Partners' Arse

[Guest]

last night we were making love...he is my first partner but i'm not his first he's been with other girls...last night he wanted me to be on top but i was afraid to because i really don't know what to do...he then got upset because i always pull out telling him i need a break and that upsets him...i don't know it just seems like all he wants from this relationship is sex...i try to talk to him and ask what he's feeling but he won't tell me...am i straining the relationship??

[sangria75]

In my opinion, if anybody's straining the relationship it's him.

When two people make love, whether it's their first partner ot their hundredth, they should show consideration and patience. Sounds like you're not gettig much of this from your boyfriend. In my experience, those men who make you feel comfortable and at ease in the bedroom makethe best lovers.

If the sex is the best bit about your relationship then you maybe need to look at what you want out of a relationship. Imagine you take the sex out of your relationship, what would be left? and who's getting what out of the relationship. thats how I usually make that kind of judgement.

If you have concerns like you have he needs to be told, whether he wants to hear it or not.

I'm certainly not the best person to be giving advice, but I wish you happiness either in or out of your relationship.