What should I do?

[Davill]

I've been attending a scheme designed to help you get back to work by providing a work placement and met a lovely young women. We're on different placements in the same town and only get to see each other every Friday morning when we're supposed to look for a job. Over several weeks we've chatted about the usual things and been friendly, but in the last two or three weeks we've been flirting - mainly lingering eye contact and plenty of smiles. I definitely like her and felt that she was getting to like me, so I spoke to her alone and suggested we get togther sometime and maybe have lunch during the week. She said she'd like that and it would be nice to get out of the office. That was on Friday, then yesterday, Monday, when I phoned her at work and asked if she'd like to come to lunch, she said she didn't feel like it, would rather do her own thing and did I mind? Being polite, I said no, but am now left wondering, what's happened? I haven't told her I like her, but I'm thinking when I see her next Friday I do tell her exactly how I feel, just so she's in no doubt. Ultimately it would be great to have her as a g/f, but I'd like to get to know her a little better first, which was the point of having lunch together. I not sure how confident she is, she seemed relaxed when we talked, but I've noticed her fingernails are all chewed up like she constantly bites them.
Anyone have any thoughts?

[bex0301341]

i think you shouldnt over analyse it. maybe she wanted to do her own thing for legitimate reasons that were nothing to do with you. ask her out again and see what happens. if she says yeah great and see how it goes dont rush into anything, just enjoy flirting etc.
if she says no again, leave it for a while, "casually" bump into her and ask her for a quick coffee? she says yeah great, she says no, then leave it. if she says no cos shes not free but wants to, she probably will suggest another time.
i wouldnt go into a ,massive confession of undying love,you may scare her away. it is nice to see a guy who cares though - good on you!

ps. i know im a girl i just clicked on 'post since last visit' and have just this second realised that this is in the just for men thingy - if you dont wanna read it cos it from a girl just ignore it sorry....

[Billings]

Wait a couple of weeks. She may have PMT. Women are more likely to be receptive in the first half of their cycles. The hormones can change a friendly woman into a bad-tempered or emotionally cold woman. The 'friendly' hormones are there for 2-3 weeks in the first half of the cycle. Then the 'unfriendly', depressive hormones kick in two weeks before the period.