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[MCA400]

Ive been talking to this girl for a few weeks now and was certain that she had something for me, we have alot in common, however niether of us are single and both in a relationship of 2-3 years, both having problems so we have to try and hide the fact we are talking. The other day i was speaking to her and told her that 'i was thinking about her' when i went out with my girlfriend, it may not seem like much but she has never said anything about it and wheni said it she changed the subject...we still texts and we have seen each other as friends a few times but i dont know if telling her that was a bad idea.

Can anybody tell me if her saying nothing about it is a good sign or a bad 1?

[Cambridge]

Ive been talking to this girl for a few weeks now and was certain that she had something for me, we have alot in common, however niether of us are single and both in a relationship of 2-3 years, both having problems so we have to try and hide the fact we are talking. The other day i was speaking to her and told her that 'i was thinking about her' when i went out with my girlfriend, it may not seem like much but she has never said anything about it and wheni said it she changed the subject...we still texts and we have seen each other as friends a few times but i dont know if telling her that was a bad idea.

Can anybody tell me if her saying nothing about it is a good sign or a bad 1?

She likes you, but she is feeling (rightfully) guilty about your connections and her connections. If you want to be clean and approach a woman, get rid of your gf. It’s a weak person who needs a bridge to the next landing. Go as an independent man…and be a man.

And if she isn’t willing to get rid of her bf, abandon her. Don’t play games with fidelity…it’s a character flaw that you don’t want in your life.

[Verve]

You guys might become f*ck buddies, is that what you want?

[MCA400]

It’s a weak person who needs a bridge to the next landing. Go as an independent man…and be a man.

i would of done however i go on holiday with her in a few weeks and cant afford to cancel now :S

and verve not that i would complain but a proper relationship would be preferable

thanks for the replies

[Verve]

i would of done however i go on holiday with her in a few weeks and cant afford to cancel now :S

Whoa!.... You can't leave yet....

So MC lets say things are pushed to a level of intimacy. Have you decided what you will allow to happen?

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[MCA400]

well recently i have tried to stop speaking with this other girl just incase something like that happened...i still care for my gf i just feel i want to move on now (wont bore with details)

[MaxtheGaul]

If you want to move on, then what's stopping you - a holiday! I think you need to be honest with your g/f.

[Bouncy]

You can't dump your girlfriend because you have a holiday planned and can't afford to? Oh you're a keeper for sure.

[MCA400]

right well im not going to explain everything because i would be here all day typing ... also i am not on here to talk about my girlfriend, and bouncy you have absolutely no idea what my relationship with her is like so please keep out of this and the crap messages.

[Bouncy]

Of course I have no idea what your relationship is like. You can't and won't share that info but you expect everyone to give you sage advice over a situation they have no knowledge about. You should go into politics.

The bottom line is, you have a girlfriend you're not happy with and you're flirting with someone else on the side. You told Girl2 you were thinking about her. She didn't say anything about it and changes the subject when you bring it up. And you don't or can't see what that means.

As I said, you're a keeper.

[Bouncy]

Btw, If you title a thread "reactions", don't expect them all to be butterfly and flower responses. Some people actually live in a world called Reality.

[MCA400]

fair enougth...i guess i did think that people would reply with everything i wanted to hear, not the right way of going by it and i guess ill think about it if anything like this happens again (preferably not)

[Cambridge]

It seems like bouncy has more-or-less nailed you. I mean, you haven’t got anything to say except, ‘shut up…I didn’t want to hear that.’

Well, fair enough, too. God forbid it does not happen again…but if it does, you might try to listen to people who give you wise advice. That’s what you have gotten.

[MCA400]

sorry, i understand how i reacted was wrong however i havn't continued to argue and fight my point..so i dont understand why you have to come into the topic. i have realised and admited to it, what got me annoyed it the little comments like 'your a keeper' not the fact that bouncy pointed out about my holiday, ive already thought about that myself.

again thank you for the advice and opions on it from everybody thats replied.

[Verve]

well recently i have tried to stop speaking with this other girl just incase something like that happened...i still care for my gf i just feel i want to move on now (wont bore with details)

I don't know why you always try to run. We are here to help. This is a forum and if you could please share the boring details. In them we might find more insight to assist you. Just speak from the heart. What's wrong with your relationship? Why do you want to move on?