Helloooooo! Where is everyone?

[Emma B 88]

Oh Nat! I know it's easier said then done but please do not try to stress! If you feel stressed during your pregnancy your baby will be prone to this attitude and will be stressed out him/herself when born! That's what happened to my friend, she was stressed out all the time during pregnancy and all her little one does is scream for her all the time! I don't know if that's true but my sister-in-law was calm through both of her pregnancies and her little angels are good as gold. So please just think about the positive things in life rather then the negative, it'll all come together.

I'm goin through stress at the moment too as I'm moving, realised haven't got the money to pay the electrcian which was a huge bill and my current flat just won't sell!! It's frustrating! I hate this credit crunch!

Thanks ODN, I remember feeling like this last month and then 2 weeks later I had the horrible monthly that I didn't want to see! Hopefully this is the month, still not trying to think about it, this discussion board is really helping! I'm so impatient!! I want it to happen now!!

How is everyone else? xx

[TRSGIRL]

Stress... Nat I know where you are coming from. Emotionally I have had possibly the most stressful week of my life. Last Sunday night I saw a message on my partners comptuer from an ex girlfriend (I have no problem with him being in touch with his exes) asking after Bella. He came upstairs and I asked "whos Bella?" From the look on his face I knew that she wasnt a pet or her nickname for his car. No it turns out that my dear partner has a daughter from a past relationship, I wont go into the particulars but basically it was a brief relationship she lied about her contraception and the relationship was over before he found out she was pregnant. He had access for a year and a half but then she started to blackmail him whilst also insinuating that the child wasnt his. It all ended up with his parents (who are quite late in their years) having to take our a restraining order against her family as her dad (who has been in prison) went round to the house and hit his 70 year old father when my partner refused to give any more money (on top of the maintenace he was already giving). I can understand that this was obviously a difficult time and that it perhaps seemed best to try and keep it from me, he is not 100% sure that the little girl is his as they did have a very stormy and troubled relationship.

Yet I am angry that his mum agreed it was best to keep this from me! That my unborn daughter has a half sister she would not have known about if it hadnt been from that message. That his parents knew I was compleltely oblivious and that they were prepared to let him decieve me into believing this was his first daughter let alone his first child. I am so angry at all the chances he had to tell me and did not!

I am also mad at the fact that I have only found out off my own back there were no plans to tell me... so here i am 32 weeks pregnant and faced with this massive bombshell. I have been feeling so sick since I found out, the first two days I cried so much I actually made myself ill and had to take a day off work. I love him but I feel like I will never be able to trust him ever again and I feel like in a way he has taken the happiness away from what we had. I was so excited about starting my maternity leave in 3 weeks and spending time together before christmas too.

He doesnt want me to tell my parents and so far i havent as i dont want things to be strained but I think he should have to face up to what he has done. We lived with my parents for 6 months and I feel like he has lied to them too. all the times they said to him "your firstborn/first daugher/youre going to be a daddy". I also feel so angry at myself for feeling jealous/hurt etc because I think of all of the people that cant have children (my cousin has a daughter but had 2 miscarriages this year) and how much worse this would have been for me if I couldnt have my own child.

I have really been so up and down the last week.. tearful/angry/accepting/guilty!

Nat I'm sending you big hugs.. not long now till you get to hold your little bundle of joy. I know I cant wait to meet mine xxxxxx

[natalie80]

hello! trsgirl!!
i am really sorry to hear what you are going through at the mo, u must be a reck?
when i was about 18 i was with this guy who i thought was the one (what a joke!) and we started talking about having kids, he kept saying it would be great to be a dad for the first time and he couldnt wait to have a baby with me, so about a year of being together i decided i was going to come off the pill, booked to see doc`s etc and then about day before i would take my last pill his mum dropped something out to me that she thought i knew about! the bloke i was with was already a dad and she was 4 years old, they hadnt been in contact with each other since she fell pregnant, but that was down to her telling my bloke at the time that she had lost the baby, and my bloke only found that it was a lie because his mate saw her with a pushchair around the time the baby would have been born!

so i couldnt be with him cuz he lied and i realized if i did love him as much as i thought i did i would have stayed with him! but fate must have taken a hand cuz i hear he has a bout 3 kids with different women and hes in prison at the moment! but if i found out all that when i was pregnant then i dont know what i would have done?

to me at the end of the day, you have a baby growing inside you, yes in the outside world things have gone crazy for you in your life, but baby comes first now, you need to look after yourself and worry about number one, cuz after all its not the babaies fault or yours!!

please keep in touch, if you ever need to have a chat, just pop on and il get back to ya!
look after yourself girl and bump and i will speak to you soon xx
Nat xx

[Emma B 88]

O dear that doesn;t sound nice! I hpe everything works out for you both please keep me updated on how things are going!

I am stressing out big time today, I am really trying to put on a smile but it just isn't working! I got money issues, flat won't sell, I'm skint as anything and it just seems like it's falling apart! I just want to get into my new place but I am so impatient! Hopefully it'll happen soon!

I hope u girls get btter, please keep me posted!

