Guitar

[Guest]

my friend plays guitar and he's very very good but sometimes he plays such an excruciating racket or wall of pure noise I want to die, because I can't study or concentrate. how can I tell him to calm it down without hurting his feelings, without being insulted or shouted down.

[KiltyCol]

my friend plays guitar and he's very very good but sometimes he plays such an excruciating racket or wall of pure noise I want to die, because I can't study or concentrate. how can I tell him to calm it down without hurting his feelings, without being insulted or shouted down.

Respect works both ways. He should respect your feelings and be prepared to play quietly, or at times that fit in with your study needs. My wife and I both play electric guitars, but we are very careful not to cause a noise nuisance for anyone. It is worth bringing the subject up tactfully. Your friend could perhaps blow the roof, while you are out, for example.
I would question how good a friend is, that rides rough over your feelings.

[DanMc]

Loud is fine in the right setting, but not if you share a house. Most modern guitar amps have at least two volume controls per channel so you can still get a good sound by turning the pre-amp volume up high and the keeping master volume fairly low - so no need to blast housemates with noise.

[Guest]

Loud is fine in the right setting, but not if you share a house. Most modern guitar amps have at least two volume controls per channel so you can still get a good sound by turning the pre-amp volume up high and the keeping master volume fairly low - so no need to blast housemates with noise.

well you'd expect that he'd use headphones or even strum quietly, but he just plays over me when I speak, then says he's going to make a racket even if he's in someone elses house, like he's got no respect. Some people will take a hint and play in a another room, but I get the third degree.

[Guest]

my friend plays guitar and he's very very good but sometimes he plays such an excruciating racket or wall of pure noise I want to die, because I can't study or concentrate. how can I tell him to calm it down without hurting his feelings, without being insulted or shouted down.

Respect works both ways. He should respect your feelings and be prepared to play quietly, or at times that fit in with your study needs. My wife and I both play electric guitars, but we are very careful not to cause a noise nuisance for anyone. It is worth bringing the subject up tactfully. Your friend could perhaps blow the roof, while you are out, for example.
I would question how good a friend is, that rides rough over your feelings.

this is the thing, it's a nuisance if someone is playing a really annoying riff that changes key every other second and does your head in. But some musicians won;t be told if something they are playing sounds terrible and instead defiantly play to prove a point. I tried to grab it off him and then it turned into a full scale argument.

[mary huff]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

[Guest]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

musicians are very sensitive people

[mary huff]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

musicians are very sensitive people

Ask him to strum "how deep is your love"

[Guest]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

musicians are very sensitive people

Ask him to strum "how deep is your love"

that's the kind of song I'd like to hear, instead it's uneasy listening, the type of stuff designed to annoy. I can't say anything without it being turned against me. I try to speak and get played over, the louder I speak the louder the noise.

[KiltyCol]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

Guitarists are sensitive people (I know, as I am one). We hate muddy sound.
I do consider others in context. We have a house that enables us to have a band practice without the people next door knowing, unless errant visiting musicians park across their driveway. We don't practice much after 10pm in any case.
I like to enjoy music without infringeing others' right to peace and like peace from having others' music forced on me.

[Guest]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

Guitarists are sensitive people (I know, as I am one). We hate muddy sound.
I do consider others in context. We have a house that enables us to have a band practice without the people next door knowing, unless errant visiting musicians park across their driveway. We don't practice much after 10pm in any case.
I like to enjoy music without infringeing others' right to peace and like peace from having others' music forced on me.

Say you are playing something and you think it's really good and the best thing ever. Then someone comes along and tells you in no uncertain terms to be quiet. How would you respond to that?

[Guest]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

Guitarists are sensitive people (I know, as I am one). We hate muddy sound.
I do consider others in context. We have a house that enables us to have a band practice without the people next door knowing, unless errant visiting musicians park across their driveway. We don't practice much after 10pm in any case.
I like to enjoy music without infringeing others' right to peace and like peace from having others' music forced on me.

It's fine to go to like a jam room and piss off people in there, but not in the house. And they wonder why their guitar strings mysteriously snap.

[KiltyCol]

Most houses are not suitable for band practices. We moved from one such semi detached house many years ago, to one where you can make a noise without neighbours hearing.
If I practice on my own, I sometimes don't bother to plug in, so not even the family hear me.

[Guest]

Most houses are not suitable for band practices. We moved from one such semi detached house many years ago, to one where you can make a noise without neighbours hearing.
If I practice on my own, I sometimes don't bother to plug in, so not even the family hear me.

this is more considerate.

[Guest]

You could shove the guitar up his arse and ask him to play it then.

Guitarists are sensitive people (I know, as I am one). We hate muddy sound.
I do consider others in context. We have a house that enables us to have a band practice without the people next door knowing, unless errant visiting musicians park across their driveway. We don't practice much after 10pm in any case.
I like to enjoy music without infringeing others' right to peace and like peace from having others' music forced on me.

Strumming quietly is nice, it's when they play it really hard and you just wanna stick it up their arse.