I need your thoughts

[Timber]

After you break up with someone you start to see realise things you did not previously see. But there I still questions I cant find an answer to, such as:

1)If infatuation, rather than love, is causing enough destress after a break up to make you depressed, is it any easier to combat? How do you tell the difference?

2)Is it pathetic to still be thinking of your first proper girlfriend all the time, six months after breaking up, or natural?

3)Would you ever dump someone in quite a cruel way to punish them?. For example, you felt they were losing interest in the relationship? (I was the one dumped by the way)

4) If you think you love someone is it worth losing face to try and save what you once had, even if there's only a one in a million chance?

I would much appreciate any thoughts even if they're yes/no answers.

[Obvious]

1. Infatuation vs love - They both result in similar strong feelings. Infatuation being the stronger, love the deeper. No it doesn't make it any easier, bc you are still caring about her.

2. No it isn't pathetic if you still love her - which you seem to. You will be able to stop thinking about her when you fall in love with someone new.

3. No, you'd dump them in a cruel way if you didn't care about them & wanted to hurt their feelings to p1ss them off.

4. No, bc she doesn't want to know. If she did want a relationship with you, then she'd have one. She isn't woth the time & effort that you'd put into it.

Sorry about the clinical answers but I am a bloke...

[hi_there]

Why do you choose to view it as "breaking up" (an end) as opposed to a change? No reason you can't continue having a relationship just because it would be a different type of relationship is there? Or are you falling for people that hold no interest for you and for whom you have no concern outside the all important relationship???

I personally would never want to "dump" someone. It doesn't sound like a nice thing to do to anyone you care about. I've always preferred to communicate and if we were unable to find happiness together then continue to be close and supportive throughout the change. Wouldn't you want the same level of respect and sharing?

Wonderful friendships can be forged with people who really know and care about one another. Where's the downside in that?

Life is what you make of it and it's only negative if you choose to let it be.