my husband wears panties bras and stockings

[confused lady]

My husband has started wearing lingerie for arousal and sex.Should I let him make love wearing a bra and stockings?

[steve20]

That's really up to you. I mean, far be it from me to tell him what to wear during sex, but also far be it from me to tell you what to enjoy. Is your husband transexual?

[Relationship Thinker]

You should go for it if you both love it! It is not going to hurt anything because crossdressing is only being different like all the different sexualities out there. Many people enjoy crossdressing.

Maybe you would like to see this. Which is an article for wives of crossdressers:

http://gendertree.com/Helping%20Wives%20Of%20Cross%20Dresers.htm

[gbridges]

There is actually nothing wrong with your husband making love to you while he is wearing stockings and other feminine articles of clothing. Nothing at all.

This is totally a matter of your personal preferences. Most women would think that a man who wanted to wear these things while having sex with his woman was quite strange, but then again, there are women who don't mind it. There are even some who actually LIKE this. They either find it amusing or they are even slightly aroused by the sight and thought of it.

It depends how you feel about your guy dressing like a total sissy. My girlfriend Dee doesn't care what I wear. I sometimes put on some high-heels and fish-net stockings when we F***. It's just fun and it makes me feel sexy. She laughs at it.

It's all in fun I'm sure. Just decide if you are ok with it or not, then tell him how you feel about his dressing up.

[LaceyGurl]

Men being aroused by wearing feminine clothes, especially undies, is much more common than most people realize, and it is also a totally harmless little "hobby".

There are a lot of misconceptions about men who wear women's clothes. One is that they are gay or bisexual, or have a desire for a sex change, etc.

In the vast majority of cases, these assumptions are totally unfounded. A preference for any type of chothing is not related to sexual orientation. In fact most of the statistics claim that at least 90% of men who crossdress are totally straight and either married or in a strong hereosexual realtionship.

The percentage of crossdressers who are bi or gay is about the same with men who do not crossdress at all.

Wearing women's undies is more common among men than complete crossdressing (like with makeup wigs, dresses or skirts, shoes, etc), and this is because a woman's underwear is very intimate and men get turned on by contact with these items that have been in such close contact with a woman's most private areas.

Some of us crossdressers are gay for sure, or bi, as in my case, but we're definitely in the minority.

From your description it seems as though your husband feels comfortable and secure enough in his relationship with to open up and be honets with you about his desires. This is a great compliment to you!

Accepted with the right attitude, this could spice up your sex life immensely, and you can both have fun with it.

It causes no harm to anyone, he enjoys it and you can too, and it can be your little "sexy secret".

Good luck and let us know how things go.

I'll be happy to answer any questions you might have about crossdressing to the best of my ability. I've been crossdressing for many years and have had the opportunity to talk with lots of men and women about the subject.

[ladystrange]

If anyone is interested we have created a group specifically for straight men whom wear lingerie. Located at this address. For Couples, men and admirers to discuss and share this topic.
http://www.ladystrange.com/straight_men_and_their_lingerie.htmThank you

[sobeone]

To each his own! But in my book you are in the closet or just came out. That is my opinion.However,as long as the female is aware of the above mentioned then no harm done.But sobeone still does not agree.I help manage a salon and all of our gay employees agree with what i just posted.I mentioned it and they started laughing and became flamers!They said that they first started like that.Please keep in mind that i just don't want the female to get hurt and surprised if she finds her local firefighter in the sack with her mate.If she is fine with that than I suggest to max out the victoria secrets card!later

[Bouncy]

My husband has started wearing lingerie for arousal and sex.Should I let him make love wearing a bra and stockings?

If you're comfortable with it, I don't see why not. If you're not comfortable with it, you should tell him so.

[mande]

I'm kinda kinky, but honestly, I have never understood this at all.
What does the guy get out of it?
Does he secretly wish he were a woman?
If I were a woman and found this out about my man, I'd be horrified.
I'm not passing judgement here, I just don't get it, that's all.
You guys who do this, what do you get out of it? How does it make you feel?

[Tina TV]

What does the guy get out of it?

A feeling of security and comfort. Some even get a direct sexual kick.

See many other posts on the subject including one by LaceyGurl further up this thread.

Does he secretly wish he were a woman?

NO

I'm not passing judgement here,

No ? It just sounds like it.

[Mrs Nicko]

Why don't you start wearing big boots, a workmans hat and lumberjack shirt and say you want to shag whilst wearing them. Tell him you want to dress as a geezer when you shag. It might put him off a bit.

