female advice

[al-13]

hello sens. I'm just back from a quick spin on my bike so I'm feeling great.

Not seen her and certainly not contacted her. It's funny. For two years we knew each others movements inside out and would frequently catch glimpses of each other. But not anymore as we both steer clear of certain places at the right/wrong time!!

The main place we'd see each other was a coffee house near her flat. But since we split - nothing! She admitted in a call that she goes a different route to work! The only day she came in was back in April; it was the day she was moving house. Her man had dumped her and she faced the prospect of moving on her own. I was there with my current g/f...the look on her face told a thousand words....i was happy/sad, gloatful/sorry all at the same time. I'm sure she realised that i was a better option for her ie more stable/better career etc it was in her eyes......

so yes i do have feelings for her but love and hate are no basis for a relationship. yes, in my fantasy world she'd be with me but i'm a realist. we'd last only 3 months before splitting again. there's too much at stake.

thanks for your interest again sens. keep checking this posting from time to time and if ( big if ) anything happens....you'll be the first to know

[sens]

Hello al!

Nice to hear from you

It's such a shame that you both obviously want each other, but either one of you won't make the first move, it's frustrating really!!

Just hope you get what you really want! But i guess you already know what and who you're down with!

xx

[al-14]

hey sens!

i'm back sooner than i thought! i was in town for my morning cappuccino.
we were sat outside in the sun ( also, being a smoker, we have to sit outside like lepers! ) anyway, i spied her over my shoulder. my heart sort of skipped a beat but i chose to turn my chair round to keep my back to her. i waited for her to pass before i saw from the corner of my eye that she had stopped and glanced backwards to see if i was watching......

it's curious....now that she lives out of town that she chose to park nearby and then gravitate past my favorite coffee shop. there's a dozen places to park and even more ways to the town centre. but she chose to come past.
she could be playing games....

anyway, i hate it, hate it, hate it. not sure why i'm torturing myself like this because i couldn't stomach speaking to her and we clearly can't date successfully without falling out. will keep u posted.

hope birmingham is v sunny 2day. it's gorgeous in scotland !

[sens]

Hi Al, it all seems very confusing!

How would you feel if she met someone else?

Have seen or contacted each other since?

xx

[al-15]

sens

it IS confusing!!!

i did see her with her "man" a couple of weeks ago. their body language was rotten. i'm sure their relationship has been downgraded to friendship as opposed to lovers. i was arm in arm with my current g/f ( funnily enough we had a poor weekend together ie rows and huffs ) anyway, it was major style awkward; all that eye contact nonsense....! Hmm!

i've no intention of contacting her, as i said before i doubt i could have a normal conversation without anger coming through.....but watch this space, funnier things have happened. al x

[sens]

Yeah i get what you're saying al!

But do you really wanna carry on like this?

I mean wouldn't you rather get it over with now and whatever decision you both make then at least you cn move forwards instead of going backwards all the time?

xx

[sens]

How's it going al?

x

[al-16]

hi sens

no i haven't seen her. but i do think about her. as i said before i'm leaving it to fate. perhaps an unwise way of tackling things but that's the way it is! all the texts she sent were going around my head recently and even an idiot could tell that she was restless; or else she wouldn't be contacting me but she's too stubborn and vain to directly ask if we could try again !!

anyway, i'm quite content with my current g/f. she's fantastic and maybe this relationship is better for my mental welfare. we were in the Highlands for a long weekend and had a fabby time.

hope you are well and that you're more content and settled than me

al x

[sens]

Hi al have you seen or heard from her?

xx

[al - 17]

ni sens

no i haven't seen her. although i now have a habit of bumping in to her friends. we don't speak as such - the just give me a frosty reception. anyway it will be v clear to her that i have a g/f and she won't try and muscle in. i still think about her and still sense that i haven't heard the last of her. but my feelings are too mixed for me to contact her ( i might say something i'd regret ! keep an eye on this posting for further developments

x al

[sens]

ni sens

no i haven't seen her. although i now have a habit of bumping in to her friends. we don't speak as such - the just give me a frosty reception. anyway it will be v clear to her that i have a g/f and she won't try and muscle in. i still think about her and still sense that i haven't heard the last of her. but my feelings are too mixed for me to contact her ( i might say something i'd regret ! keep an eye on this posting for further developments

x al

Hello al nice to hear from you!

Why would you say something that you may regret?? Do you live far apart from each other?

Its seems like you're not necessarily comfortable in your current relationship, it seems like your still hung up on your ex!

Well she was calling and texting you, what happened there then? Surely this means that she's sort of over you??

xx

[al-18]

hello sens

no, we live in the same town, about 2 miles apart. we could easily bump in to each other but we both skillfully avoid certain places.

i agree that if i'm not careful this issue will affect my current relationship.
but my current g/f is better for my sanity!

there's lots to tell you about the 3 months we spent together but it would take too long. so i'll leave things to fate1

how are you anyway? enjoying life i hope

al x

[anna_banana]

thats women for you al, cant live with us yet we are everywhere

xxx
anna_banana

[sens]

hello sens

no, we live in the same town, about 2 miles apart. we could easily bump in to each other but we both skillfully avoid certain places.

i agree that if i'm not careful this issue will affect my current relationship.
but my current g/f is better for my sanity!

there's lots to tell you about the 3 months we spent together but it would take too long. so i'll leave things to fate1

how are you anyway? enjoying life i hope

al x

Hi al

Yeah life is good thanks, and things can only get better as they say lol!

Has your ex girlfriend got a new boyf now?

I understand that all of this must be a sensitive issue for you !


And i guess that only time will tell!

XX

[al-19]

hi sens

i've seen her with the guy she bought the house with ( and fell pregnant etc ) they'vs split min 3 times so eventually go their own ways.

she has seen me twice with my g/f and stares were exchanged. she's too stubborn to say that i was a better option . but there you go. time will tell. i know i'll meet her somewhere strange one day ( a chance meeting ) and i'm sure sparks will fly ( and fur, claws etc ) but animal attraction isn't the best basis for a relationship! in general i'm not too sensitive about her as i'd wager my mortgage that she'll just go from guy to guy and may never find happiness. if she was to marry a bloke then i'd be a touch jealous.
i'm sure she feels the same way !!

Have a great weekend. Are you out in Bham tonite partying? my dad is staying so i'm cooking and we'll get drunk together!! lol

bye, al xx