I have Been trying hard. I still cant get pregnant!

[jaz20]

how come i cannot get pregnant.I mean me and my bf have been trying for the past 6 months.I've had my first child,but were planning to have another,but a girl this time.The first time i fell pregnant was planned too,but my bf wasnt prepared now he wants another baby

Does smoking ciggies and weed actually affect chances of becoming pregnant?not that i smoke weed but ive been a smoker since i was 15 even when i had my first child.Im 21 years old now and my sons 3..Have my chances degraded?

[aggie]

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My name is Jodi I had an abortion about 7 months ago and when the time comes when I wanna have a kid I dont know if ill become pregnant. I dont wanna disapoint my bf when were ready to have kids. Its just ive heard stories of people having abortions and then not getting pregnant again when they really want a child. What should i do!! Help me.....

Help you????

The help you need cant be found here female! You had an abortion and you brush it off with your next comment... "when the the time comes... when I wanna have a kid"........

Are you insane? The gift of being fertile isnt a "if I wanna" deal... it's a gift... and God is a very fogiving soul... good job too cause if it was me I'd kill your eggs now... you speak of abortion like I speak of pouring away the last bits of a coffee.....

And just to add to what you said.... "I dont wanna disapoint my bf when were ready to have kids" .... If you are worried about dissaponting a man when it comes to children then you have a LOT to learn....

I suggest .... whatever your age is now.... wait another 10 years before trying for another child... and think hard about what you are doing... perhaps you might even be blessed with a child from an orphanage... maybe you can (heal) by adopting a child someone else might have killed via abortion....

I wont appologise for being so harsh....... your little post was vile!

hi
im from the uk and i think its totally disgusiting what you said to that girl about having a abortion! i had one too i was 15 and it was 5 years ago this year and i still suffer to this day about having one, do you know its a hard decision to make? and you go through hell having one? you should think twice about judging people because if you was in that situation what would you do?

[Guest]

hi im shondell i'm trying to get pregnant for four years after 4 abortion and have not get pregnant i'm scared i might not get pregnant ever again i want to no if there is any chance for me please dont judge me for what i did i had no choice. i no what you are going through.

Im starting to see a connection between abortion and trying to get pregnant... maybe all of us cannot have kids??

I had 4 abortions too when I was in my teens. I am now 31 and have been TTC for 8months & cannot get pregant. I use to get pregnant at the drop of a dime... now, I can't get pregnant anymore. I really think God is punishing me for my mistakes as a youngster.

[The Colonel]

hi im shondell i'm trying to get pregnant for four years after 4 abortion and have not get pregnant i'm scared i might not get pregnant ever again i want to no if there is any chance for me please dont judge me for what i did i had no choice. i no what you are going through.

Im starting to see a connection between abortion and trying to get pregnant... maybe all of us cannot have kids??

I had 4 abortions too when I was in my teens. I am now 31 and have been TTC for 8months & cannot get pregant. I use to get pregnant at the drop of a dime... now, I can't get pregnant anymore. I really think God is punishing me for my mistakes as a youngster.

You killed 4 of your kids.

You don't deserve any. I hope you can't get pregnant.

Me? The father of four boys aged 18 to 7, and with another baby on the way.

Does that make you think about what you've done? You killed an entire family.

Don't judge you? One might be able to forgive one, but two? three? four?

No way.

[C*]

This is the first time I have visited this site and I dont think I ever will again following the comments I have read on this subject today. Who the hell are you people to make these damning comments to these women who I have mulled over this decision and the results of it for months, even years after the abortion took place. To all the women reading this who have ahd an abortion at some stage - I support you. It must have been a very VERY difficult decision to make, one which was highly influenced by your personal situation at the time, who you were with, and the financial complications which all come into effect. I applaude you for having the sence to know it was not the right time for you to bring an unwanted child into this cruel and nasty world we live in which is full of hatred and largely influenced by money and status. It is easy for ignorant people such as yourselves to write such hurtful comments without taking into account the emotional after affects that these women have gone through following the abortions. Many women have to have counsilling following this. Is it not more important for a child to be born and brought into this world with the love, support and guidance all childern deserve rather then be brought into a world where they are not wanted.

