I am married and i think she is hitting on me...

[confusedmarried]

I really would apprecaite some advice.
Im 25, although i don't look it, and Im married.

I frequent this bar few times a week, and often my husband comes too.
Now i don't know if people know we are married or boyfriend and girlfriend, i dont often wear my ring because it's too loose since i lost a bit of weight.

Anyway this woman, she cant be more than 21 started in the bar a few weeks ago. At first she kept staring at me, it made me feela bit arkward at first, and I thought perhaps she just didn't like me. I twasn't staring from a far either, she would walk right over to me and stare.

So anyway I hardly know this girl from Adam, and now she is talking to me all the time, being really friendly. She always serves me at the bar too.
She chats about what i like doing, where i go out, asking me all the time when am I coming in (to bar) next.
She usually waits until I am on my own, like last week at lunchtime she was watching then came over and sat next to me and started chatting telling me all sorts.

On friday night though, I saw her, and she was not working, but with her friends. She kept looking over, i tried to pretend i didnt notice her, but then my husband went to the bar and i saw her coming striaght over.
She was preening her hair and she was very animated, talking really quickly and stuff. I saw her checking out my body a lot, but i know women do this anyway, straight ones too. So my husband was coming back over and she kissed me on the cheek, but it was just that bit longer than you would do to your mate...

Now intuition is telling me she really fancies me, but i have never had a woman acting this way before, and find it bizarre, mainly because i am with someone i guess. My husband has even commented on how she is with me.

I would be lying if I say i didn't like the attention.

Can anyone please advise on this?

[biwifesman]

How do you feel about it? Are you interested in her, in the possibility? Or are you uncomfortable?

How does your husband feel about her?

Communication between all three of you would straighten this matter out quickly, one way or another. So get started, find out and good luck!

[Blue-eyed doll]

Dear married. I thimk you have already made up your mind. If this lady were a man, all the things she has done would certainly convince you that the person was trying to make a pass. In fact, it sounds like she is begging!. And the fact that you are going back there when you know she will be there is proof positive the feeling is mutual. I would suggest that you go the next time you are sure she will be there and when your husband is not with you. Take this opportunity to sit in a quiet corner with her and ask just what her intentions are and how you feel about it. I would also encouage you to be bold. Suggest that you and she go away for a weekend, just the two of you, and experience your first encounter with another lady. If your experience is the same as mie, you will be blown away with how beautiful, how passionate, how erotic and how utterly pleasureable it can be. Perhaps you might invite her over to your house for dinner one evening before getting with her, just to see how your husband likes her.

Blue-eyes.

I really would apprecaite some advice.
Im 25, although i don't look it, and Im married.

I frequent this bar few times a week, and often my husband comes too.
Now i don't know if people know we are married or boyfriend and girlfriend, i dont often wear my ring because it's too loose since i lost a bit of weight.

Anyway this woman, she cant be more than 21 started in the bar a few weeks ago. At first she kept staring at me, it made me feela bit arkward at first, and I thought perhaps she just didn't like me. I twasn't staring from a far either, she would walk right over to me and stare.

So anyway I hardly know this girl from Adam, and now she is talking to me all the time, being really friendly. She always serves me at the bar too.
She chats about what i like doing, where i go out, asking me all the time when am I coming in (to bar) next.
She usually waits until I am on my own, like last week at lunchtime she was watching then came over and sat next to me and started chatting telling me all sorts.

On friday night though, I saw her, and she was not working, but with her friends. She kept looking over, i tried to pretend i didnt notice her, but then my husband went to the bar and i saw her coming striaght over.
She was preening her hair and she was very animated, talking really quickly and stuff. I saw her checking out my body a lot, but i know women do this anyway, straight ones too. So my husband was coming back over and she kissed me on the cheek, but it was just that bit longer than you would do to your mate...

Now intuition is telling me she really fancies me, but i have never had a woman acting this way before, and find it bizarre, mainly because i am with someone i guess. My husband has even commented on how she is with me.

I would be lying if I say i didn't like the attention.

Can anyone please advise on this?

