex but i do get butterflies when i see her. i'm sure her feelings are the same too cos when all 3 of us met ( accidently ) last sunday it was major tension. the animal in me says go and win my ex back but head says "don't u dare!"

i will b interested to read your comments when u read the full story. posting is "i need some good advice" by very-confused on the "just for men" forum.

what about you? female and in your twenties thats all i know. in the uk i assume. i'm in scotland. do u just browse this forum or have u made some postings?

take care, al

[sensitive]

I'm from the Uk, Birmingham infact. Yeah i have made some other postings

[Guest]

hi

i've a killer hangover this morning

what did u think of my other posting? confusing.....

and your postings? where are they? i'm curious

now, where r my aspirin....

[Sensitive]

Out late last night then?

So did i lol!

I haven't posted under the name 'sensitive' ni i'm too discreet for that!

[al - 4]

hi sensitive

well, what name did you use?? i should register instead of being a guest but generally i just read the postings.

saw my ex again. didn't see her for 8 months now 4 times in 2 weeks. i'll sleep with her again, i can tell that much from her eyes. watch this space.
enjoy sunday.........i'm off golfing with my brother. bye

[Sensitive]

Hi al

I couldn't possibly tell you the names, i've used too many. I should register too

You wanna sleep with her again? But how can that happen if you're hardly speaking to her? As she text/called you?

[al-5]

got beaten and got wet ( at golf ) not good !

i'm not prepared to put myself through the mill again. i'm sure we'll met or speak soon - it's in the air. i'm old enough to know these things!

but if you've read the full story on the "just for men" forum you'd see there's too much politics involved for us to have a normal relationship again

[sensitive]

Yeah i read your other post, what was your reason for breaking up again?

You say that you're old enough to know these things, so what i'm trying to say is that you're old enough to know what you want, though rather WHO you want

I f you don't mind me asking what was the content of these messages, friendly?

[al-6]

we had a heated row in front of her son and she stormed off taking her house keys back and that was that. it was an unsatisfactory way for things to end. its sort of unfinished business in a way. 8 months passed before the texting started.

we swapped 50 odd texts in 2 weeks. her initial text said she was angry about the way we finished and she wanted answers. so i obliged her.

but i covered that in 2 or 3 texts, after that it was general chit chat. she would say "i'm shopping in edinburgh with my mum" or "i loved and hated it when we split". my texts back were equally vague ie "i'm golfing with my brother" or "i'm busy as hell with work". weird non-descript stuff. almost the type of thing i'd say to my sister. it was odd that she'd be texting me like that when she had a boyfriend and if she was angry then the texts would have stopped after she got some answers.

my hunch is that she clearly isn't having a good relationship with her current man and maybe thought life with me was better. also she did suggest a meeting ( don't know her real reasons for asking ie "clear the air talks" or see if we could get back together but i declined the offer as i am too raw so to speak. i know thru the gravevine that her current man has twice walked out on her. she's a v demanding and high maintainance sort of chick!!

pick the bones out of that.....!

[Guest]

i've read the "just for men" posting and its clear that this women got to you. i'd steer well clear as she sounds unbalanced. if u see her in the street cross the road. if you see her in the pub just step away

you seem happier with your current g/f so work at that relationship. as a guy i bet you miss sex with her but really sometimes the price is too high.

however, i don't doubt she was sounding you out.

[my honey]

this woman really got to you. it isn't a good basis for a relationship if your mind is churning like this. put your efforts in to your new g/f and hopefully this relationship will work out

[sens]

Any update al?

[al-7]

hi sens

any updates are posted under al-6! ( up the screen a touch ) been away for a few days so no opportunity to bump into her. don't think i'll contact her. but i think about her everyday