Husbands & Porn??

[girlnboy]

Sounds to me like it is you, that has the issue. Porn is natural. Guys
think sex constantly. Do you think because he married you he died and went to heaven? Just because your married doesn't mean you can tell
someone how they should live! Accept this or you will be divorced later.
Hubby will cheat if you put up a fight. Use the porn as a tool to learn what he likes about sex. Look at this site with him discover both of your own desires.
Share them with each other. He will masturbateI say HOOTERS today... HOOTERS tomorrow...

[TipsyDipsy]

Sounds to me like it is you, that has the issue. Porn is natural. Guys
think sex constantly. Do you think because he married you he died and went to heaven? Just because your married doesn't mean you can tell
someone how they should live! Accept this or you will be divorced later.
Hubby will cheat if you put up a fight. Use the porn as a tool to learn what he likes about sex. Look at this site with him discover both of your own desires.
Share them with each other. He will <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_64' target='_blank'><A HREF="http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_64" target="_blank">masturbateI say HOOTERS today... HOOTERS tomorrow...

I agreed with you to the point where you said either allow him to use porn or he'll cheat? That sounds like a threatening ultimatum to me.
And its no good telling her to visit these sites with him and find something for her to enjoy because I don't think even he would like that since he's making it his mission to not include her. That's why she's so upset because she has actually lost her husband to porn. He's using it all the time instead of going to her. Perhaps if he toned it down slightly and spent half of his sex life in their bed she would be a little more understanding and open to including porn in their marriage.
He's banned sex with her to use porn instead so does that give her the right to cheat? She doesn't say that she doesn't like sex. In fact she wants it but he's not giving it to her at all so you can't blame porn becoming the home wrecker in her mind then really can you.
This topic is not about porn being used within the sex like of a marriage it about it being used instead of one.

[PleaseDontYell]

Hi there. My name is Sol. I am new. New here, but not to the world...I've been around a while. Most of my time has been while married to my wife, who I love very much. She is a real pistol, but neither of us is as young as we used to be. We used to lead a very active sex life, sometimes several times a week, and even several times a day on occasion. That had sort of trailed off for us. My wife wanted me to try viagra and other stiffy pills, so I did, and that helped somewhat, but she was afraid that I would have a heart attack because I was out of breath. I didn't have the heart to tell her it was because she was on top of me and she was knocking the wind out of me. You see, the rather petit woman I married has blossomed a bit. She is now close to three times my size, and she only liked to be on top. Finally I had to tell her, which let to an all night eating binge, after which we sat down and talked about what we should do.

The answer came during a trip to the health club when one of the guys pointed out a gentleman named Mighetto, who was known as the "c*ck doctor." They said he was very good at this sort of thing and they were right. We talked for a long time, about me and my wife, and how things had changed over the years, and about my wife's sensitivity to discussion about her weight. He said that I didn't need medicine, I needed visual stimuli. He spoke to my wife about it, and once she calmed down, we agreed to try it.

Things haven't been the same since. When my wife is in the mood, she lets me know in her own subtle way (i'm kidding a bit, she was never very subtle), and I go read some a magazine for a while (and between you and me...NOT just for the articles). We're back to several times a week, which at my age is a minor miracle. She even buys the porn. There have been times when I'm tired...just plain tired...but she puts the magazine in front of me and says "look at this" and I just can't help it....

Oh gee, I started this response as a testament to why porn is good but now I see that it is making me feel like a circus animal. I'm not a rabbit, I'm a man and I have feelings. Get your husband away from the porn or the next thing you know, he'll be performing like a trained seal! I love my wife, but now I think she is pulling one over on me when she puts those magazines in front of me.

[k9trainingbiz]

Things haven't been the same since. When my wife is in the mood, she lets me know in her own subtle way (i'm kidding a bit, she was never very subtle), and I go read some a magazine for a while (and between you and me...NOT just for the articles). We're back to several times a week, which at my age is a minor miracle. She even buys the porn. There have been times when I'm tired...just plain tired...but she puts the magazine in front of me and says "look at this" and I just can't help it....

