Hi Emma;
There are a lot more men out there than you would think that have this fetish, myself included so your hubby is not alone in this fetish by a long way.
Where you go from here will depend on exactly how you feel about your hubby dressing up in
stockings etc. I don't know how long you have been married but I'm sure it was quite a shock both to you and him when you caught him wearing your
stockings etc, if you never had any idea that he liked doing this.
I can only give you the benfit of my own experiences on this. This fetish started in childhood for me and has stayed with me throughout the years (I'm 35 now) and for the most part has stayed a secret in my adult life until recently (about a year ago).
I was caught out a few times in my teenage years by my mother who just put it down to experimentation during puberty etc. I was also caught out by one of my early girlfriends when I was trying on her red
fishnets after a night out at a fancy dress party. She was shocked to say the least but when she calmed down a bit she asked me why I did it and I said in all honesty that I had always liked the feel of the material against my legs. She at first thought I was gay or at least bisexual but it didnt take me long to persuade her otherwise (We had sex while I was wearing the
fishnets and it was wonderful for both of us). She wasn't very enthusiastic about trying this again thoough so I never brought it up again. We split up soon after this( not because of the
tights fetish) so I never really got to try it again with her( I was 21 at the time by the way).
I actually wear
tights quite a lot under my trousers and mainly all through the winter as I work outside a lot and they are a very practical and cheap way of staying warm plus I get some support for my legs from them, more so than from thermal leggings etc.
Anyway, about a year ago I met a new girlfriend and she called round one time soon after we had started going out and when she found me upstairs typing away on my computer in a nice pair of black opaques under my shorts( which I wear under my work overalls) she was obviously a bit startled, I explained that I had been wearing them for work and I just hadn't got changed out of my work stuff yet (apart from taking off my overalls to put in the wash). She asked me why I wore them and how I came to wear them in the first place. I told her an ex girlfriend had suggested it once when I was complaining about my legs being cold and aching while at work (this was a true statement). She accepted this explanation without question and seeing as she wasn't at all fazed by this I saw a chance to take this issue a step further. I told her about my ex girlfriend catching me wearing her
fishnets and I also told her that I had done it to see what they felt like. She asked me if I got a sexual thrill out of it and I said yes, still she didn't seem to be all that bothered. She then asked me if I masturbated while wearing them to which I replied "somethimes". She then became more interested and asked if I had made love to anyone else after my ex girlfriend all them years ago while wearing
tights and I said "no" because I had never met anyone else who I felt comfortable enough with to tell them my secret although plenty of them knew I wore them for work etc none of them knew about the sexual side of it.
She then said she was glad I had been honest about it and that she was very happy I had felt able to tell her about my fetish especially as I hadn't know her very long and she told me she didn't mind in the slightest that I had this fetish and in fact she was quite curious as to what it would feel like to make love to a man dressed in
tights, You can imagine how pleased I was by now and I couldn't beleive how accepting my new girlfriend was. She even suggested that she could put on a pair of
tights as well while we made love to see if it made it better for me.
The sex was better than anything else I have ever had in my whole life. I felt totally relaxed and the sense of relief was amazing. After going out with my girlfriend for about a year I now have a much more intimate relationship with my girlfriend than I have ever had with anyone else. I think the experience brought us much closer together and also enabled us to talk about sex issues much more openly than we probably would have before and it enabled her to be more open with me about her own fantasies so I could make some of her own come true which I was more than happy to do for her. Our sex life regularly includes a bit of fun with
tights( I never did like wearing
stockings for some reason) We don't do it all the time as that would spoil it I think and they do say that variety is the spice of life so although it is a part of our sex lives, it is no more so than any other part of it.
To sum up I think you will have to decide whether or not you can live with your husbands fetish, I can tell you this however, he has probably been doing this for a very long time and it will be very hard for him to quit if you really don't like the idea. To be honest I would suggest that unless the idea really disagrees with you that you should give it a try. Your husband will more than likely be very happy and will probaly be more than willing to try out any fantasies that you may have that you haven't told him about. You never know, it may lead you in to a new level of intimacy with your husband that you haven't experienced before.
You will probably have to talk to him about how far this fetish goes with him before you can proceed. I.E ask him whether or not he wants to just wear them for sexual gratification( whether making love to you or masturbating by himself) or whether he is a true crossdresser and wants to wear the full get up as it were (wigs, make up, dresses, shoes etc). If he tells you it's the full get up option then you may have to set some ground rules for him such as he only does it in the house and doesnt go out in public(unless of course you dont mind that). Personally I'm not interested in the slightest in dressing up as a woman and I'm quite content with just the
tights etc but everyone is diffferent.
In the end the ball is in your court, I hope my comments have been of help to you and that you end up with a stronger relationship after this. If you want to ask any other questions regarding this issue please post in here and I will be happy to help you further.
I'm sorry if my post was rather long but I wanted to give as much info as possible so as to be of help.
by emma uk on Wed Nov 03, 2004 12:01 pm 
