Is flirting cheating?

[Guest]

I was out having drinks with some friends the other nite, and 2 of the ppl I was with happened to have dated in the past - my friend debbie and a good buddy john.

They're both in relationships now, but they flirt like crazy. I know them both, and neither would ever physically cheat, but I felt like they were both kinda testing the limits.

Now, I am good friends with one ex, and I know that we're SO over our relationship that we're super comfy...but not quite like john and debbie. Is this appropriate:

1) They were talking about when they used to have sex, and he asked her if she used to orgasm.
2) We went back to debbie place and they cozied up on the couch and fell asleep.
3) They flirt like mad - he teases her and tells her that she's madly in love with him.
4) They started to smoke, and he tells her that she's hot when she smokes.
5) They play flight and pull hair, etc....and he calls her baby and hon.

I mean, it was all totally cute...but the rest of us were like....what would her bf and his gf think! Are they just really comfy, or this odd?

I dont' know but it just made me sort of uncomfortable.

[niki22]

I personally think it's wrong, but it's also not really your place to say/do anything about it.

My rule of thumb about cheating is don't do behind his back what you wouldn't do in front of him.

[JamesWard]

Niki that is a great rule



I would say cheating is defined within each relationship some allow greater boundries some don't. Communication in a relationship is key to make sure noone is confused.


Since you have no idea what there partners think about flirting really not a big or anything you should do or say

[quietgrrl]

ya, to me that's sutble cheating...but it could be worse

[HYDE]

no flirting isn't cheating, having sex behind your partners back is cheating.

[Pink Blues]

Well...if I were the gf...I think I would Knock him into the next century for being a complete ass. But that is just me folks...we're talking about them.

Guide by personal higher self: Would I do this in front of H, W, GF, BF? If the answer is NO...then you probably shouldn't be doing it.

If they can act like this in front of bf and gf ... and they are okay w/ it...well I guess all is okay. Of couse...I wouldn't be but yet again that is me. I would knock the snot out of both of them and then flush them down the toilet but ... once again that is just me.