[HYDE]

Dear married. I thimk you have already made up your mind. If this lady were a man, all the things she has done would certainly convince you that the person was trying to make a pass. In fact, it sounds like she is begging!. And the fact that you are going back there when you know she will be there is proof positive the feeling is mutual. I would suggest that you go the next time you are sure she will be there and when your husband is not with you. Take this opportunity to sit in a quiet corner with her and ask just what her intentions are and how you feel about it. I would also encouage you to be bold. Suggest that you and she go away for a weekend, just the two of you, and experience your first encounter with another lady. If your experience is the same as mie, you will be blown away with how beautiful, how passionate, how erotic and how utterly pleasureable it can be. Perhaps you might invite her over to your house for dinner one evening before getting with her, just to see how your husband likes her.

Blue-eyes.

wow your so f**ked up.
it souds like your telling her she has to be bi and have sex with this woman even though shes married.

aslo married do you want sex with this woman or is it you just like the attention?

[confusedandmarried]

Ok well since then, i guess things have stepped up a gear.
Last week I saw her a few times, one night i had a huge row with my husband, and i was upset. She happened to see me waiting for my taxi and asked me back to her house. Maybe because i was crying i dunno...
i told her i had to get home to my husband, and she was shocked to put it mildly that i was married, she thought i had a boyfriend.
Anyway after that we met up for drinks, and it was really cool. had a nice time.
Yesterday i was out with my friends, and she was touching my hips and when i went to the toilet she passed me and held my hand.

I can't stop thinking about her now, and I am so confused as to whether i fancy her, or I am just loving the attention...

HELP. How do you distinguish?

[HYDE]

I think this girl is playing Mind Games on you.

[confusedandmarried]

ok, appreciate your input hyde
can i ask why you think that is?

[HYDE]

Well when you went out with her how did she acted?
Details woman!!!!

[Blue-eyes]

Hi Married. You should stop and do some serious thinking. You mentioned having a big row with your husband. Was this because of the girl at the bar? If so, you had better be very cautious. A few years ago, Forum Magazine ran a survey and asked the women readers what were their favorite fantasies. Of those who responded, 76% said " Having sex with another female". And if you read through the messages in this website, you will see there are many women who have the same idea that you do. So you are certainly not alone.
But would you throw away a devoted husband, a happy home and a lifetime of security? What would this girl at the bar offer you. A few hours of pleasure, but nothing else. Think of all the blessings you have with your husband. If you still would like to explore your bi feelings with this girl, first have a long talk with your husband and assure him that this would have no adverse effect on your love and devotion for him, nor would it in any way affect your marriage and home. Be sure that he understands that if he understands your feelings and he is agreeable for you to be with this girl, that he will be an important part of it and that he will be there. After all, you may find that after being with this girl that sex with her is just not that satisfying. I enjoy being with another lady, but my husband is always there (almost always, and if he isn't he always knows about it. I do not cheat on him). But for me, as pleasureble and passionate it is for me, I still am not satisfied until my husband and I have intercourse afterward. We are both so turned-on, it is the greatest sex imaginable! That is just such a total feeling of completeness that I feel with him that I can never experience with a lady. Be sure your husband understands that being with thie other girl will be more like foreplay and a turn-on for both you and your husband, and he will be more understanding. But if he is still against it, just tell the girl that it will never happen. It isn't worth throwing away a life of love with a devoted husband, a happy home, and a lifetime of security.
I wish you the very best of luck. You can PM me if you wish.

[confusedmarriedq]

My husband has noticed the way she is with me, and has told me she fancies me. At first he was all excited, saying all of us should do something about it, but lately he doesnt seem so happy, and I asked him the other day if he was jelous and he said yes.

I've told the girl quite a lot, i guess too much for the amount of time I've known her. She knows we are having major problems with our marriage, she just says, "oh you'll be fine, you'll work it out." I don't really get the impresion she likes talking about me and him too much, as she always changes the subject.

[HYDE]

Forum Magazine ran a survey and asked the women readers what were their favorite fantasies. Of those who responded, 76% said " Having sex with another female".

the 25% are real women.

[Guest]

Hi Confusedmarried.. Any further developements? Or have you decided your husband is so much against it that it is not worth the risk? Or is it that you decided to go ahead and be with her, and haven't had any time to check the Message Boards since? Any news you can share with us?
Best wishes and good luck.