[RandyK]

It was a few months after we were married before my wife found out that I was curious about women’s clothes, and a couple of years before my curiosity became a real desire to crossdress.

Cathy was quite upfront about it. If I wanted to wear women’s clothes, do it! But, if I wear women’s clothes, I wear women’s clothes, no back and forth, not men’s clothes sometimes and women’s clothes other times.

I chose panties and all my men’s underwear were thrown out.
I chose tights and hose and all of my men’s socks went with the underwear.

Later on, I chose camis and all of my men’s tee undershirts were gone.
I wanted a pair of L.E.I. low-rise jeans, and there went my Wranglers.

I have no pajamas, only nightgowns.

These decisions were mine, not hers. Cathy merely said that if I want to wear these clothes, those will be the clothes I wear.

Of course she was comfortable with me dressing this way. It wouldn’t work otherwise.

If you’re comfortable with it try something similar. Suggest to you husband that if he wants to wear panties and stockings, is he willing to wear those clothes exclusively?

[Newboy]

I confessed to my Wife that i had tried on her tights and stockings, and she felt invaded. I guess thats because i had done it in secret. I would rather it was something we shared as foreplay, as i get a real sexual high from wearing tights. Its the feeling of the material on my skin, and feeling enveloped in them, but i wouldnt feel this way if they were a male garment, its simply because they're feminine. Because they are worn by women to attract a mans eye and to make her alluring to touch. I get swept up in the whole aura of them. I wouldnt want to wear them instead of my own clothes, as i would be desensitised to them. But i would like to help my wife over the trauma of finding out her 'normal' husband has a kink.
I really love her, but i think she found it a little too wierd.

[Dianne]

I really think that people need to use their brains a little with this topic. I say that blatently because it's so true. We are born without clothes, girls are not born wearing high heel shoes, and neither are boys wearing boxer shorts, so where is the issue I ask???.

Society has determined the clothing which is worn by woman and men and no one else. There is nothing in clothing that derives from nature and is only about what society accepts. In saying that, how does a man wearing lingerie determine his sexual orientation which is supposed from all accounts have been decided genetically at birth???

Women want, do and get away with in society wearing virtually anything they desire, but a man can't???, Is that sexist or double standards or what???. A woman complains that she missed out on her dream job because she is female and all hell breaks loose with sexist issues etc etc why???. She may not have been chosen for the job being female, but she can wear skirts, stockings and high heels as compromise instead which is fair, isn't it, when complaining of sexism???. Can't have everything surely???.

So why would a man want to wear or try on sexy lingerie, some women just can't understand. Use your brains ladies, doesn't wearing lingerie make you feel sexy too. Well, sexy lingerie and clothes have a "big" effect on me, so I would imagine for a man, the effect would be greater. I will ask again ladies, how come you can't imagine why a man would like to experience this???. I would say that you don't want to understand, from the point of keeping anything soft and nice exclusively for your own pleasure. How selfish don't you think????.

Sure I agree that there is no way I would allow my husband to wear a high heels to work, or do the gardening in a mini skirt out in the street, but only for the reason that society would make his life misurable for doing so, which my instincts would protect him from ridicule and say don't.

In the privacy of our bedroom, who cares if he want's to experience the feelings I feel, in fact, it's rather complementary that he does, and rather arousing too. Loving women and needing the closeness of femininty, doesn't sound queer or homosexual to me. I would be more worried if he wanted me to wear work boots to bed and give me Anal. He may be fantasising that I am a guy. That's far more queer and homosexual than a desire to feel what it's like to have breasts and wear a bra.

A desire to be close to and love femininity, how can that be so wrong, you are being silly here ladies, please use your brains and enjoy his respect and understanding of women, and more to the point, that he views women and femininity far more than merely a nice warm hole inwhich to place his penis to achieve an orgasm!!!

I guess some women must enjoy their femininty being defined solely from what lies between their legs. I like to be thought of as a woman defined as something more credible than only that!!!!

[Newboy]

I wish i could explain it like that to my Wife. She just thinks im a sick pervert. Her sex drive is low as it is, and im worried she just won't see me as attractive anymore. Or want to dress seductively either,as she may be worried about being ignored for the underwear. Its not the garments its the fact that they're hers. That its a part of her magic, her hold over me. A part of her seduction. I think she felt like she was just an object after i confessed, and that i was jsut in it for the underwear. What can i do? How can i make her feel empowered and sexy again? I want her to be confident in herself and all woman.