Ironic you chose your username, because I feel like yelling at you!!!!!

Have you not read this post!!!!!!!! Her problem isn't with the porn, it's because HE PREFERS IT TO HER! It's a problem!!!!!

I am happy for your renewed passion, most of the women responding here do not have a problem with it. But the difference between you and the orininal poster is that you get off with your WIFE, not secretly and obsessively from porn.

Hopefully the next man who defends his right to porn will read, understand and respond intelligently to this thread.

[PleaseDontYell]

Ironic you chose your username, because I feel like yelling at you!!!!!

Have you not read this post!!!!!!!! Her problem isn't with the porn, it's because HE PREFERS IT TO HER! It's a problem!!!!!

I am happy for your renewed passion, most of the women responding here do not have a problem with it. But the difference between you and the orininal poster is that you get off with your WIFE, not secretly and obsessively from porn.

Hopefully the next man who defends his right to porn will read, understand and respond intelligently to this thread. [/quote]

I am sorry that I upset you so. Please do not be angry with me and please do not yell at me like my wife does when I don't want to perform. When you were chastising me for not reading the original post and defending my right to porn, did you notice that in my response that I was pointing out that porn was not good? Check that last paragraph and read intelligently about how it is ruining my life.

[Buffy]

Things haven't been the same since. When my wife is in the mood, she lets me know in her own subtle way (i'm kidding a bit, she was never very subtle), and I go read some a magazine for a while (and between you and me...NOT just for the articles). We're back to several times a week, which at my age is a minor miracle. She even buys the porn. There have been times when I'm tired...just plain tired...but she puts the magazine in front of me and says "look at this" and I just can't help it....

Ironic you chose your username, because I feel like yelling at you!!!!!

Have you not read this post!!!!!!!! Her problem isn't with the porn, it's because HE PREFERS IT TO HER! It's a problem!!!!!

I am happy for your renewed passion, most of the women responding here do not have a problem with it. But the difference between you and the orininal poster is that you get off with your WIFE, not secretly and obsessively from porn.

Hopefully the next man who defends his right to porn will read, understand and respond intelligently to this thread.

I dont see anything wrong with this gentlemans post. If this womans mate finds porn more appealing than her, then she should maybe look at her self and her abilities. Porn is like the world cup of sex. The best players, amazing ability and incredible stamina. If someone did not get horny watching porn and prefered there mate then that person is in the same league as the porn stars.

And while I'm at it, your user name could be attacked with considerably more alacrity than "pleasedontyell", like what are you training the dogs to do?

[PleaseDontYell]

Ironic you chose your username, because I feel like yelling at you!!!!!



and by the way, I chose my name because my wife is always yelling at me, so thank you for making sport of it. I will refrain from any doggy style jokes about your name because I know how it feels. (do you clip his nails?)

[essex*girl]

I came up against this problem a couple of years ago. At first I was distressed to see that my hubby had been looking at porn on the computer, so I confronted him and he said that guys like porn and he enjoyed looking at it.

I always try to understand him and this was no exception, so I started to look at some too to see if it did anything for me. Nothing seemed to get me excited in the soft porn stuff and I even searched and looked at the lesbian stuff, I was about to give up and then I found interracial porn. I have never been so mesmerised in my life by the look and size of those monsters and soon I was thinking about it all day.

It wasn't long before I was chatting on line to blackmen and then I got further involved and met some for sex.

Now my hubby is threatening to leave me, I told him I never thought about it until I found out he was looking at porn, so it's his fault..

I'm so caught up in this what can I do?

[k9trainingbiz]

k9trainingbiz wrote:

Hopefully the next man who defends his right to porn will read, understand and respond intelligently to this thread.

My mistake for not expressing that with more clarity. I never implied anywhere on this thread or any other regarding men's enjoyment of porn that they don't have the right to it.

