was having sex worth it-i need some help

[corecoreb4u]

my best friends a guy (drew) and lets just say he fits the bad boy roll 100%, he smokes (pot), drinks, and has sex all the time. that just so happens to be the oposit of me i dont do any of those things and were still best friends. we talk to each other about everything and he never preasures me into anything. but about a week ago i was staying the night at his house along with 10 other people(to sum it up it was more like the band geek siting with the crowd of schoolyard bullies except they are all used to me by now because drew is their leader like figure and im alwayse with him) and i have no idea why but i started drinking with them and then i got high with them. i was so messed up by then and all the other people were going to sit outsid and i didnt want to go because i didnt feel like walking all the way out there so drew told everyone that he would stay with me since it was my first time doing all this stuff and he wanted to make sure i was ok..
i remember him laughing at me when everyone had went outside and saying that i was such a light weight. and since i was already laying on his bed he came and layed by me and before i knew it we were in a hard makeout session on his bed and umm.......well we all know how i love to go into detail but im going to leave this part short......we had sex.

i woke up the next morning with the biggest headach and my cellphone ringing as loud as posible and of course it was my mom telling me that she was 5 min away to be outside waiting so i put all my clothes on and grabed all my stuff without telling any body bye (of course they were sleeping though)but still i had to have the act perfect for my mom.

Sooooooooo back to my main problem its been a week and i havent called him and he hasent called me this is the longest ive been away from him since the 5th grade and were now going into the 10th grade. i miss him so much but i dont know what to do. i realy hope we didnt ruin our friendship.
ANY ADVICE!!

SORRY ABOUT THE LONG DETAIL I JUST WANTED EVERYTHING TO BE CLEAR SO I CAN GET GOOD ANSERS THANKS

[Cambridge]

my best friends a guy (drew) and lets just say he fits the bad boy roll 100%, he smokes (pot), drinks, and has sex all the time. that just so happens to be the oposit of me i dont do any of those things and were still best friends. we talk to each other about everything and he never preasures me into anything. but about a week ago i was staying the night at his house along with 10 other people(to sum it up it was more like the band geek siting with the crowd of schoolyard bullies except they are all used to me by now because drew is their leader like figure and im alwayse with him) and i have no idea why but i started drinking with them and then i got high with them. i was so messed up by then and all the other people were going to sit outsid and i didnt want to go because i didnt feel like walking all the way out there so drew told everyone that he would stay with me since it was my first time doing all this stuff and he wanted to make sure i was ok..
i remember him laughing at me when everyone had went outside and saying that i was such a light weight. and since i was already laying on his bed he came and layed by me and before i knew it we were in a hard makeout session on his bed and umm.......well we all know how i love to go into detail but im going to leave this part short......we had sex.

i woke up the next morning with the biggest headach and my cellphone ringing as loud as posible and of course it was my mom telling me that she was 5 min away to be outside waiting so i put all my clothes on and grabed all my stuff without telling any body bye (of course they were sleeping though)but still i had to have the act perfect for my mom.

Sooooooooo back to my main problem its been a week and i havent called him and he hasent called me this is the longest ive been away from him since the 5th grade and were now going into the 10th grade. i miss him so much but i dont know what to do. i realy hope we didnt ruin our friendship.
ANY ADVICE!!

SORRY ABOUT THE LONG DETAIL I JUST WANTED EVERYTHING TO BE CLEAR SO I CAN GET GOOD ANSERS THANKS

So you are 16-years old? Listen to your mother. God, she must be frantic.

[Verve]

Take a deep breath....

Your an idiot. And at 16 you should know better. Don't be a "donkey" please... You let your so called best friend get you into a situation and he f*cked you... you didn't f*ck him... He f*cked you. What if he had let his friends f*ck you since you were out of it? You better have had enough sense to know if you used protection. Don't be stupid.. You don't bring a butter knife to a gun fight! You are out of your element... You can be friends from a distance.. learn how to wave!

Just so you know this is the kind version of my post... I decided to take it easy on you. Your 16, you'll be 18 in 2 years... You have to use your head hun. Don't put yourself in a situation like that again or your ass will be gang banged... unless you've already been and you don't remember.

[MaxtheGaul]

Verve, that's bit strong, but actually I agree with you.

[Cambridge]

I agree too. Right on, Verve. Give her the verbal spanking she deserves. God, can you imagine the panic attacks this ditzy kid is giving her mother?

[Verve]

It’s amazes me sometimes how society is so nonchalant in this era as though we are living in past centuries. The world is getting worse and people believe their living in Disney World.

CoreCore if you are out there just please use you intelligence. That’s all I ask.

[ballswell]

It’s amazes me sometimes how society is so nonchalant in this era as though we are living in past centuries. The world is getting worse and people believe their living in Disney World.

Yeah, it's like everyone wants to be the spoiled rich kids in the tabloid, accept they're not rich! I've let go of so many friends from high school mostly because of this kind of behavior. They're fun as S***, but to them it's not a moment, it's the life.

[Verve]

Ballswell, where the hell have you been! Welcome back!

[stephanie99]

i cant not belive the replies that you guys have written. what you never got up to anything when you were young.????? Jesus crist shes asking for your advice and your all acting as though shes the devil. what she did was nothing compared to things ive heard people YOUNGER do. being that old is an age to experiment and get things out of your system. i think your all pathetic for saying the things you did.

ANYWAY

this may be a bit late but i think you really need to talk to him about what happend. it will only affect your frienship in a bad way if you let it you know. ive done a lot of things like that and i dont want to call them stupid things like all the other replies here becuase theyre not. without doing these things you wont learn or grow. if you never made mistakes you would stay the same person forever and never experience anything.

so i want to say that nothing you did was wrong. the only thing you can do is learn from what you did!! if you want any more advice or want to talk about things just message me ok?!

hope everything goes well

xx

[Verve]

Hi stephanie99, and welcome to the forum. So from your childhood experience how many times have you passed out unconscious from herbal abuse around multiple men and are unaware as to whether or not you might have been gang banged?

[love2lick]

to me alarm bells are ringing here.....if he hasn't called....is he guilty about something that happened while you were passed out?...he probably thinks you will get him done with rape since you were unconcious.

tbh, if he is "that type of guy" then why do you want to be with him anyway?. I have heard this story many times from young girls and recently one of them found out they had had an STD...for 2 YEARS!! now she has to try and "remember" all the boys she had sex with while she was drunk etc...

beleive me you don't want to be in the same situation.....forget about him and stay away from those situations where you will be drunk around people you don't know or trust.

[stephanie99]

Hi stephanie99, and welcome to the forum. So from your childhood experience how many times have you passed out unconscious from herbal abuse around multiple men and are unaware as to whether or not you might have been gang banged?

my childhood has nothing to do with this and i am not the one in question here. all im saying is that she was asking for advice about what to do not what she should have done. everyone makes mistakes. and jumping down her throat when she probably feels like crap is not at all constructive. besides from the way she is feeling now she most definatly isnt going to be in that same situation again.

[Verve]

what you never got up to anything when you were young.?????

That means you've lived in your youth... Thought you would have liked to share since there might be some similarities.

I can tell you honestly that at FF you won’t always get what you ask for. You’ll get more and then some. Everyone has their own opinion and style. You wish to hand her some sugar cookies that’s fine. I choose to be honest and blunt. I refuse to be soft on her. Do your thing and I’ll do mine.