FEMALE LED RELATIONSHIPS

[noodles]

Is an option. lol

[Dan or Deb]

Is an option. lol

I know, there is loads of ladies that prefer to be in charge!lol

[Mels]

To be honest i love being in control!My guy does all the housework and shopping!He knows his place in life and is 100% under my thumb!

[Guest]

Chloe and Mels you are women after my own heart. I've been with my partner for 6 years and he's no wimp, in fact when we met he had his own house and was a bit of a lad. I lived at home. Gradually I started making decisions. We bought a house together (my choice), done it up to my colour scheme and furnishings and then got married. I planned everything while my partner took a back seat. That was fair enough because I found I enjoyed making decisions. I actaully think he though he was in control. He has a beter job than me and I do most of the housework, he looks after the finances and does DIY etc so we're pretty traditiaonal in that sence but as time has gone on my influence has grown. I buy all his clothes and decide what he wears when we got out and I make ALL the decisions, even down to slecting his car for him when he changed it earlier this year. The funny thing is I really enjoy it. My husband has obvioulsy realised now that I'm in control and though he doesn't like it all the time he does accept the situation "for a quiet life" probably. It really nice though to feel that I can arrange to go out with my friends without consulting him or look through brochures for a holiday. Obvioulsy my husband has an input into what we do jointly but he now realises that I have the final say, that I make the final decisions. We don't regard ourselves as "kinky" in anyway and don't do this for a sexual thrill as Dan or Deb is implying, this is just a natural balance that our relationship has arrived at, and we are happy with.

[noodles]

omg - i appreciate that it works for you but personally id feel like my partner didnt have an identity if i made all the decisions. i actually like her for 'her' personality, 'her' dress sense, 'her' ability to make her own decisions regardless of what i think, her deciding what car 'shes' gonna drive...............

not knocking your relationship and good luck to you but having difficutly getting my lil head around grown people not making their own decisions

[Guest]

My husband is a manager at work where he makes decisions. Obvioulsy, he can make decisions and choices at home as well - all I'm saying is that I'll have the final say or veto. That way we both know where we stand. My husband knows I'll do what is best for us as a couple and he is happy (most of the time) to go along with my decisions. On occassions, in the past, when we have had disagreements I have tended to get my own way as I'm quite single minded when I set myself to something - my husband realises that and as time has gone he has been more accepting of the fact that I'll be the one who decides something. As I say, in a lot of ways our relationship is very tradional, my husband looks after the money and pays the bills, looks after the garden and cars and I do most of the housework. My husband doesn't interfer with the "domestic" side of things - the furnishings, the food shopping etc, so, probably like a lot of women, I make the decisions- I've probably just taken it a stage further that's all. I don't tell him what to do, or nag at him but when there is a decision to be made - wether it by where we go holiday, what cars we buy, where we go out to eat, what we do over the weekend - then that final decision is my decision. Of course, I'll ask him his views and opinions and may go along with one of his suggestions - but what I won't allow is for him "going off and doing his own thing" or making any decisions without first talking them over with me - if he does that (and he has tried it on once or twice) then the decision will be reversed. I know, I may sound like a "control freak" but why should it be so different for a woman to make decisions in a household when men have ruled the roost for thousands of years?

[Dan or Deb]

Chloe and Mels you are women after my own heart. I've been with my partner for 6 years and he's no wimp, in fact when we met he had his own house and was a bit of a lad. I lived at home. Gradually I started making decisions. We bought a house together (my choice), done it up to my colour scheme and furnishings and then got married. I planned everything while my partner took a back seat. That was fair enough because I found I enjoyed making decisions. I actaully think he though he was in control. He has a beter job than me and I do most of the housework, he looks after the finances and does DIY etc so we're pretty traditiaonal in that sence but as time has gone on my influence has grown. I buy all his clothes and decide what he wears when we got out and I make ALL the decisions, even down to slecting his car for him when he changed it earlier this year. The funny thing is I really enjoy it. My husband has obvioulsy realised now that I'm in control and though he doesn't like it all the time he does accept the situation "for a quiet life" probably. It really nice though to feel that I can arrange to go out with my friends without consulting him or look through brochures for a holiday. Obvioulsy my husband has an input into what we do jointly but he now realises that I have the final say, that I make the final decisions. We don't regard ourselves as "kinky" in anyway and don't do this for a sexual thrill as Dan or Deb is implying, this is just a natural balance that our relationship has arrived at, and we are happy with.

Hi sorry but i am not implying that it is a sexual thrill.I just enjoy serving ladies in a domestic capacity.