To the Colonel - You evil b*sterd. Who do you think you are to make this judgement. You do not know anything about the situation this woman was in at the time and the infulences she was experencing. You might be able to order your family around but the whole wide world is different. Keep you dalming insults to yourself.

Goodbye site. I will get womens advice elsewhere.

[Guest]

This is the first time I have visited this site and I dont think I ever will again following the comments I have read on this subject today. Who the hell are you people to make these damning comments to these women who I have mulled over this decision and the results of it for months, even years after the abortion took place. To all the women reading this who have ahd an abortion at some stage - I support you. It must have been a very VERY difficult decision to make, one which was highly influenced by your personal situation at the time, who you were with, and the financial complications which all come into effect. I applaude you for having the sence to know it was not the right time for you to bring an unwanted child into this cruel and nasty world we live in which is full of hatred and largely influenced by money and status. It is easy for ignorant people such as yourselves to write such hurtful comments without taking into account the emotional after affects that these women have gone through following the abortions. Many women have to have counsilling following this. Is it not more important for a child to be born and brought into this world with the love, support and guidance all childern deserve rather then be brought into a world where they are not wanted.

To the Colonel - You evil b*sterd. Who do you think you are to make this judgement. You do not know anything about the situation this woman was in at the time and the infulences she was experencing. You might be able to order your family around but the whole wide world is different. Keep you dalming insults to yourself.

Goodbye site. I will get womens advice elsewhere.

Yay, another woman with the balls to tell it like it is. There are too many misogynists on here.

[Guest]

People choose terminations for their own reasons, it's hypocritical to insult women who make this decision is between she or the father. In most situations, it's just the girl on her own dealing with the trauma and not all women take at as lightly as those using it as a form of birth control. Some women are left in a dilema because their boyfriends are unsupportive. Ignorant hypocrites should just live in ignorance and not bother commenting here.

[p*****off lady]

I am a 39 year old mother of 1 child I have been trying for a 2nd child for 4 years I have had a mis-carriage 18 months ago. When i was 16 i got mixed up with a much older man with a child and partner, but at such a young age i was easy influence . I became pregnant to him and he didn't want to know and I was at collage. I came to the decision to have an abortion which wasn't an easy one. I now feel i am been punished for what i did all them years ago. But if i had chosen to have the baby it would of been brought up with no dad and its mum on benefits. Instead of a mum and dad in a very happy marriage which i have now. YOU TELL ME WHAT DO YOU KNOW UNTIL YOU ARE IN THE POSITION

[jodie smith]

sorry to hear amount your mis-fortune - good luck for your future xxbooke

[cflo]

hi im new too all this but would love some advice?.............i have been on the pill for 5years and last december2007 i decided to come off it as me and my partner want to start a family......my periods were all over the place and im only just getting back to normal now, it sonly the last 2months that we have been religously having regular sex but still no positive pregnancy test? any advice would be appreciated. xx

[la_chica1980]