E x

[foolsgold]

Well ladies I've got an appointment set up in mid January to get my IUD out so the first chance I have at falling pregnant is the first week of Feb.... IF my cycles stay consistent, they have been for the past year or so (between 27-32 day cycles, most are 30-31 days). So yah... I'm starting to get excited/nervous.

[brunettebimbo]

I sat and read the husband rebelling thread for about 2 hours last night, some of the things where so sad!

I haven't got time to read through this entire thread but did ziggyfairy and offdutynurse get pregnant?

[TRSGIRL]

Hi Nat,

hows your maternity leave going? I Cant believe I only have 6 weeks left. Part of me cant wait but another part of me knows that I'm really going to miss being pregnant! I think I have bump envy-my bumps really compact and all up front-you cant see Im pregnant unless you see me from in front. Whenever I'm seeing the midwife or at the hospital like I was today I see women who must be about as pregnant as I am with huge bumps and I'm really jealous!xxx

[natalie80]

Hi TRSGIRL!!

ive got 4 weeks to go now and i cant wait!!
you sound just like me, im carrying all on the front so from the back you cant tell im pregnant! i kept going on about my belly saying that everyone elses was bigger than mine, but i am so glad im not huge!!
I hurt my back when i was 18 so all through my pregnancy ive been waiting for my back to play up and 2 weeks ago it started so i dont want to be any bigger!!

im thinking that i might have the baby early and my mum said it to, she said the way im carrying she reckons around the 8th my due date is 14th so we will just have to wait and see!!

I just want to know what im having now boy or girl?
im getting excited then i get really nervous and start thinking how the hell does a big thing like that come through a small opening like that, i know everything stretches out but you cant get your head around it sometimes its a miracle!!

Anyway hope everythings going ok with you?
we will have to keep each other updated now been as we are only weeks apart!!

take care
lv me and bump xxx

[Emma B 88]

Well... she showed her ugly mug!! Come On today!! Really disappointed ... that is all I need right now!!

Oh well better luck next month!! xx

[TRSGIRL]

Good luck for next month Emma.

My back is really killing me these days-it is better if I am walking around or sitting in a comfy chair but I am working till a week on Friday so spend most of my day sat in front of a computer still. Its horrible because I cant really get up to walk around that much and when I am sitting here I can feel the weight of my bump and boobs pulling on my back . Cant wait to start my maternity leave on the 28th.. On Saturday me and TR went for a really long walk around the lake near our house, it'll be nice to actually enjoy some hours of daylight and go out for walks everyday.

How organized are you? I have got everything bar cot sheets and a few things for my hospital bag, I packed mine and the baby's bag last week-after all of our troubles over the last few weeks TR saw the bags and thought that I was moving out.. oh dear! Things seems to be getting back to normal although I dont know how I will feel once the baby is here. I'm scared that he's going to end up over compensating and spoiling our daughter rotten (it is also quite likely she will be an only child for a while) and I'll end up being mean mummy. I do think he'll be a good father, he is so devoted to me and I love him so much, I guess I wont forget what happened but in time it'll be less on my mind everyday until I barely think of it at all.

It must be even more exciting as you dont know whether you are having a boy or a girl. Ive known since the 20 week scan-we've got the name Lillie Mei. Everyone at work/suppliers are constantly asking me when I'm due but it feels like ages as it is 6 weeks or possibly even 8 if I go overdue! I recon that I will go over as my mum was late with both me and my brother.

Take care of yourself and keep me updated xxxx

[Emma B 88]

O God! I'm seein babies everywhere!! When is it my turn??? want it to be!! xx

[staceyb]

O God! I'm seein babies everywhere!! When is it my turn??? want it to be!! xx

me too

[halfpint]

I sat and read the husband rebelling thread for about 2 hours last night, some of the things where so sad!
I haven't got time to read through this entire thread but did ziggyfairy and offdutynurse get pregnant?

well i've read right through both the topics 'husband rebelling' and all 48 pages of this one, and boy some of the ladies have been through the mill on their journies!!

offdutynurse did get pregnant and had a little boy in august!!

unfortunately ziggyfairy did get pregnant in august i think it was but at 6 weeks the baby stopped growing, so from what i gather she's having a break from trying again.

[natalie80]

Hi everyone!! how is everyone doing?
Im just waiting now and its starting to do my head in, ive got 3 weeks till im due, but i have this feeling im going to come early?
In the last few weeks ive just gone huge and i feel like im going to pop at any min!!

Ive got everything ready now, the carseats in!! nursery is done, my bags are packed!
just want it over and done with now these last few weeks have gone so slow.

My hubby got emotional the other day, he turned to me and said he dosent know what he would do without me? he said if something went wrong when i went into labour he wouldnt cope! he does think of the postive things too but i guess he has to think that way to!

I cant wait to become a mummy now and i know andy cant wait to be a daddy!
Im just really nervous about the birth now and what to expect and that?
well i will keep you updated, if i do go quiet on here for a while you know why!!

and heres me last friday at 36 weeks ahhhhh!!!!


i can not believe how huge i am oh well theres nothing i can do about it till baba comes out now!
please keep us updated everyone!!!

[brunettebimbo]

Aww you both look so happy! Good luck Natalie xx