[Brenda]

My husband is a manager at work where he makes decisions. Obvioulsy, he can make decisions and choices at home as well - all I'm saying is that I'll have the final say or veto. That way we both know where we stand. My husband knows I'll do what is best for us as a couple and he is happy (most of the time) to go along with my decisions. On occassions, in the past, when we have had disagreements I have tended to get my own way as I'm quite single minded when I set myself to something - my husband realises that and as time has gone he has been more accepting of the fact that I'll be the one who decides something. As I say, in a lot of ways our relationship is very tradional, my husband looks after the money and pays the bills, looks after the garden and cars and I do most of the housework. My husband doesn't interfer with the "domestic" side of things - the furnishings, the food shopping etc, so, probably like a lot of women, I make the decisions- I've probably just taken it a stage further that's all. I don't tell him what to do, or nag at him but when there is a decision to be made - wether it by where we go holiday, what cars we buy, where we go out to eat, what we do over the weekend - then that final decision is my decision. Of course, I'll ask him his views and opinions and may go along with one of his suggestions - but what I won't allow is for him "going off and doing his own thing" or making any decisions without first talking them over with me - if he does that (and he has tried it on once or twice) then the decision will be reversed. I know, I may sound like a "control freak" but why should it be so different for a woman to make decisions in a household when men have ruled the roost for thousands of years?

Hi ladies!i am so glad this is just not me!my partner is a a sweet man!however i am so bossy!i choose his clothes and insist on having total control over every thing!he washes cooks does the housework and shops,whilst holding down a full time job!i some times hate to think that i rule him and his mind!but to be honest he would be so lost with out me!yes i am very happy

[Kalith]

My husband is a manager at work where he makes decisions. Obvioulsy, he can make decisions and choices at home as well - all I'm saying is that I'll have the final say or veto. That way we both know where we stand. My husband knows I'll do what is best for us as a couple and he is happy (most of the time) to go along with my decisions. On occassions, in the past, when we have had disagreements I have tended to get my own way as I'm quite single minded when I set myself to something - my husband realises that and as time has gone he has been more accepting of the fact that I'll be the one who decides something. As I say, in a lot of ways our relationship is very tradional, my husband looks after the money and pays the bills, looks after the garden and cars and I do most of the housework. My husband doesn't interfer with the "domestic" side of things - the furnishings, the food shopping etc, so, probably like a lot of women, I make the decisions- I've probably just taken it a stage further that's all. I don't tell him what to do, or nag at him but when there is a decision to be made - wether it by where we go holiday, what cars we buy, where we go out to eat, what we do over the weekend - then that final decision is my decision. Of course, I'll ask him his views and opinions and may go along with one of his suggestions - but what I won't allow is for him "going off and doing his own thing" or making any decisions without first talking them over with me - if he does that (and he has tried it on once or twice) then the decision will be reversed. I know, I may sound like a "control freak" but why should it be so different for a woman to make decisions in a household when men have ruled the roost for thousands of years?

Hi ladies!i am so glad this is just not me!my partner is a a sweet man!however i am so bossy!i choose his clothes and insist on having total control over every thing!he washes cooks does the housework and shops,whilst holding down a full time job!i some times hate to think that i rule him and his mind!but to be honest he would be so lost with out me!yes i am very happy

Is he happy?

[Brenda]

Yes!

[Kalith]

Yes!

Ok, I hope you both live a long and happy life.

I'll retract all my comments made in both theses threads, I had the wrong impression of what this thread was about.

[pu$$ycat]

This is a really interesting thread!

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years now. I see us as equals and so does he. We always comment on how odd it is how women like men who boss them around or tell them what they can and can't do, which friends they can see, what they can wear etc. but I didn't know that this happened the other way round! I know that women can often be left as the decision makers for decorating schemes etc. because sometimes men aren't as interested, but I never knew there were women out there who chose their man's clothes!! Of course we should say 'each to their own' but to me that indicates a spineless walkover of a man.

I like to have an equal relationship in that we both get our say, if we agree then good, if we don't quite agree then we say the reasons behind our decisions and normally we meet somewhere halfway without any shouting or stupidly-reasoned argument. Other times one partner gives good enough reasons that the other one comes round to their way of thinking and decides that their decision is good. However, there is no 'final decision maker' in our house and that is the bit I can't understand. My boyfriend is easy going and often finds it hard to make decisions so he leaves it to me then BUT if he feels strongly about something and does have an opinion on what the outcome should be then he will assert himself and make his decision firm (as can I). This is what I like because it shows strength of character and personality.

[noodles]

I know, I may sound like a "control freak" but why should it be so different for a woman to make decisions in a household when men have ruled the roost for thousands of years?

mmm interesting because it was this sort of relationship that left women so surpressed for so long, in fact a lot still are. Not sure if thats a productive reason and kinda different to you genuinely bieng a control freak and him genuinely passive so it just naturally works? Im taking it that you're the latter?

[Lady Fuschia]

I wonder how much of a difference money makes to the equality equation. Are women with equal or higher earning power to their partners more readily able to achieve it? The sparks of sexual liberation were, after all, only ignited (in Europe) during WW1 and 2 where women replaced men as the workforce.

[Porky]

I wonder how much of a difference money makes to the equality equation. Are women with equal or higher earning power to their partners more readily able to achieve it?

Yes, they are. She who brings home more bacon, has a right to her meals cooked, clothes washed & Ironed etc.. It's so much easier to gain control of a relationship when being the higher earner, IF the male is of the mindset to fit into his new role. If not, ego's clash & the relationship may suffer.