I THINK ITS UNFORTNATE THAT SO MANY GIRLS & WOMEN HAVE GOTTEN ABORTIONS, BUT IM NO JUDGE & I HAVE NOT EVER BEEN IN THAT SITUATION SINCE I HAVE USED BIRTH CONTROL & CONDOMS SINCE I BECAME SEXUALLY ACTIVE- SO I WOULDN'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT "SITUATION"!!
I DONT THINK ITS RIGHT TO HAVE A CHILD IF YOU HAVE NO "MEANS' FOR THEM EITHER......... I THINK PEOPLE WHO VOICE THEIR OPINIONS, ARE DOING JUST THAT...VOICING THEIR OPINIONS!!!
DONT GET MAD CAUSE YOU CANT HANDLE SOMEONES OPINION, DONT AIR OUT INFO _ IF YOU DONT WANT TO HEAR IT...!!
I AM 28 YRS. OLD AND HAVE WANTED A HUGE FAMILY ALL MY LIFE, AND I HAVE WATCHED MY FRIENDS HAVE KIDS, EVEN WHEN THEY NEVER EVEN WANTED KIDS, TREATED THEM HORRIBLY, I HAVE BEEN RAISING N CARING FOR MY 3 GODDAUGHTERS SINCE THE MOM DIDNT EVEN WANT THEM( ONLY NEAR TAX SEASON).....BLAMED THEIR "BABY DADDY'S" FOR THEIR PREGNANCY -WITHOUT TAKING PART BLAME THEMSELVES... FRIENDS ABORTING THEIR "MISTAKES" FRIENDS SAYING "KIDS ARE A PUNISHMENT" AND HERE I AM 28 YRS. OLD KIDLESS -BEEN TRYING FOR 7 YEARS, SINCE I WAS CURSED WITH A MESSED UP REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM, WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THIS '""PUNISHMENT"""???
**POINT IS ... PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE- WE ARE HUMAN WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES WE ALL ARE DIFFERENT AND THIS IS WHO WE ARE ...FULL OF FLAWS AND IF SOMEONE WANTS TO GO SCREW WITHOUT PROTECTION THEN LET THEM SLAUGHTER THEIR BODY TO GET RID OF THEIR PROBLEM, SINCE IT WONT BE OUR PROBLEM,,,AND FOR THOSE WOMEN LIKE ME WHO AREN'T MOTHERS BUT WANT TO BE, I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT, THIS WORLD IS VERY MUCH POPULATED - ADOPT IF YOU CAN , THERES PLENTY OF CHILDREN THAT NEED YOU!!!
****JUST VOICING MY OPINION**[/b]

[xXx.Lesley.xXx]

Why the caps lock? For a 28 year old you sure need some help with gramma, punctuation and spelling

I THINK ITS UNFORTNATE THAT SO MANY GIRLS & WOMEN HAVE GOTTEN ABORTIONS

That should be I think it's unfortunate that so many girls and women have had abortions.

Not rocket science

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[Ivan Diederhoff]

hi im shondell i'm trying to get pregnant for four years after 4 abortion and have not get pregnant i'm scared i might not get pregnant ever again i want to no if there is any chance for me please dont judge me for what i did i had no choice. i no what you are going through.

Im starting to see a connection between abortion and trying to get pregnant... maybe all of us cannot have kids??

I had 4 abortions too when I was in my teens. I am now 31 and have been TTC for 8months & cannot get pregant. I use to get pregnant at the drop of a dime... now, I can't get pregnant anymore. I really think God is punishing me for my mistakes as a youngster.

You killed 4 of your kids.

You don't deserve any. I hope you can't get pregnant.

Me? The father of four boys aged 18 to 7, and with another baby on the way.

Does that make you think about what you've done? You killed an entire family.

Don't judge you? One might be able to forgive one, but two? three? four?

No way.

Wow, Colonel! If Fred could see you now, he'd give you at least one nut back from your castrated liberal status. Way to J U D G E!

[sandra tait]

hey people are right your still young and you should go out and enjoy your life abit more and it is kinda unfair for the child but then again im in the same situation im only 17 and me and my partner are trying i did fall pregnant at the age of 16 and i was ever so happy but then i miscarried it was heart breaking well for any age really but aspec when your only 16 i think you and your boy friend need to sit back and talk and think thing's thru make sure your 100% sure your doing the right thing but if it come's to the point that you are 100% up for it dont let know one try and bully you to change your mind remember it's you your boyfriend and the baby in this relationship not you your boyfriend and the baby and the world but i would seriously give it a think thru