I happen to like it, too, fake as it is on the women's part.

Buffy wrote:

I dont see anything wrong with this gentlemans post. If this womans mate finds porn more appealing than her, then she should maybe look at her self and her abilities. Porn is like the world cup of sex. The best players, amazing ability and incredible stamina. If someone did not get horny watching porn and prefered there mate then that person is in the same league as the porn stars.

You are very obviously not married or have any clue about what constitutes a real relationship/marriage. Believe it or not, it is not based soley on sex. If it's a good, healthy one, great sex is part of it. If it is sick, the sex is either unsatisfying or nonexistent. A spouse definitely does NOT have to be in the same league as a porn star to be preferred. If one chooses fantasy the majority of the time, not to mention ALL the time, there is something very wrong. This man is coming home to watch it at lunch, for christ's sake. He is obsessed and mentally disturbed. But you still don't seem to grasp that part, only men's right to porn. Don't they teach reading and comprehension in school where you are?

For pleasedon'tyellatme: Your situation isn't equivalent to the original poster's - your wife obviously prefers to have sex with you instead of W**nking to porn obsessively. Most men would be grateful; consider yourself lucky. If it's a problem, try talking to her about it and coming to some kind of understanding.

And while I'm at it, your user name could be attacked with considerably more alacrity than "pleasedontyell", like what are you training the dogs to do?

I never "attacked" him about his user name, merely remarked about the irony of it. Look up irony as you obviously don't understand the definition.

As far as your comment on my name, I wouldn't expect you to be witty enough to come up with something original and creative. Very predictable and boring. *yawn*

[Tracy Edwards]

Men are more visual by nature than women. That's why it's always the man that wants to leave the lights on during sex. I find magaziness like Playboy tolerable. But publications such Fat Asian Cum Gobblers cross the line for me.

[essex*girl]

Men are more visual by nature than women. That's why it's always the man that wants to leave the lights on during sex. I find magaziness like Playboy tolerable. But publications such Fat Asian Cum Gobblers cross the line for me.

Tracy,

You should try black dicks white hoes

[Buffy]

Hey Essex*girl!

What's it rate?

[PleaseDontYell]

For pleasedon'tyellatme: Your situation isn't equivalent to the original poster's - your wife obviously prefers to have sex with you instead of W**nking to porn obsessively. Most men would be grateful; consider yourself lucky. If it's a problem, try talking to her about it and coming to some kind of understanding.

Close, but no cee-gar, little lady. What I said was that my wife was using porn as a weapon against me, to make me perform involuntarily at her whim. If you equate that with something for which I should be grateful, your comprehension is a bit foggy. Of course it is a different situation than that of the original poster's, hence the subject line "a different view of porn." Again, perhaps your comprehension is a bit foggy. Perhaps a trip to the "Anal" thread is in order, to clear that head up.

[k9trainingbiz]

Close, but no cee-gar, little lady. What I said was that my wife was using porn as a weapon against me, to make me perform involuntarily at her whim. If you equate that with something for which I should be grateful, your comprehension is a bit foggy.

If you wouldn't quit contradicting yourself, it would be possible to comprehend. Make up your mind.

He said that I didn't need medicine, I needed visual stimuli. He spoke to my wife about it, and once she calmed down, we agreed to try it.

Things haven't been the same since. When my wife is in the mood, she lets me know in her own subtle way (i'm kidding a bit, she was never very subtle), and I go read some a magazine for a while (and between you and me...NOT just for the articles). We're back to several times a week, which at my age is a minor miracle. She even buys the porn. There have been times when I'm tired...just plain tired...but she puts the magazine in front of me and says "look at this" and I just can't help it....

Does this sound like a complaint? Excuse me, but I see nothing in your post about her using porn as a weapon against you, nor anything about "performing involuntarily" at her whim. BTW, how does one get a man to "perform involuntarily" without a hardon? Doesn't it take sexual arousal to achieve and sustain that? Hmmm. I don't believe you are being raped. You can, after all, say no once in a while.

