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Hewitto
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Help me please. :(

Postby Hewitto on Mon Dec 20, 2004 3:13 am

Hey, im a 17 year old male in need of help. I just can't seem to find a girlfriend.

Im not the type of male you would look at and think "WOW", but im also no the kind of male you would look at and think "eww" im just a average looking guy.

Im popular at school and in my town, so i hang around with people with really hot girls. Because of as i said im not the best looking one i just don't seem to get anywhere. I just fall for them and don't get notthing back.

I get on with all of the girls but i just either don't get to know them enough or get on with them to much and become such good friends that i feel unable to like.

Is it my personality? Well i am always happy, love having fun and i am always called the "funnyiest" or the "Cuteist" person but thats it. Then all the boys who are complete pricks come in treat them like S*** and get with them!

The only people who do like me are younger. All my age girls like older boys and only younger like me. By younger i mean like 15 so its just to young.

My last relationship was when i was 16 and she was 15 but it never lasted at she was my sisters best friend.

What can i do? i don't want to change into someone who people dislike and call jackasses. But i need a girlfriend i feel lonely at night and in the day, i get cuddles of my girl mates but its not the same.

Help me please!
:( :cry: :( :cry: :( :cry:

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Postby Lizbo on Sun Jan 02, 2005 8:49 pm

Send me a pic babe, i'll tell ya whether you're fit!! Lol. Sorry.

I do feel for you... I can't really relate though... In your story I'm the equivalent of one of the 'hot girls'. Lol.

Anyway, on a serious note, broaden your horizons. Look else where, bars, clubs etc - despite the stereotype, you can meet nice people in bars and clubs! As long as you're not too pissed! Be yourself. Don't change, a girl will be very very lucky to have you one day.

Also, stop jinxing yourself. The more you think you want these girls/to stop being lonely, the longer you'll stay like it. Don't think about it, have a good time with your mates and you'll be suprised what will be just around the corner x
xxx Lizbo xxx

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Postby mostirreverent on Mon Jan 03, 2005 6:42 am

Be a bit aloof. Give a girl a look or a knowing smirk, and move on. Chances are, this will intrigue her. Don’t be too needy! This may all sound stupid or unnecessary, but there are many dynamics here. There is a pack mentality among HS girls, and they are also feeling out their own strengths and weaknesses when it comes to courtship. Women need to be needed, but they also see a man that is not too easy as being a more dominant mate, and thus more desirable in a Darwinian sense.

If you are with a woman you like and are getting on with her, just look at her. She will ask “what, what is it”. Give a smirk then just stair at her. Then tell her something you like about her looks. Or touch her cheek and say how pretty she is. If that works, just look at her without looking needy and say, “Kiss me”. If she says no, reply matter of factly, O.K. and remain as if it never happened. If she insists on making something of it, just say, “look, it’s not a big deal. I just found you attractive and thought a kiss would be nice. Don’t worry about it.” Be honest, but be strong while saying it. Don’t wine or sound like a pussy

If she tells a friend, and either of them gives you grief about it, look straight at them with an expression of “whatever”, then smile and keep walking. Or answer with a “What, what’s the big deal, she’s cute and I’m a guy, what did you expect me to do”. Whatever you do, don’t appear to be angry or disappointed. Women smell fear. Be strong and confident. They eat that up. You see, Jerks may be jerks, but they are strong and confident. That is why woman like them, not because they are jerks. I’m no stud either, but I was quite, and lucky enough to be 6-3 and not too skinny. I was never a jerk and I did pretty well.

They may even talk about you. This will get girls that don’t know you interested or at the very least, aware that you exist.

Unfortunately, there are some games and some rules to play by. You can also sit it out for a while and be yourself. I promise you this much, there is a girl that thinks you are cute. The hard part is finding her, and allowing her to feel comfortable letting you know. I can’t tell you how you will know though.
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