I need some advice, 16 and PREGNANT!!

[Sweetone07]

Well yea as my subject says I'm only 16 and already having a baby. I've been with the same guy for 2 1/2 years and he's totally excited about the whole deal, but me....im scared shitless. Its a MAJOR responsibility and I don't know if I can handle it. I'm TOTALLY AGAINST abortion and I don't want to put my baby up for adoption. My parents know and are being totally supportive. I just need some advice and some stories of what people been through to maybe help me through this a little better! Thanks for reading this and PLEASE respond with some help or suggestions.... bye and thank!

[The-Prophet]

well if you don't want to have an abortion and don't want to have it adopted then your going to have a baby and with a boyfriend whos not running a mile things might be a bit better however you might want to consider having it adopted or an abortion as i mean your very young i think we might have some people who had children that young though so listen to them when they arrive

[Sweetone07]

well im really confused, but if i put my mind to it i KNOW i can take care of this baby, it'll be hard at 1st, but you can do anything you set your mind to.

[The-Prophet]

do you want the responibility that young, unless you both get jobs your going to struggle to make enough money to support this in anyway, he does seem nicer than most but its a very big thing, perhaps you should ask you mum to get you some counciling about it so you can see what you should do. i'm 16 myself and i wouldn't want a kid but if one happend to come along and i was the father i know i would want to care for it. remember its his kid too so talk about it with him as well

[Jessy_Riot]

first off, congratulations!
i know you might not be excited just now, but this is a joyous event!
yes, this is going to be very difficult for you. if you two don't have jobs now, you need to get them... and you need to face the facts.
you are 16 years old. you're going to have to go to school, and face all the jerks judging you.
you're going to be in pain, you're going to have a huge tummy.
you're going to need to change diapers, take your baby everywhere (or get a sitter)
no more partying, no more wild stuff...
but all of that won't matter when you're holding your baby after you've brought him/her into this world.
you and your boyfriend have created a human life!
i think that's just amazing, and i really want to have a baby with my boyfriend. i'm 16, and he's going to be 18. we both want a baby very badly... but like i said, it'll be hard.

hope that helped...

Jessy <3

[eunce]

Hey sweetone, congrats on being positive about it. You are obviously a pretty amazing person. Don't worry about being a bit scared: I think that that is normal, no matter what situation you're in!

I got pregnant unexpectedly at the start of this year and my first reaction was to totally freak out. It took me a while to calm down and now I am feeling absolutely fine (I'm 24 weeks). Remember that there is so much going on hormonally as well as with all the lifestyle changes that it is hard to take it in all at once. Abortion wasn't an option for me either and there is no way I would ever adopt. It is hard to accept the responsibility and the change that it will make you your life.

Anyway, I haven't had my baby yet, but I am just letting you know that I went through a hard time too, and now I am feeling fine and looking forward to it.

Good luck.

[Guest]

Well yea as my subject says I'm only 16 and already having a baby. I've been with the same guy for 2 1/2 years and he's totally excited about the whole deal, but me....im scared shitless. Its a MAJOR responsibility and I don't know if I can handle it. I'm TOTALLY AGAINST abortion and I don't want to put my baby up for adoption. My parents know and are being totally supportive. I just need some advice and some stories of what people been through to maybe help me through this a little better! Thanks for reading this and PLEASE respond with some help or suggestions.... bye and thank!

its gona be hard but i just have to say u will get through it ...my sister was a very young mama....our parents and her bf were there for her through the whoel thing...she was SCARED

[Raspberry_Ripple]

:cry: well im really confused, but if i put my mind to it i KNOW i can take care of this baby, it'll be hard at 1st, but you can do anything you set your mind to.

I think you have answered your own question. Just get as much advice as you can from doctors, midwife, etc... They may be able to put you in touch with a local club in similar situations.

Have a hunt around and I hope that things work out for you.

Take care and good luck
xx

[guest4]

:cry: well im really confused, but if i put my mind to it i KNOW i can take care of this baby, it'll be hard at 1st, but you can do anything you set your mind to.

My sister had her baby at 16, missed out on her young adult life, going out with friends, having girly holidays, college, university etc etc shes is now 25, single and just about starting to enjoy life again.

I myslef am 22 and had my baby a year ago. As much as everyone gives support i really think you should consider the possibilitie of maybe what you want to do with your life. Do you really want to be a mother? Have you sat down and thought about things? To a certain degree your freedom is taken away, no longer can you just get up and go out, you will have someone else to think about? do you want that at such a young age, you yourself have not enjoyed life to the fullest.

i myslef have a little girl, I love my daughter with all my heart but if i could i turn the clock back i really do wish i had waited longer. I was with my partner for eight years, he has now left and i am trying to juggle motherhood, a large mortgage, a full time job etc etc and believe me its hard, very hard. I see my friends going out each weekend, going away on holiday, ok its not the bee all and end all, but when you have not expierienced it you envoy the life you have not got.

My advice is sit down and really think about it, your 16, you have a great future whatever you decide but i know the child less one will be much more rosier if i was in your position at such a young age

[xXx.Lesley.xXx]

Sweetone07 are you in the UK? If you are there is young parent groups you can go to and talk to other people in a simular situation to your own.

I was 17 when I had my 1st baby. He wasn't planned but I don't regret him at all.

Also don't feel pressured into finding a job, cos you don't need to at all. Raising a child is a full time job itself.