Ivan Diederhoff wrote:The Colonel wrote:Ivan Diederhoff wrote:The Colonel wrote:would you actually do that to your kids?
Colonel, I hold a certain level of skepticism when it comes to doctors. One month they are telling you eggs are miracle food, the next they are saying they are deadly. Circumcision is pretty much in the same boat with eggs. Before I made the decision, I would try to read up on the current pro's and con's to it, to make the best decision I could. My whole thing, as is yours, is about choice. You don't want someone telling you what is best in the raising of your child, neither do I. I don't have kids atm, but if I did, like I said, anyone getting in my face about it, better have a lot of friends at hand.
Some people do need to be told how best to raise their kids. So I disagree with you there.
No names mentioned, I see. You're a class act, Colonel!
Well you might guess the names I might be talking about, but in general I was referring to those who simply don't think about being a parent and just do what they damn well like.
Relating this to the topic, I really do not believe that parents have the right to do this to their children. If it is about religion, then how can a baby choose what religion, if any, to be in? The child cannot be presumed to be of his parent’s religion. That is absurd.
If it isn’t about religion then it as also absurd to do it without their consent. Some of the reasons I’ve come across are, to put it politely, ludicrous. The one that really astounds me (which Fred subscribes to) is the principle that boys should look like their father “down there”. Why? That doesn’t make sense to me. Why should my boys’ penis’ have to look like mine? Is it really a big deal? It is a lame idea.
Without doing into very much detail, I think it may have been a good idea to have had all my boys circumcised at birth. But, the one thing I cannot reconcile is the issue of consent. I really cannot place myself in that position, where I irreversibly alter their genitals without permission. I do not believe I have that right over their bodies. To illustrate this idea, I do not like tattoos, and of course, I would not tattoo my children. However, it is possible that some, or all, of them may get tattooed – even with objections from me. I would be thinking of their best interests, but at the same time, I would have to respect that it was their body – which they are at liberty to do as they wish with. If a parent has a right to alter their children’s genitals, what other rights must they have? It is this logic which says abortion is OK.
The issue for me is this. If one is left uncircumcised, then that person can choose to dispose of their foreskin if they wish. If they are circumcised, they cannot have anything replaced.
If it was somehow possible to re-grow a foreskin (I am not talking about foreskin restoration here, I mean literally re-grow it, like hair or fingernails) then I certainly would have had all my boys circumcised. They could then “opt out” if they wanted when they were older. The fact this is not possible prevents me from doing it. (Really bad example I know, but I hope my meaning is clear – that since one cannot “opt out” they should be able to “opt in” for themselves.)
I have no issue with circumcision in general. If one wishes to be – that’s fine. If any of my boys want to (one has shown an interest) then they can. But it must be up to them.
Widening the issue out, I believe it is important for parents to give children as much choice, freedom and control over their lives as possible. This is not to say the parenting should be slack, but so they can make their own decisions. I do not believe in being a dictator to one’s kids. Half the things I have allowed my kids to do my father would have killed me over. That is why I think some people do need to be told how to parent.