Heartbroken again

[Riz_1980]

Im sorry but i cant talk about this anymore than i have done, here is hopefully my last post on this matter......

bfc you know very little about what has been said between me and her and i would advise you try and keep neutral in future.

Its ok taking her side but what about my side? does anybody actually give a s#it about how i feel?

I`ve never.....NEVER felt like i am doing at the moment..... yeah silly as it sounds she means that much to me.

I`m giving her time and space as she requested. She said shes confused but being told not to bother confuses me.

Dont have a go at me but when somebody tells you to your face that they love you and then you kiss its not really a joke!!!!!

Then all of a sudden over a period of 2-3 days she tells me she DID love me and now she doesnt.... imagine how that feels!

No reason or explaination, i just get told not to waste my time and get on with life.....

It really upsets me inside and NO i dont need to see a doctor... there is no cure for what im going thru at the moment.

I had hoped that oneday we can resume our love for each other.. but shes took that hope away from me when she told me she doesnt love me!

I still dont understand what ive done wrong and am lost in my hurt.

My friends try and comfort me as much as they can but in all honesty is not easy coming to terms with what has happened.

I told her i would wait but shes not intrested at all.....

After all the feelings and talks we shared including very personal things and secrets...... what is left?


Anyway im going now....

Going to get out more in the future and keep my heart to myself and not get hurt like this!

Take care members and have a good life!

Bye!

Riz

[butterflychick]

i wasnt taking her side indefinately......i was just showing her side of it to...i mean she cant.

[Riz_1980]

i wasnt taking her side indefinately......i was just showing her side of it to...i mean she cant.

Sorry, I lost my rag abit, didnt mean to sound harsh.

No hard feelings.

Riz

[sachilli]

hi riz, im so sorry to hear of ur heart ache. it tore my heart to hear u talk of her as ur lost soul mate .

be strong. if its not meant to b it wouldnt happen. it doent make sense pining away for her when she dosnt have u in her heart.

in time u'll get over it. time heals wounds.

it'll get better. ur lifes not over.u can find a woman to give u the love that u deserve.

[Riz_1980]

Ok so shes told me she doesnt love me, im not sure if she ever did now..... pretty confused.

We will remain friends which has made me happier......

I`m going to try and give her all the time and space she needs but it is difficult as we used to speak alot and text etc.

I cant ask her what she is feeling as she really is confused and has alot on her mind which i understand.

She told me she did love me...... when i asked whats changed she said she doesnt know.

I do understand that shes going thru alot right now and she knows she has my full support whatever happens.

Im not angry with her at all to be honest, just somewhat confused as to what went wrong?

We both talked alot (in depth) about the future and shared intimate thoughts, just to suddenly get told to get on with my life etc and that she doesnt love me is very out of the blue...... its not like her.

Anyway im going to carry on being there for her whenever she needs me......

I will be honest and say it will be difficult controlling my feelings for her and just keep to "friends" only but after what she has been thru at the moment and the past im not suprised. She needs my support as much as i need hers (as friends).

Meanwhile im going to take things slowly..... will try and come _ in chat as much as possible as you lot are really a friendly bunch of people

Love can be a strange on wonderful thing.... but you never know when hurt is lurking around the corner.

Thanks all for your advice and just listening.

Riz

[Guest]

Riz its good of u to continue being there for her, but dont put ur life on hold in hopes that she'll come back to u. u hav to continue living ur life. If the words come out of her mouth that she DOESNT LOVE YOU! i think that u need some closure, a good reason to live with. how could she jus leave u hangin with no reason?

[Riz_1980]

Riz its good of u to continue being there for her, but dont put ur life on hold in hopes that she'll come back to u. u hav to continue living ur life. If the words come out of her mouth that she DOESNT LOVE YOU! i think that u need some closure, a good reason to live with. how could she jus leave u hangin with no reason?

I agree with what you have said and know that i must go on... infact im hoping she and her mates will help me become less shy and help me get out more.

She called herself a b#tch but shes not really, ok she thought she loved me, not her fault really its just one of those things.

I glad me and her will remain friends and maybe it will open my social life up abit, meeting her friends etc and so on.

It was hard at first but i realise it wasnt to be.

Riz

[gazza3000]

hi

[gazza3000]

hi riz .. iknow what your going through . it is really tough splitting up with your girl . i met my ex when i was 15 im now 24 we split on boxing day i had the worst new year ever .. im left here with all the bills and stuff but i get by . i know its really hard but just think.... the future is in your hands and life is what you make of it.. you never know whos round the corner .when (not if) you meet another girl youll say to yourself "what was all the fuss about"

come on mate chin up

it happens to the best of us

[Loki]

Hi Riz,

I know exactly how you feel as well, although the length of time I spent with her is absolutely tiny compare to you. However, near enough the same thing happened to me, brushed off by txt, told me she wanted to be with me then changed her mind a day later (literally!) even though she had feelings for me, telling me I should get on with life and I will find someone else easy (like you, I didnt want "someone", I wanted her!). Though she did have a reason to brush me off, but IMO she kind of contradicts her last suggestion to me (moving on in life).

Unlike you, I cannot just be friends with her. I wont be able to cope knowing she is in someone's arms. I'm trying my best to do what everyone has suggested; move on and forget about her. But its easier said then done, especially when you think she could be "The One".

gazza3000: I completely agree with your last sentence; "you never know whos round the corner. when you meet another girl youll say to yourself "what was all the fuss about".

But the problem I've got is to get my heart to accept what has happened and move on instead of hoping there could still be a chance she may want to be with me!

[A Man]

Hi Riz, I'm sorry to hear of your predicament. You will get better, believe me. I split with my ex last July and it ripped my life apart. The woman who I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with decided to start seeing somebody else. I would have died for her, I really would. Even now if I see or hear anything that reminds me of her I have to stop myself from crying, be it home or at work.
BUT - I feel a million times better than I did last July. It is like a block of ice, you have to wait for it to gradually thaw out. Once the thawing is complete you will forget that the ice was even there - crap analogy I know, but I'm not good with analogies.

Keep your chin up - bend the ears of your friends and family with how you are feeling. DO THIS, IT IS IMPORTANT.
Also, take some exercise. I am now a gym addict with a better body than the fella my ex left me for nyer nyer!

Seriously - no words from others can make you feel better now, but they can make you realise that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Take care mate.

[moonlit_mauve]

u'll get over it in time...but give her some space ...if things dont work out then move on
as said in the earlier post.... join a gym,it'll boost ur self confidence

[Guest]

Its happened again, my heart has been broken and i feel my life is over... all i have had mostly for the past 10 years is hurt and pain.

My ex dumped me without reason by text and now the lady who i want to spend my life with doesnt love me

Im in so much pain right now, what have i been doing wrong?

Im so lost and my work mates said i should take time off work..... i said i cant because when i am alone i cry and the hurt gets worse, almost cried today working.

I have my own place now but it doesnt mean anything to me.......

I dont post much but thought i would share this with you, i need advice... what can or do i do?

She told me she needs time and space to think about things......

Im hurting so badly..... ive been advised to go and see i doctor but i cant.... they cant help me, or can they?

help.

Riz

[Guest]

Its happened again, my heart has been broken and i feel my life is over... all i have had mostly for the past 10 years is hurt and pain.

My ex dumped me without reason by text and now the lady who i want to spend my life with doesnt love me

Have a party after party after party and be thankful to kunt is gone