Oh gee, I started this response as a testament to why porn is good but now I see that it is making me feel like a circus animal. I'm not a rabbit, I'm a man and I have feelings.

First it's a miracle your sex life returned and all of a sudden writing this post you decide you are a "circus animal"? Come on.

Get your husband away from the porn or the next thing you know, he'll be performing like a trained seal!

That's just it - he DOESN'T perform with her; only by himself. Haven't you learned yet what her problem is?

Of course it is a different situation than that of the original poster's, hence the subject line "a different view of porn." Again, perhaps your comprehension is a bit foggy.

Again, you are mistaken. The name of this thread is "Husbands and Porn". My comprension remains intact.

Perhaps a trip to the Anal thread is in order, to clear that head up.

I agree. Would you like a referral?

[PleaseDontYell]

He said that I didn't need medicine, I needed visual stimuli. He spoke to my wife about it, and once she calmed down, we agreed to try it.

Things haven't been the same since. When my wife is in the mood, she lets me know in her own subtle way (i'm kidding a bit, she was never very subtle), and I go read some a magazine for a while (and between you and me...NOT just for the articles). We're back to several times a week, which at my age is a minor miracle. She even buys the porn. There have been times when I'm tired...just plain tired...but she puts the magazine in front of me and says "look at this" and I just can't help it....

Does this sound like a complaint? Excuse me, but I see nothing in your post about her using porn as a weapon against you, nor anything about "performing involuntarily" at her whim. BTW, how does one get a man to "perform involuntarily" without a hardon? Doesn't it take sexual arousal to achieve and sustain that? Hmmm. I don't believe you are being raped. You can, after all, say no once in a while.

Yes, it does sound like a complaint. Here, let me spell it out for you sweetie. "There have been times when I'm tired...just plain tired...but she puts the magazine in front of me and says 'look at this' and I just can't help it...." Now, what you are seeing there cutie is someone saying that the horrible porn is causing an erection that I did not want, and it was started by my wife putting that horrible porn in front of my face. You didn't hear me saying "honey, we've already driven the tuna truck to pork town four times today, could I see some more porn so we could make another trip?" Still experiencing a bit of cognitive dissonance? If so, let me know and I will go letter by letter next time. As far as saying no once in a while, let me give you some advice about getting older. Never waste a hardon and never trust a fart. I don't know how much time I have left on this earth. When I get a hardon, I put it to good use. The only problem is that I seem to be being manipulated into getting them through the use of that horrible porn.

Oh gee, I started this response as a testament to why porn is good but now I see that it is making me feel like a circus animal. I'm not a rabbit, I'm a man and I have feelings.

First it's a miracle your sex life returned and all of a sudden writing this post you decide you are a "circus animal"? Come on.

On what? See, I told you I was trained!

Get your husband away from the porn or the next thing you know, he'll be performing like a trained seal!

That's just it - he DOESN'T perform with her; only by himself. Haven't you learned yet what her problem is?

It's always about you isn't it? Don't you know that we have feelings too?

Of course it is a different situation than that of the original poster's, hence the subject line "a different view of porn." Again, perhaps your comprehension is a bit foggy.

Again, you are mistaken. The name of this thread is "Husbands and Porn". My comprension remains intact.

Again, it's always about you isn't it? Here it is very slowly for you . Look up at the top of the post that I first made and you will see these words: "Post subject: A Different View of Porn" I know this is a hard concept for some little ladies to grasp, but sometimes, other people have different viewpoints. Sometimes when they do, they title their posts with some variation of the words "different view."

Perhaps a trip to the <A HREF="http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_64_255">Anal</A> thread is in order, to clear that head up.

I agree. Would you like a referral?[/quote]

Ah yes, now we see the teachings of the "I know you are but what am I" School of Argument. Bravo. This is more exciting than porn!