the
Anal thing, you can't hold that against her,
Anal isn't like pussy it hurts the firs few times around, takes a while to get used to, and needs a lot of prepping time like playing around her asshole with your fingers so that she even feels the excitement in that region. Imagine if she was like hey it turns me on if i was to shove a big fat
dildos
If you want her tot try new things you need to subtly ease her into it, so she warms up to the idea. Theres lots of stuff on the internet where you can find out how to do that.
As far as the licking thing goes i agree with what the other guys had to say..you just have to let it go.