husband wants to watch me have sex with another man

[lonely_wife]

Thanks Saxon and Davion for the great advice. I thought i had decided to call the whole thing off but then i seemed to have gotten pulled back in when i started talking to the other man well he started talking to me. Another reason other than the feelings and just wanting to be with him well and not to mention he is the only one i am confortable in joing in. I want to know what he is like in bed. I know that sounds silly but i have never had a orgasm with my hubsand. He is wonderful and i enjoy sex with him but i never have climaxed. He tries so hard and does everything i tell him i like and we are very open about it but i just can't seem to get there with him. It did used to be more enjoyable i do have to admitt. He was 6 inches before the big weight gain he had now he is oh i would say 5 and he doesn't reach the places he used to. I have never in my life had a large cok never anything over 6 1/2 and always moderate girth. The other man is said to have a pretty nice big round one and i would love to know what the difference will feel like. Ya i have had toys that were larger but i didn't like it i hate the rubber plastice feeling i want the real thing. I want to feel him and my husband inside me at the same time and yes they are both okay with this. That is a huge fantasy of mine and i would love to see it come true. I just have to get past these feelings or find a way for myself to allow someone else instead of him someone i don't have feelings for. I just have problems with strangers i always have had . And i don't want a drop dead hottie i am looking for more the farm boy/country boy type and he even fits that description.

[saxon]

Sounds like you mind is made up....!! Enjoy as long as you know there will be no regrets and let us know how you go. Here's hoping my wife travels a little further along the same road...

[lonely_wife]

Thanks saxon even though i have made up my mind (i think) it's not going to be happening anytime soon He can't get away until 6 months from now

[lonely_wife]

Ok it's going to happen but there has been a change in plans it isn't going to happen with this guy. He finally sent me a pic of him and i am sorry i know size isn't supposed to matter. But 4 inches i gotta have more than that! So on a search for another man damn my luck!

[davian]

Such a disappointment for a girl! Never mind, at least you have more time to consider before you act. Good luck with your search!

[ajax05]

After a few years of limited dabbling in cuckoldry, my wife of 30 years has found a partner who is younger and better endowed than me - they do it at his place a few times a month and she comes home and likes me to eat her and we have wild sex - he uses a raincoat so I just taste the soreness in her - the others she had were not as skilled as me so I never worried about it but now I wonder if she will not want my sex anymore as she may get better sex from him - she says although he is bigger and better built than me, that he is not a good lover so I shouldn't worry - she wants to invite him to our house so I can watch/join in - she always says she in dearly in love with me and would stop seeing him if I asked - should I let him come over, or tell her to stop seeing him, or let things go like they are? any advice from the wise peeps here?

[MaxtheGaul]

I do think that if you are going to let your wife have a bit on the side she should at least choose someone who is a good lover!

However I suspect that he is, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings of get you too worried.

Perhaps if you saw him in action you would see how well he satisfies her. If he's not that good I would tell her to stop seeing him and look for someone better.

[Demode]

my husband is very sexual...more so then I...and wants to watch me have sex with another man....he knows that I had sex with my boss and it is okay with him...but this is a little different and I'm unsure about it

Don't do it unless you're sure about it. Otherwise, it can be stressy for you.

[WhiteTrash]

I was going to reply... but I'm too horny to think

[mrmeener]

There are two basic sexual motivations here, and I have experienced both.

Where a man is fearful of losing his woman, there is something unimaginably erotic about knowing that she has been with another man. It is a masochistic sensation and totally and utterly intense. Her desirability is increased by his knowledge that she has had sex with another man.

I am a straight male. When my last girlfriend and I were splitting up, toward the end of the relationship she was unfaithful (as I was), but once I knew that she had started on a new sexual relationship it was just the biggest turn on in the world. I would have done anything to have her back and to have sex with her knowing she had recently been with another. A very bizarre and incomprehensible emotion, but an incredibly strong one. This is also the reason why so often, if a lady wants to get her man back, all she need do is go with another man.

