Hello all,
Me and my fiancee have been together for 3 1/2 years, 2 of those years we have been engaged. We have had our fights, the first couple months were rocky, but we always worked things out. We have made plans to get married, have kids, buy a house and just recently decided to go into business together. I have been in college (and not happy with my career choice same with him that's why the business) Last weekend we got into a huge fight over chores, cleaning and me being indepent and not relying on him so much. During this fight, at first i should say, he just told me that he was sick of me and sick of my crap and that i should pack up my stuff and get out. I told him that i would leave, as long as we talked about things and if he told me why. As we talked he said that he has been upset with me for a few weeks and he hasn't said anything, when I asked why he explained that it was the same things as before with me and he figured that I would just smarten up or move out. This is so disturbing, i can't wrap my head around it all. I told him that i was upset and that was the most hurtful thing that he could have done. I (told him) that i feel like the last few weeks and months as far as i'm concencerd have all been a lie. Everytime he told me that he loved me or kissed me it was fake. All of the talk of our future was a fake, and I asked him why he would do that to me, allowing me to give up things, (like my last year of school) to do this business thing with him, all the while, not really caring about me or my feelings. Needless to say, he feels really crapping about it. I love him, and I want to work things out, I told him that i need to know whether he wants the same because i'm not going to waste my time and energy and tears if not. He has said that if I decide to move out and not go on with him that he understands because of the way that he has hurt me, or we stay together. He has said once that he doesn't want to break up, but doesn't say anything like, we can work it out, or whatever. I am so confused, I think (which i also told him) that he does want to break up but wants me to "take care of it" so he doesn't have it deal with it.
I love him so much, I want to work things out, I'm just so confused about him and his actions. There are so many things that would take too long to write here, but any advice would be appriacated. I feel that we can salvage this relationship, but to me it doesn't seem like he wants that. Please help
Thanks
