I just don't know what to think...

[volleyball56]

ok..me and my boyfriend have been going out for like 2 months and a couple of weeks, and i think that maybe during the summer we might have sex, but im kind of young. The thing is, my best friend is one of those "no premarital-sex" kind of people, and I can trust her with everything and I tell her everything, but I think it'd be kind of hard telling her that I had sex with my boyfriend. Me and my best friend have had the "our views on sex" talk, and I've always had to lie to her telling her that I'm a premarital sex person. But honestly, I think that if you're truly in love with the person and you care for the person and you've been going out for a decent amount of time, then it's ok. I mean, I love my boyfriend so much. I would do just about anything for him. And I have to be honest, I probably would lose my virginity to him if we were going out for a long enough time, I'm thinking after about 7 or 8 months, but most likely after a year. We've done a lot, well I mean, no 3rd base or anything. But, I'm still not quite sure what i should do. I need someone's point of view on this.

[RobertJ]

I had the same dilemma when i turned 18 and fell inlove with the most ravishing intelligent woman i've ever known.

I was premarital sex hater till i really realized i have no value in marriage. I would do it for the tax breaks really.

Do what feels right to you. You love him, take the chance, i just hope he doesn't hurt you. If he does, you'll learn and live on. Be happey and good things will come to you. Just don't be afraid to live and love.

Unless you're 13, then keep those goddamn legs closed!

Damn kids and their F******.

I hope i could help.

Robert

[MarriedMom]

13?? Jeez. I was 15 when I lost my virginity, and regret it to this day. How about waiting until you're 18 at least. There's no shame in holding out on your first time having sex.

And volley, as far as lying to your friend about your beliefs, you're not being much of a friend if you're not being honest with her, or especially with yourself. She may not agree with you, and she may find what you have to say somewhat unsettling, but if she finds out you've been lying to her the whole time about how you feel about premarital sex, she may not respect you as much for thinking you have to be someone you're really not.

Be honest, and remember, everyone has a different opinion on the matter. You don't have to follow the herd all the time. Wouldn't you be mad if you found out she had been lying to you about something just for the sake of making you feel better?

Just a thought.

MM