Equally, I am now in the strongest relationship that I have ever experienced in my life. It is total love. However, that love has allowed me to enjoy threesomes with my wife and other men and women without any pain, without any feelings of humiliation, it is much more of a sense of real love and strangely, also a domination thing. I love to see my wife so sexually aroused by the attention and sheer naughtiness of the situation. She is the object of our attention, her pleasure is uppermost in my mind. Seeing her spoilt rotten by another man or another woman is an utterly intense sexual feeling for me.

It just so happens that prior to us meeting, my fantasies often used to involve sharing my partner, and hers used to involve being the object of desire and sexual excitement of several men. She is less excited by another woman, but loves how it excites me.

So, if you utterly love each other, and feel 100% secure in your relationship, then for both of you sharing your bed with another can be a truly amazing and surprisingly loving experience. If one of you is fearful in any way, then expect pain, although if you have the slightest masochistic side, even that could be enjoyable in a strange way.

Having had MFM and FMF threesomes, then I have to say that I have enjoyed the former more. Very surprisingly, my emotions in the FMF situation were more akin to jealousy, as once I was spent, my wife and her female friend were able to carry on enjoying each other for ages and I frankly did feel a little left out. Given that as a male, my fantasy had often been to have sex with two women, I was very surprised that it never lived up to my dreams, whereas the MFM ones did.

So, don't dismiss the idea of making love to another man in front of your husband. It may turn him on more than you can imagine, and you will probably enjoy it rather more than you might like to admit, but only if you really feel secure in your relationship. Remember, you can never undo the experience, and although it can be utterly wonderful, if you do it without the right feelings it might be very damaging.

Hope this long post helps someone out there.

[donna31]

thank you very much mrmeener. you explained to me things that my husband in his inarticulate way was trying to tell me. i knew that he enjoy seeing me taken sexually by another man and i wanted to understand the core of his feelings, but his explanations were clear as the proverbial mud. i know he desires only the best for me and believes that it is good that i am empowered sexually. what i was wanting to know from his was that core feeling that allowed the intellectual concept of what we do. I love the naughtiness of it too. i felt he did too and i think you hit my husband's nail right on the head. Melvin, in letting me have sex with other men, is showing his love for me and at the same time satisfying basic sexual yearnings. how cool. you strike me as being a very smart man.

[WhiteTrash]

Thank you Mr Meener for your honest post x

[MaxtheGaul]

As a guy I think mrmeener puts it very well. I think it's a very primitive thing. If your girl have has someone else's semen in her, then you need to load her up with yours a s soon as possible in order to try to make sure that she has your babies and not his. Hence if she shags another guy she becomes instantly and urgently much more desirable.

Also I have found that when the woman does have sex with someone outside the relationship she often seems to have a need to compensate by being very available and very hot for her partner, almost like she's trying to make up for her naughtiness.

This can work really well for both parties as long as the jealousy thing doesn't get in the way.

[ajax05]

I'm not sure why I get excited when my wife has been with another man, but I suspect it has to do with me knowing that I have satisfied her by proxy, in that I have allowed her to be with him, and this has allowed her to be satisfied even though I am not there - sort of like when I stimulate her clit with a vibrator until the pleasure is so intense that she feels the orgasm all the way down to her feet - although the vibrator is a substitute for me, and brings her a pleasure more intense than I can provide with my johnson, I still provide the orgasm she receives from it - when she comes home after her encounters, she is all sexed-up for several days, and her orgasms are easy to provide and more intense than when she has not seen her friend for awhile - She tells me this is so because she knows it excites me when she tells me about what she did and that is a turn-on for her - she even insists she does it more for me than for herself

[Rhodie]

I'm not sure why I get excited when my wife has been with another man, but I suspect it has to do with me knowing that I have satisfied her by proxy, in that I have allowed her to be with him, and this has allowed her to be satisfied even though I am not there - sort of like when I stimulate her clit with a vibrator until the pleasure is so intense that she feels the orgasm all the way down to her feet - although the vibrator is a substitute for me, and brings her a pleasure more intense than I can provide with my johnson, I still provide the orgasm she receives from it - when she comes home after her encounters, she is all sexed-up for several days, and her orgasms are easy to provide and more intense than when she has not seen her friend for awhile - She tells me this is so because she knows it excites me when she tells me about what she did and that is a turn-on for her - she even insists she does it more for me than for herself

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