I think the main thing is to have confidence in yourself while conversing with others. Interactions with people are far less about what is actually "said", and much more about the nonverbal, e.g., eye contact, posture, and other types of body language. Go to a cafe or somewhere where there is a lot of social activity and watch people to study their behaviours. Notice body language and what seems to be appropriate and successful interactions. But remember, every woman is different, maybe you don't need to change as much as you think you do. I'm sure there are women out there who will like you for who you are.
I'm a little embarrassed to put this, but I read somewhere on this board that when you're nervous or not feeling confident around a woman, pretend that you've just cum all over her face. That's a little extreme I know. Or perhaps you can imagine that this woman is totally into you and if you decide she's worth it, then you will consider getting to know her better. I remember having a confidence issue, just as most people do, and remember a time when I was nervous about a first date because I really liked the guy and he was also my boss. Anyway, I just listened to a song over and over that gave me a lot of confidence while I was getting ready before he came to pick me up. I also had a glass of wine or a beer beforehand which loosened me up even more and throughout the date, the tables had turned and I was the one who felt totally in control.
So my point is, is it's not all about what you say, it's how you present yourself. Also being funny and witty and real are things that are important to many women. If you focus a little more on the other person, and a little less on yourself then they will know you are genuinely interested which is the key. Also, they will be more apt to reciprocate interest when you exhibit it yourself.
Also, you might consider other interests/hobbies. You can meet people this way, and also have something other than work to talk about.
Take care! And don't be afraid to be yourself!
~ambrosia~
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