by richopp » Tue May 30, 2006 9:45 pm
I was in college during the mid-1960's; we all basically slept with everyone and anyone. I don't have a number, but once around 1995 I found a list I made in the late 1980's (must have been feeling my age coming on) and it was well over 100. At one time, I thought I was a 'sex addict,' whatever that is, but I cared for and had fun with each and every one of my partners. The interesting part is that I am not an attractive male in the traditional sense--movie star and all that. I am regular height (6') weight (165lbs.) and very average looking. I found out early on, however, that I was in love with women--almost all women--and that by being myself--a Southern (US) gentleman--and being able to talk intelligently to a given lady, it was not uncommon to end up making love with them even if we did not end up having a long term relationship. A very nice sidelight of these experiences is that I learned to be in tune with my partner at all times and always made sure she had as satisfying an experience as possible without being 'fake' about it, if that makes any sense. I have been told that it 'seems as if' I really love the person while making love to them, and I suppose, like most men, I really do during intimate times. Sex is such a great gift and pastime; I can't remember when it was casual or routine for me. I was married for a while--she fell out of love--and even though the sex was great (because I love her), I am not really over it yet and have had noone in over a year. By reading this forum I am trying to "get it up" to move on, meet women, and so forth. The lesson for me is that even though I have had the honor of being intimate with many women, and loved every one of them while we were together, when I finally fell in love I lost the ability to have that close feeling with a new lady like I used to be able to do. As J. Giles says, 'Love Stinks'...
This Forum is helping, however, and I know that I will be meeting and asking out interesting women again. As they say, "Timing is everything!"