Advice/Thoughts pleeease!!! :(

[Jag2008]

Hello! I'm totally infatuated with someone in work and for the last three weeks we've been emailing everyday (he always emails me first and was the one to start it) and he knows I like him as he's been told and I've tried to drop hints/be flirty. Most of our emails r just chatter and occasional . and there has been one or two (literally just one or two!) cheeky comments too but I don't really seem to be getting anywhere. I don't know if he likes me and he's SO shy in person its crazy like he avoids eye contact and that and it's adorable but quite frustrating.. I'm beginning to dread the weekends (never thought I'd say that!) because that's when we don't speak as we havn't swapped numbers and I dont' really know what 2 do as i'm rubbish when it comes 2 boys!! What would you do? Any advice/thoughts? Thanks xx

[Guest]

occasional . rather**

[Guest]

occasional ba n ter!!

[take this]

take this non-advancing boy bull by the horns!
swap tele numbers, tell when you expect him to call,
and wait until he does!
seriously; - he's likely one of the guys that
*has had SO MUCH Rejection',
- he'll NEVER ASK Again! You Must IOW!

[glidewest]

blokes love being asked out

signs of shyness (him) can sometimes be the same as fancying the pants off someone (you)

just drop it in casual like, as you're leaving at the end of the day say something like.. 'I'm going for a drink, fancy coming?'

takes the pressure off you and him

if he says yes.......enjoy!!
if he says no.......his loss!!

[Guest]

Well I've hinted a fair bit and today tried to be flirty but like he just doesn't seem to respond to it or anything. Hes absolutely gorgeous so I don't understand how anyone that hot can be so shy! He KNOWS I like him again so don't see what there is to be nervous about asking me for my number or for a date as its obvious i wouldnt turn him down! I'm nto really the sort of person that could just ask a guy out, i'm not shy but I can be quite insecure when it comes to guys!

[Guest]

Well I've hinted a fair bit and today tried to be flirty but like he just doesn't seem to respond to it or anything. Hes absolutely gorgeous so I don't understand how anyone that hot can be so shy! He KNOWS I like him again so don't see what there is to be nervous about asking me for my number or for a date as its obvious i wouldnt turn him down! I'm nto really the sort of person that could just ask a guy out, i'm not shy but I can be quite insecure when it comes to guys!

[Verve]

It might just be an office flirt and he has a girlfriend. He might not be ready to take the next step. Plus if you don’t have a number, even a cell number that’s a bad sign. Like everyone said its time for you to make a move. That’s the only way you’ll know where you stand.

If he says yes... are you ready to mix your personal and professional life together.

[glidewest]

I'm nto really the sort of person that could just ask a guy out, i'm not shy but I can be quite insecure when it comes to guys!

strangely you'll find that's how most people feel, male or female! like I say, keep it as a casual suggestion. He may well fancy the pants off you, but he's sooo nervous he's clamming up and that's coming across as a lack of interest.

you could try and engineer a situation at work, get him to help you out with something, and then when he's done it, suggest you buy him a drink after work to say thanks?

make the move, if he says yes you'll feel great about yourself! if he says
no then F**k him, he's missed out on going out with a fiesty, confident lass! I've been asked out by women before, it's great, a real ego boost and compliment!!

[Guest]

It might just be an office flirt and he has a girlfriend. He might not be ready to take the next step. Plus if you don’t have a number, even a cell number that’s a bad sign. Like everyone said its time for you to make a move. That’s the only way you’ll know where you stand.

If he says yes... are you ready to mix your personal and professional life together.

Noo he doesn't have a girlfriend, we're on each others facebook (says he's single) etc and people he knows in work have told me he's single. Thanks for the suggestions and advice anyway guys, I'll try and see how it goes in the week and if I'm still getting nowhere I'll try and pluck up the courage to ask him out!!

[glidewest]

I'll try and pluck up the courage to ask him out!!

JUST DOOOOO IIIIIIIITTTTTT!!!

walk up to him first thing monday morning and tell him that you see from his facebook page that he's single, and you can't beleive that's true, and that you'd very much like to do soemthing about that situation by taking him out for a drink because you think he's such a dish!!

[Guest]

haha as much as i'd love to.. I just don't have the confidence to be that forward.

Today.. he emailed me again and we were chatting and talking about siblings and he said he has two but they aren't as good looking as him but then was like haha sorry about the joke and I said well I'd find that hard to believe or something (coz he seriously is like a better looking Usher!) and he didn't even acknowledge my comment!!!

[glidewest]

jeeeeez! they're talking about their families now!

JUST DOOOOOOOO EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEET!

[Verve]

jeeeeez! they're talking about their families now!

JUST DOOOOOOOO EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEET!

You better listen to glidewest... Don't come back to FF and post until you do.

[glidewest]

I suppose it does get easier as you get older, I remember flunking out on a few crushes in my youth and looking back how easy it would have been with a bit of experience!